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Well, my life is rubbish.

Anonymous

Great. "Stick it out" being the best piece of advice, I think drowning my sorrows in alcohol for the first time ever or simply going to sleep trying to justify my meaningless existence should do nicely.

OP, basically life is totally pointless and at the end of the day you will just die like everyone else. And then after that probably nothingness. This basically gives you the freedom to do what you like. I think you problem lies with the fact that you feel as though you need to have a purpose. Well you don't. Everything that you think, feel, believe and do is completely irrelevant. So don't worry, nothing matters.

Reply 41

lifeonpluto

Anonymous

Of course she's not. But then, of course, you get a degree, you do postgrad if applicable, then you get a job, a house, and keep at your miserable job until you die at a grand old age of about 70.

What the hell is the point? What experiences are there? Socialising? Socialising has no point to it, does it?

Imagining all this is so much different than actually being there. At this moment you are caught up in negativity..deluded if you like because how do you know that all this will be so bad/boring if you have never experienced any of it before? The negative feelings are just within YOU, they are not a reflection of real life. Real life and experiences are neither good or bad its how you feel about them that determines this. As you gain confidence by being successful and achieving a degree and job you will start to have a more positive outlook on life. Negative outlooks result from unsuccess so you just have to hold on in there until you find your niche.

Reply 42

D R E A M Z

1

Pull yourself together, some people have been through more **** than you and have risen to the top.

Reply 43

Christien

Teenage nihilism is so passé.

Read the sexual assault thread, or the one where that girls mother threatened to 'butcher' her, and get over yourself. Not only are both threads more interesting, but they should give you some perspective on your 'problems'. Unless you're some sort of irresistible Adonis, you will get rejected from time to time. Congratulate yourself on having the balls to even get rejected (because asking a girl out is not the easiest thing in the world)and move on.

You will get into uni, meet new and possibly interesting people, and she'll be nothing more than a footnote to you.

Reply 44

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

You see, I thought that was the case with this girl, and it wasn't. Sucks, badly, you know? Then I think, there's no real point, because no girl's going to like me anyway, I'm not good looking either.

Well I thought this was the case for me. I am not good looking, I'm smart but sort of a geek so I thought I'd never get any girl. I did go out with friends from time to time but never like looking for girls or anything. Then I found her, and if I can find someone that I really like when I thought I wouldn't at all then so can you!

Reply 45

England Captain

13

You guys should consider yourselves lucky that all you have to worry about is getting a girlfriend.

Reply 46

Profesh

20

berryfantastic

if they were obvious the OP wouldnt be complaining of not knowing how to cheer up would he?

but go on. beat me with more 'utterly infuriating, blatant platitudes'

:smile:

Even assuming 'blatant' were synonymous with 'obvious' (which it isn't), your reasoning would still be spurious. But I'll oblige, as promised:

"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."

"Like the elephant, we are unconscious of our own strength. When it comes to understanding the power we have to make a difference in our own lives, we might as well be asleep. If you want to make your dreams come true, wake up. Wake up to your own strength. Wake up to the role you play in your own destiny. Wake up to the power you have to choose what you think, do, and say."

"Life is good, without it we'd all be dead."

"The be-all and end-all of life should not be to get rich, but to enrich the world."

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."

"Seeing death as the end of life is like seeing the horizon as the end of the ocean."

"Learn to get in touch with silence within yourself, and know that everything in this life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from."

"Life does not accomodate you, it shatters you. It is meant to, and it couldn't do it better. Every seed desstroys its container or else there would be no fruition."

"Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance."

"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin — real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

"In the midst of hopes and cares, of apprehensions and of disquietude, regard every day that dawns upon you as if it was to be your last; then super-added hours, to the enjoyment of which you had not looked forward, will prove an acceptable boon."

"In life you find that one of the most desirable qualities you can find in a person is flexibility. The ability to change with changing times, to face adversity with the same attitude one would have in facing victory."

"Don't take life too seriously. You'll never get out alive."

"Life is a whim of several billion cells to be you for a while."

Well, Anonymous, I sincerely hope you're cured now.

Reply 47

Roobagnall

13

Grow a pair and man up.

Your not dying of a horrific diesease. Your not starving all alone. You have food, money and shelter.

Seriously. Grow up.

Reply 48

Anonymous #4

Roobagnall

Grow a pair and man up.

Your not dying of a horrific diesease. Your not starving all alone. You have food, money and shelter.

Seriously. Grow up.

That's pretty rude. I say this as somebody who probably has more experience with this sort of thing than you. I've had major surgery for something which made my survival seriously unlikely, close friends have died and I was raped last year. When I was actually in those situations, I can say it was about on par in terms of crap times to what the Op is going through, which I've also experienced. It was horrible, mainly because of the feeling that I could have done something about it, but was too scared etc, which is extremely frustrating. With surgery, you just got on with what others told you to do, there was no guilt about what you were doing, with OP, there's pressure to change and the feeling that they're the cause of their problems. YOu may now say "yes Op is the cause, so they should sort it", but from Op's perspective now, that's more difficult than most things imaginable. I suggest you grow up. Social rejection is not fun, I've been through it, and the guilt you feel for not sorting your problems, even when it is near impossible to do so, is horrific. this guilt isn't helped by insensitive pricks like you saying they should "man up" and that others have it worse. Loneliness can be worse than most physical pains/bad situations, if they bring about negative chemical responses in your brain of equal intensity. stop looking at people's situations and judging, and look at how they're actually feeling, as that's a far better measure of suffering. with big problems, you have the big thing to focus on, and so perhaps even less feeling is associated, you also have more support from others. IF OP is in a state where they'd be willing to have starvation/disease forced on them (mentioned suicide in OP, when I felt that way, I was certain that i'd like to have it forced on me, I just didn't have what it took to do it to myself, because of guilt at who I'd hurt etc) I think they're entitled to the same sympathy as somebody in one of those situations, since they're emotionally feeling probs far worse.

