Ever felt like i'm feeling right now?

In the middle of february, the girl I was in love with felt strongly that me and her should be just mates, and since then I haven't been feeling great.

I know exactly how you feel, my girlfriend of 18 months decided on Valentine's weekend that she didn't want us to be together any more. Things hadn't been great for a couple of months, I wanted to fix things and start again, she doesn't think we can.

The first week or two I was quite a mess, not eating or sleeping, being upset all the time. I'm not exactly how I got on with things, I worry that I'm quite abnormal because I seem to accept and come to terms with things very quickly.

At first I was thinking of ways to convince her to try again. Then I was planning a way that we can be together again in the future. Then I accepted that it's over and I'll never get her back (hope is a terrible thing). Then I thought I'll never love anyone like I love her, she's completely perfect and I'll never find anyone like her. I just sort of accepted that I'm not going to be happy. Now I'm thinking I could be happy with someone else, but I'm not ready to yet.

It still hurts, it will always hurt to know that you love someone that doesn't want you. But if you're able to accept it, it makes it a lot easier to get on with your life.

When we first broke up I missed her like mad. We're on good terms so I wanted to talk to her all the time, even just as mates. But now I don't really want to talk to her. Do you have any resentment towards her? It might sound odd, but it's made it easier for me to make the break because I'm hurt that she gave up so easily and I don't want to forgive her for throwing everything away.

Do whatever it takes to make the break, throw yourself into something else, anything else. As long as you're doing something and not thinking about her, you're making progress.

At the start it's the hardest thing you'll ever do, but when you find a way to accept it, and just let go, it gets much much easier. Until you're almost apathetic about her.

Yeh I felt as though I'd never love anyone else but my ex - I even asked him how I'm gonna meet another "him" I was really upset about it - was nobody's fault though. Later I found out from my friend apparently I didn't smile for a month or two... And yeh I wanted to talk to him all the time after breaking off for the first month or so, hear his voice. Then I constantly wanted to talk to him but on msn.

But no I would NOT encourage becoming apathetic about her and this whole thing. As long as you don't forgive her, you're still hurting, still holding on. And it's not healthy to be numb - it's better to forgive, and move on. If not for her, than for yourself. You need closure, and forgiveness does give that. I'm not saying do it overnight cus that's simply impossible - but gradually, however long it takes don't matter - what matters is you're letting go and you want to forgive her. Might take a week, a month, a year, a lifetime - but you gotta forgive her.

What I dont get is that you said you've never met her...

Is this some chick you chat to on the net or something?

My guess is that this is just a morbid facination and that since you wanted her so much you probably became stalkerish. This is evident in the way that you say you cant imagine spending your life with anyone else and you would do anythign to get her back.

If this is a net thing, remember, at the end of the day you are talking to a computer with someone else on the other end who has time to think and respond to what you say. Integrity is something that you can disreguard.

Is this some chick you chat to on the net or something?

Did you know if she was 'real' or not?
She could have been some girl just making out she was 'someone' else. People on the net don't always tell the truth.
I go into chat rooms for fun and make out Im some person from Austria, and laugh at the stupidity of others, some people are so guliable.
So, if you never met her, you don't realy knwo what she is like.

Yes, but we didn't just talk through the net. We texted each other more than anything, and we also spoke on the phone. I want to forgive her, but it's gonna be really hard. I think that maybe we shouldn't talk to each other for a while, as she might get a new b/f (e.g: the mate that fancies her) and if I found out about that, it would break my heart a hell of a lot more than it already has been broken.

I didn't want to become stalker like, and if I was, i'm sure she would have said something, as she is a honest person. I made that mistake in the past anyway, with a girl i used to have a crush on, and she thought I was too obsessive, and I have learnt from making that mistake...

Because you love them, care about them and think that you can make them. Simple as that.

I take it no one's ever broken your heart then??? Fair enough, my relationship was a net relationship, but I wanted to move away so I could be closer to her. Long distance relationships can work, and it's people and personalities that matter more than looks.