this is a true story and i need advice this is also a very long read but takin 10 minutes of ur time will my life for years
me and my gf have been going out 2 years next week and everything has always been good. at the moment shes in her 1st year at uni and so were in a long distance relationship and i see her 2 weekends a month, ive always trusted her and had no reason not 2 until now,
as we both trust and love each other loads we both know each others passwords to facebook, we never go on each others passwords as theres never really a need but a few nights a go i just got in from work and i logged in and my gf was online on facebook chat so i started speakin 2 her, she was taking ages to reply and i had a long day at work so for watever reason i just logged in 2 her account just to quickly check who she was talkin 2 then i would sign out, i logged in to find she was chattin 2 her mate from her room next door whos shes close to, me and this boy (lets say his name his bob). as i hardly meet her random friends from uni i didnt know who he was so i read their convosation( sum people may say thats really nosey but i thought it would be innocent and it seemed it) and thought nothing of it, i read my gfs convo to her roommate and i was quite shocked at what i saw the convo was this
roommate- you spoken 2 bob 2day?
gf- yeppp we are but its gr8 im speakin 2 him now, not dat much its just a lil chit chat..
roommate- and will he be stayin in ur room... probably dont ask him that lol
gf - lol no not again lol do not think that would be approiate!
now i was stunned, i sat in my chair feelin sick and confused, what did she mean stay in ur room again? i was totally pissed off,i signed out signed bak in2 mine and i rang my gf and i asked her who she was chattin 2 on facebook she said me, roomate, bob and and a girl from her course, i knew she wernt speakin 2 a gal on her course but i asked who this bob guy was and she said some guy on her course and plays rugby and hes quite fat. so i thought o ok then... chatted for a bit longer then went to bed not sayin wat i saw as i fort i may see more and then i can confront her,
the next day i was at college and it was the afternoon, my class were in the computer room and every1 was on facebook as usual, my gf was online so we were chattin etc i randomally came out jokinly said ur not cheatin on me etc and she was like no of course not y would u say that etc i was like im only jokin, i just wanted to see her reaction and it was pretty defencive.
she asked me wat i was up 2 i said collge work etc and just speakin 2 her online, she said same but she was chattin 2 an old mate from school days that she hasnt seen in about 8 months. i was like ok cool, she then said she had 2 go so we said goodbye and she went off line, i still really annoyed about the nite b4 logged into her facebook and her convo was still up from her school mate i read it and i felt like someone just kicked my head in and my cheast was battered,
the convosation was this
school mate -does ur bf(me)get 2 come down and see u much? and are there any fiitties trying to win u over loool
gf- ohh goddd!! dont even get me started! its soo hard theres this one guy BOB i reliiiiiii like him but i have to pull myself away from him!! na i aint cheated on him! doe i fort i mite aswell either break up and do it or not at all but i still really wanna be with my bf!
school mate - looooool is he a hottie o da will power is strong im very impressed, id say fuk it and go 4 it, but no stick with ur bf hes lovely, trust u dnt find that often hahahahahaha
gf- yer i na thats wat i fort but yer BOB is a fittie plays rugby, bit beefy my type!!!
that was the last thing that was said b4 the gdbyes, i sat there in class in total numbness, i copied down wat was said into my phone, i left college 5 mins later and met a m8 who i txt earlyier wanting to talk about the convo with the roommate now i had an even worst thing to tell him, i showed him and his face was like mine his advice was talk to her,
so thats what i did, i built up courage and 4 hours later i rang her telling her that i saw 2 convos. i told her about the 1st 1
hers what she said
the convo with the roomate about bob stayin on the floor is apperntly an ongoing joke between a few of the roommates and my gf, after a nite out a few nite b4 every1 went bak 2 their accommodation and in their kitchen, my gf said every1 was eatin bacon sandwichs and she went bak into her room followed by Bob, and they watched tv for 10 mins and he left and went home, i then asked so were u drunk? she said abit, i however remember sayin 2me that morning she was reli drunk the nite b4 so i was still unconvinced and still knowing that how she described him 2 her school mate, so i then asked so he left and didnt stay then? she said no he just left after eatin and watchin tv,
i was like ok then explain this one
i read the convo 2 her that she had wit her school mate
she said its not how it sounds and ive got it wrong, her school mate apperntly likes to know really personal stuff about peoples realtionships and when she asked about if any guy was tryin 2 get her she made the whole lot up just 2 please her mate, and that was it,
i was like what the ****!!! now i no my gf can lie cause she does it 2 her parents when she stays at mine as shes not allowed cause her parents are still abit traditional etc. but i said 2 her so y did u say this 1 guy bob 2 her and how comes u have been pushin them away as its so hard? she goes yer shes had people come on 2 her and she doesnt want to get with them so she pushes them away, bob apperntly has tried and shes pushed him away, i was like but y did u describe him like that? and y the fuk were u sayin about breaking up with me etc
by now she was in such a state crying it was hard 2 understand what she was sayin but i was bad aswell, she says ive got it totally wrong etc,
but how can i get it wrong ive seen 2 convos about her and this guy bob?
how would you take this seing ur gf of almost 2 years treat u like this?
should i really just execept that the 1st convo was a joke and the 2nd convo she made up for her nosey **** of a old mate?
ive booked tickets to go down to her uni 2mro and see her face to face, she claims shes never cheated on me but even if she hasnt, what ive seen.. to me seems like shes either mental for doing this and its all a massive mistake or she a very good liar and has now realised what shes actually done as shes fort that i would never see these convosations so shes covering her tracks to try and make up 2 me,
i love her soo much and i feel so happy with her but now ive seen these convos i dont know what to belive or feel?
does any1 have any suggestions on what i should say to her or what i should do?
my heart and head is all over the place.
thankyou everyone that has taken so much time to read this and give me support