Reply 49

jomo

1

Aah, a bit of teenage existential angst, good times. :biggrin:

First of all can I just say - little harsh from the people who are posting telling this person to "grow up" etc. Yeah there are much bigger problems in the world but when did that stop any of us ever getting depressed and rambling on about our own lives? Sometimes we just all need a rant, give the guy a break.

Anyway: around a year and a half ago I was pretty much saying everything you've been saying in this thread. And unbelievably irritating people used to tell me "you won't feel this way forever" and "it'll all work out in the end." In the very real danger of becoming similar to these evil patronising individuals, I am going to take up their flag and offer you some cliche advice.

The great thing however is that it is that it has no meaning, there are no certainities - we all have absolutely no idea how it's all going to work out. You have some amazing opportunities infront of you - the problem is you just can't see them. You've been born in a certain place, at a certain time, with certain qualities, a certain look and a certain personality. No one else in the world is the same as you. Aren't you just a little bit intrigued to see how your story's going to pan out - to see what will happen to you, what will be thrown infront of you, what job you'll have, what bizarre people you'll meet, whether Sarah Palin will ever become president, whether you'll be a moody old person yelling at kids in the street, how you'll eventually die?

Have a tantrum. Drink a bottle of whisky. Write some gothic poetry. Go to Thailand. Read some Sartre. Listen to jazz. Then laugh about the bizarre nature of life and just see what the rest of yours has to hold. You've only got one go - don't take it seriously.

Reply 50

TheNightmareSSJ3Broly

But how do you know you might go to heaven?
You could go to hell.
Alas! Only God knows.

Reply 51

j1503

Roobagnall

Grow a pair and man up.

Your not dying of a horrific diesease. Your not starving all alone. You have food, money and shelter.

Seriously. Grow up.

i agree

Reply 52

Roobagnall

13

Anonymous

That's pretty rude. I say this as somebody who probably has more experience with this sort of thing than you. I've had major surgery for something which made my survival seriously unlikely, close friends have died and I was raped last year. When I was actually in those situations, I can say it was about on par in terms of crap times to what the Op is going through, which I've also experienced. It was horrible, mainly because of the feeling that I could have done something about it, but was too scared etc, which is extremely frustrating. With surgery, you just got on with what others told you to do, there was no guilt about what you were doing, with OP, there's pressure to change and the feeling that they're the cause of their problems. YOu may now say "yes Op is the cause, so they should sort it", but from Op's perspective now, that's more difficult than most things imaginable. I suggest you grow up. Social rejection is not fun, I've been through it, and the guilt you feel for not sorting your problems, even when it is near impossible to do so, is horrific. this guilt isn't helped by insensitive pricks like you saying they should "man up" and that others have it worse. Loneliness can be worse than most physical pains/bad situations, if they bring about negative chemical responses in your brain of equal intensity. stop looking at people's situations and judging, and look at how they're actually feeling, as that's a far better measure of suffering. with big problems, you have the big thing to focus on, and so perhaps even less feeling is associated, you also have more support from others. IF OP is in a state where they'd be willing to have starvation/disease forced on them (mentioned suicide in OP, when I felt that way, I was certain that i'd like to have it forced on me, I just didn't have what it took to do it to myself, because of guilt at who I'd hurt etc) I think they're entitled to the same sympathy as somebody in one of those situations, since they're emotionally feeling probs far worse.

Oh shut up.
If all those things are true then i feel very sorry for you but that fact of it is that those things happened to you. Not by choice. But the OP is just feeling bad for himself because he's being lazy and self pittying.

Feeling a bit lonely and doing bad at school the same as parents dying, abuse, rape, homeless ness? No.

Reply 53

Rubix

lol, sucks to be you.

Reply 54

Anonymous #4

Roobagnall

Oh shut up.
If all those things are true then i feel very sorry for you but that fact of it is that those things happened to you. Not by choice. But the OP is just feeling bad for himself because he's being lazy and self pittying.

Feeling a bit lonely and doing bad at school the same as parents dying, abuse, rape, homeless ness? No.

this might come out jumbled, I agree with you in part, but still...

sorry haven't been sitting waiting for reply. I just signed in now and saw this.I'm just saying, have you ever actually been cripplingly shy? It's a very hard hole to climb out of, and it's not just about laziness. also, doing badly in school? that could "happen to you", if you weren't cut out to understand the work being taught to you, regardless of your effort. I've known many people who revised solidly for a year and came out with Cs and fails in their exams, so that can "happen to you", and it may not be down to laziness.
I've had experience of what OP is going through and the things in life which you say are worse, and I found what the OP is going through to be far less bearable. I'll admit my illness probably entitled me to more sympathy, since my life was being forced from me, but I dont' agree about the rape or parents dying.

I think OP is perfectly entitled to a lot of sympathy/help, if he feels that strongly. suppose his brain is such that he can't actually help feeling completely awful about things which you consider minor,and somebody else's brain is such that they're naturally very happy. now, if happy person got raped, they could feel less bad about it than the OP does about his situation, and experience less pain as a result. OP is not to blame if the way he's wired forces such strong feelings on him, and arguably, since he's actually hurting more, he is worthy of more sympathy. The same applies to parents dying, friends dying, perhaps even homelessness. Like I say, I've experienced close close friends dying, I realise this might make me sound liek an ass, but in fact, that hit me less hard than what the OP is going through (rejection, shyness, loneliness etc).