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I'm 16, he's 30

KEEP ANON PLEASE!

I have begun seeing a man, infact I have been for the last ten months. However, he thought I was 20 the whole time we were together - I have now told him I am 16 and we are going to keep things quiet but still give it a try. Do you think this could be a big mistake because we are at different stages in our life? At face value, the age difference doesn't show at all but there are bound to be comments made surely?! Is anyone else in a similar situation?

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Reply 1

*Dreaming*

15

tbh I think the age gap it too big
So were you together when you were 15 then if it's been 10 months? :s-smilie:

Reply 2

shark67

13

These things make me sick.

Reply 3

frogout

4

I'd say do what feels right for you and not be too bothered what other people think. They will think it's well dodgy though.

Reply 4

FyreFight

14

If he goes for girls who look 15/16 at the age of 30, he's almost certainly a closet paedo, but whatever floats your boat. Just don't complain to us when missing children start turning up in your basement.

Reply 5

geminilady

9

its a bit big imo, i would be just wondering his intentions though?

Reply 6

Snookercraze

12

Hate to say it, but that guy you are seeing is twisted and quite frankly a paedo.

Its way TOO large a difference.

*Just my opinion though*

Reply 7

Anony mouse

10

What range of age difference should be the cut off point?

Perhaps the thread starter is mature for her age, both physically and mentally.

Reply 8

Noémie

17

yeah... no. that's just not right.

Reply 9

King4eva

17

gap is too big

Reply 10

ViolatedTreason

13

gap is too big, and you are too young.. simple as.. you have to ask yourself, why is he after someone so young?

is very odd to me

Reply 11

sabka7

yeah...just a tad
too big, i mean

Reply 12

linkdapink

15

A mate of mine looks 16ish, though she's 19, and her "boyfriend" was 28.... and a PE teacher. All of his previous girlfriends were also small (About 5' 2 at the most) and incredibly skinny - a girls figure. Its just not right sometimes! Judge it for yourself

Reply 13

stardustfairy

but... he thought she was 20, so thats only 10 years. my parents started goin out when she was 21 and he was 31 and they're fine, and then if he got attached to her when he found out how old the Op REALLY was, he probably feels bad too, but can't help it. sure, in general it seems/probably is bad, but you gotta look at the individuals in situations like this...if your both happy and are sure of his motives then you shouldn't care what people think. what do your parents say?
:smile:

Reply 14

Absinth

15

Do whatever feels right. You should be able to figure out yourself whether or not he is right for you.

Reply 15

Murray Hewitt

You are 16 so look to the long run if its genuinely ever got anywhere to go.

Reply 16

j1503

woah

......i mean, me and my friends think that seeing a 16 year old is too young and were only 18/19

wouldn't you rather be going out with someone your age that you can relate to, and is at the same stage in life?

he's blatantly abit messed up in the head

Reply 17

ViolatedTreason

13

stardustfairy

but... he thought she was 20, so thats only 10 years. my parents started goin out when she was 21 and he was 31 and they're fine, and then if he got attached to her when he found out how old the Op REALLY was, he probably feels bad too, but can't help it. sure, in general it seems/probably is bad, but you gotta look at the individuals in situations like this...if your both happy and are sure of his motives then you shouldn't care what people think. what do your parents say?
:smile:

the thing is, no-one looks like a 20 year old at 16...