Help me?

I'm not exactly sure how to help. I've been fortunate enough to have never really come across depression, so I doubt I can be much use, but I think everyone should try to help people in whatever way they can....

I too have times when I wonder if I've been wasting the last few years of my life, and I feel old beyond all 22 of them. I know it's different to what you're going through, but I'm sure there's a time either during, or shortly after, university where everyone wonders if they've been wasting their time.

I find it helps me to clarify my motivation. I'm doing this because........<good thing>. if i didn't do it then......... <bad thing>. That way I can be clear in what I want, whether it be from life in general, from a particular area of my life, or even from this week. I can be prone to getting into ruts of doing nothing, not feeling sociable, not doing uni work, not really doing anything. As hard as it is at the time I think it's best just to make yourself do things. Knowing what you want to do, and why you want to do it helps you , gives you the reason to get out if bed in the morning and get on with whatever it is.

I don't know you, but presumabley you're doing something at uni that's leading somewhere, it's the road onto whatever it is you're going to become. The fact that you're still on that road shows that your time hasn't run out, it hasn't started yet.

People validate their lives in many different ways, some people need to be in love to feel happy in themselves, some need money, some do it through work, some do it through sociability. I think the best thing anyone can do is decide what is going to make them happy, and get on with doing that.

what do you get enjoyment out of in life?
If there is something, do more of it
If there isnt, find something, it will be new and hence might hold your interest

by doing something that you enjoy it will help to take your mind off other stuff that might be going on

Hi...i'm in a rut..interested in anyone with similar experience or who just wants to advise me....have had depression the last few years, i am someone with a lot to give i think, although that sounds corny, and a lot going for me, but i have been living in a fantasy world for years now and at times i really worry about myself..t uni i got into a horrible, introspective, lonely world.it sounds crazy but i used to sit in the same places in town for months on end, contemplating, like 9-5, i know its mad, but when youre down things become this horrendous viscious cycle wheree you feel you've pissed your life away...i feel ashamed of the way i've been living, and i think its seedy. I used to smoke all the time, and drink in the daytime, and all my sexual relationships have all been seedy and empty, with people i didnt respect or care about, i've never had an emotionally meaningful relationship..i lost my virginity to a prostitute. Many who've known me cannot fathom why i'm so self-desructive..psychiatrist says thats depression. I am so not doing myself justice as a person, i was wasteful and self-destructive for years, but i'mlucky in that my uni has been very tolerant because of my medical evidence(ie diagnosis with depression) so i've still got a chance, sometimes i revert back to my behviour though, and i'm ashamed, and i feel old beyond my years and like i dont feel like a 24yr old young man should feel..i dont wanna feel like all my times run out, and that i'll be seen as some nutcase

Step 1, You need some warm weather and sunshine. I know that sounds stupid but thats what you need.

Now, all the advice im going to give you may seem brutal but at least its not fannying around and stuff you cant use to think about change, right.


STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF!!!!!!!!

I think you pitty yourself above all else, do you realise that you are comparing youself to others. You get depressed becuase you see what others have and becuase its not working for you, you think about how you can change it but it never works becuase you find that it could be hard no? And thats where I think you are going wrong. You despair becuase you tihnk it will be too difficult to do.

Now I knwo you are clinically depressed and you should be on medication for that right?

I reckon keep going to the Psyc but also, WAKE UP, SMILE AND STOP WALLOWING IN YOUR SELF PITTY!

If you don't like your behaviour - then stop it. Just stop yourself - again it won't come overnight - but it'll come gradually - and stop being so hard on yourself.

I'm not sure if I've ever been through depression cus I never saw a doctor but certainly went through about half a year wanting to commit suicide - so yeh I'll class that as depression! It's not mad to comtemplate and think lots and lots - I still do that all the time - I'd lie in bed and I'd start thinking all the hardcore stuff - meaning of life and all - and then thinking who I should be, how I should be, and knowing I'm not what I should be and then basically hating myself for it. What you gotta know is you are in control of your life. Listen to this - you're not helpless, you can make a change in your life and only you can change yourself. So make a decision and change. I was in the dumps emotionally, mentally and spiritually for ages cus I thought I couldn't do anything about the state I was in - I thought I *had* to go down under. But then a friend reminded me that's so not the case - I don't *have* to destroy myself.

Make the decision that you will change, whatever it is that you feel you need to change for the better. Then change. Don't expect overnight results it'll never happen - but do expect change gradually.

What got me through was God - and I refused to turn to God for ages cus it'd hurt - but in the end it was Him who got me through. Not sure if you're religious at all but hey if nothing else works, why not try praying and asking God for help? I can say it certainly worked for me.