i've been seeing a guy for a while, and to all intents and purposes we are 'together'. he's not seeing anyone else, he doesn't want me to see anyone else, we're sleeping together, we go on 'dates', we're affectionate with eachother. so when does it become a relationship? as far as i'm concerned we are kind of in one, but he doesn't think we are apparently. whatever happened to meeting someone, liking them and making them your girlfriend without a long period of umming and ahhhing and deciding?
Some people are put off by the seriousness of making it an offical 'relationship'
It sounds like everything is going along fine at the moment, so quit worrying about wether its offical or not.
Maybe he doesn't want a relationship. To some guys all they wanna do is sleep with people so if you're already sleeping with him then why does he need to be in a relationship?
it became a relationship as soon as me and the gf kissed, so theres some perspective for you. why not just ask him out?
he probably doesnt want to be in a relationship, as in his eyes not being in one makes it acceptable for him to sleep with other people
I reckon they're apprehensive about the 'definite-ness' of asking you out. That's pretty solid and set in stone. If they are getting everything they want without the scary official side, why would they go out of their way to change it and ask you out, when it is going fine already.
Maybe he's also just not thinking about it as much, just going a long with it as it is.
See how it goes for a bit. If you want to be exclusive then tell him this and see what he says.
You can just ask him yourself you know. Since when did guys have to do all the work?
maybe he's nervous/shy? I've had 2 girlfriends since starting school and both of them asked me out lol (embarrassing I know), but it may be a factor?
I was in exactly the same situation, as the guy that is. I didn't want to make it completely official because of a few things. Not thinking I was good enough, I didn't at the time know I could totally trust the other person not to go off with someone else and simply because things were going so well, why change it?
It shouldn't matter whether or not you have the 'bf/gf' names for eachother if it's just awesome as it is.
men dont want commitment. at least not till the availability of regular sex is diminished
I think he's assuming you are in a relationship with each other nd it sounds like you are. I wouldn't worry but ask him out if you really want the officalness