Unprovoked arguments

There was this girl I liked and she liked me and we were sort of dating but nothing much happened and she decided she wanted to leave it and just be friends or whatever and everything was alright, we never fell out or anything.
I work in a bar and she comes in often with her family and I've seen her once since we sort of 'finished' and she was alright with me.
I goes on MSN last night after getting in from the pub and she messaged me and we were talking and everything was going smooth then she just starts slagging me off for no reason, at first it was pretty light hearted and because I was drunk, I was joking along with her then she really started ripping in to me and her cousin and cousins b/f were with her as well and they were blaming what was said on each other so I was just immature like because I was drunk and took the piss out of them when they were doing it to me but they got all offended when I did it.
I saved the convo and when I sobered up I read it again and txt her asking what her problem with me was and she got her cousin to txt me back saying leave her alone and delete her number, and she didn't mean to be nasty but I was taking the piss. Then tonight, her best friend (or ex best friend) came on MSN and said that she had been asking her did she fancy me and they thought that I fancied her, I just don't understand it. Where they giving me loads of grief because of that or was she just trying to impress her cousin or something because seriously I haven't done anything wrong.

Reply 1

britishseapower

thing is though, I don't think she would have done it one on one so I reckon that her cousin definitely influenced it but it might have been her cousin who said most of it but even so, she was present because she knows what was said and there are times when I definitely know it was her speaking and she was being just as bad. To me it doesn't matter who said it because they were all in it together so thats good enough for me.

I haven't slagged her off at all, there is nothing she could have heard, things were fine between us as far as I was concerned until last night. As for actively seeking to rekindle the friendship, the friendship was fine until last night and now? no I'm not, not after the way she acted; I would just like to know why she acted that way. I did txt her last night asking what her problem was with me and she didn't even bother replying, she got her cousin to do it and that gave me no answers, just told me not to ring anymore. Like her friend said to me before, it might be jealousy or something I don't know because she seems to be under the impression I fancy her mate and her mate fancies me which is a load of *******s and I don't understand why she would be jealous anyway because it was her who finished it.

Reply 2

britishseapower

She couldn't though, some of her friends have met me but they don't know me and their not in touch with me, with the exception of her friend who is on my msn messenger. Thats the one who she suspects I fancy and vice versa and I know that girl on msn wouldn't have said anything because she has a boyfriend anwyay and they haven't been hanging around with each other as much because they sort of fell out.

Reply 3

britishseapower

lessthanthree

MM, girls get jealous. I know if I split up with my boyfriend tomorrow I wouldn't want anyone near him. I'd be mad jealous. I guess she is a little bit too.

She shouldn't be though, she knew she could have me if she wanted me and she chose not to. Its not like she's short of offers anyway so I don't see why she has to get all jealous if thats what it is all about. In addition, she hardly hangs round with her 'best mate' anymore anyway.

Reply 4

britishseapower

its a rumour made by her though, I mean I have only ever met this girl in person twice (her friend) and both times the girl I liked was with us all the time and its not like I flirted with her or anything or even talked to her much. The only reason I can think of as to why she would think anything is going on is because I talk to her friend alot on msn and we get on well and because they have had a falling out recently, I occasionally ask how things are between them e.t.c. but I only take such an interest because with my ex g/f I never really bothered with any of her mates and didn't meet up with them and that was one of the problems, now when I become good friends with the friends of the girl I like(d) it all goes haywire. The reason they sort of fell out is because her friend spents alot of time with her b/f and not her so for her to think something is going on between me and her is ridiculous.

Reply 5

magiccarpet

mate u havent done anything. try to find out from her cousin wat is wrong. but really just leave the girl to cool down. i think she fancies u but leave things to clam down then she'll tell someone wats wrong. sounds psycho to me.

Reply 6

britishseapower

talk to her cousin? your joking aren't you, it was her cousin slagging me off. Well I was talking to the girl on MSN, everytime inappropriate comments were made, she kept blaming it on her cousin and her cousins b/f, I'm not sure who was typing at all times but it was probably her with her cousin influencing it.

Reply 7

britishseapower

lessthanthree

meh, she'll be one of those hypersensitive types. Sometimes people just get ideas into their heads, wires cross.

I assure you, it screws them up more than it'll ever affect you, which is quite sad, really. But if you can't pursuade her otherwise, you can't realistically do much more.

I'm not doing anything about it, I blocked her from my MSN and deleted her phone number upon request. I will probably see her friday though because I'm working and she often comes in to the bar where I work on a friday with her family, I've no intention of speaking to her though.

Reply 8

magiccarpet

ni just ignore her. she's treating u like crap. i sometimes fight with my ex bf when we were tog just cos i lov to fight. and if he's been too clingy it relives my anger to fight with him. but for her to delte your number thats way too far. shes wast of time. dump her. u can do better :top:

be strong

Reply 9

britishseapower

I'm not bothered that were not together but she said she wanted to be friends and then she goes and does that, it just makes everything awkward because I'm going to see her loads at the place where I work which can't be helped and there was no need for her to cause trouble so its just pointless what she did; she's created an awkward atmoshphere for no reason at all

Reply 10

magiccarpet

maybe its the tension of being friends? i was with my ex for 5 yrs and even if we tried to be friends one of us would do what your ex did and just fight for no reason so we could cuddle up and make up?
do u have a reason to think she still fancies u?
is there a mate of hers u can find out whats wrong?

Reply 11

britishseapower

I don't see any tension, I mean I sent her my last txt on valentines day and told her I wouldn't send her anymore until she replied and she never did, she just ignored what I had said, so I didn't send her anymore until after the argument when I sent her one asking what her problem was. I also never met up with her between then and the argument unless you include seeing her one night at work but we didn't even speak really, I was too busy so there were no tensions as far as I can see.
As for her still fancying me I don't know, as far as I know the only reason we didn't carry on dating or whatever is because everytime I met up with her, I hardly spoke to her and she felt that I was shy but the only reason I didn't speak to her that much is because she always brought her mates and just went off and had conversations with them and left me out and it was hard for me to join in. I also pressed on her a bit too much to go out with me because I've not got much experience with girls and didn't realise that you were friends first then relationship came after so when I asked her did she want to go out with me or just be friends she didn't give me a straight answer, so we took the friends route but then I realised what an idiot I had been and tried amending things and that was when I sent her the last txt on valentines day which she didn't reply to.

Reply 12

britishseapower

the only friend I speak to of hers is her best friend but they sort of fell out when I had just met them and they don't hang out together that much anymore so her best mate or ex best mate can't really tell me much.

Reply 13

Makavelli_07

Best just to get on with it.

I had a situation similar before, and it annoyed me to no end. In the end i just thought 'Right, F*ck ya, Your loss...' and moved on. Definately the best way.

I was kind of seeing a girl, pretty much the same situation as you, and i had become good friends with her brother through spending time with her. Anyway her parents went away for a weekend. She invited me to stay for a weekend, and invited a couple of my mates aswell. I think she felt that i'd be more comfortbale with them there or something, but anyway. When i got there things were fine. We were getting on really well, and were all over each other. Then half way through the night she got up and stormed out into the garden and sat out there. I asked her brother what was wrong, and he didn't know. I went and asked her, and she just wouldn't tell me. I thought oh well, she'll be fine later and had a laugh with my mates. Then about an hour later her brother told me she was upset with me, and sent me out. She said she was annoyed because i hadn't spent enough time with her, and that i was having a laugh with her brother. I apologised, mainly just to make things run smoothly for the night, and things were fine. We then slept together on the couch at the end of the night. Half way through the night she got up and stormed off for some reason. I followed her, asked what was wrong, and she just kept telling me to go away. So i spent like the next 3 hours weightlifting in the rain in her back garden. Was a good laugh in the end.

Basically, what i'm getting at, is sometimes you haven't done anything, and it just works out that way. Get on with it.

Reply 14

magiccarpet

just move on. and no, you dont need to be friends first, sometimes you just fancy someone then start going out with them.

but really if u dont get on with her mates, she doesnt txt u, she doesnt lov u, she messes u about and then she says 'im surprised you didnt come crawling back to me' or somthing like that, then she is being a b*tch.

i dont care how much or how little experience you've had, theres no need to be treated like this. dump the girl. delete her number and move on. she isnt worth a crap

go with the hot girl from HMV :wink:

Reply 15

britishseapower

I got on with her mates ok but the rest of it is true more or less, I haven't seen that music zone girl in ages, I seen a nice one in clintons cards the other day though :biggrin:

I actually think she was interested, well it was me or my mate and my mate dared me to buy like a teddy or summat that says I like you and to give it to her after she sells it me but she was gone when we went back in; I probably wouldn't have done it anyway