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Girls: How old is too old?

Assuming a guy looked fit and in shape (e.g. imagine Jude Law who I think is 30-31 years old), would you have any problems dating a guy in his early to mid 30s?

Reply 1

BlackHawk

17

no, not at all. I thik Nicholas Cage is lovely and he's in his 40s isn't he? I'm friends woth quite a few 30 year old guys too though if I were ever to date one it would cross my mind that they were closer to my mums age than my own.

Reply 2

frost105

14

Yeah, mainly cause I wouldnt really have a lot to talk to him about and we would be in such different stages in our lives.

My best mate (21) has actually just left her 30 yr old fiancee because of the big age gap.

Reply 3

kokopops

10

im 18 ... and i think the oldest guy id personally go out with would be about 22-23!

Reply 4

F. Poste

No! I'd have nothing in common with them.. I mean, I can just imagine the conversation:

"Hi honey, what have you been up to today?"
"Well I went to a lecture and didn't write any of my essay, then I talked in the hall with my friends about the time I got so drunk I fell out of a window. What did you do?"
"Well it was a tough day on the trading floor, I lost my company £3 billion pounds and got sacked. Then I went to visit the kid I have with my ex-wife, they're both fine apart from the fact that little Sally is having problems reading"

:p:

Reply 5

Amy

13

meetjoeblack

Assuming a guy looked fit and in shape (e.g. imagine Jude Law who I think is 30-31 years old), would you have any problems dating a guy in his early to mid 30s?

32+ is too old

Reply 6

Profesh

20

Triple-figures would be pushing the boat out a little.

Reply 7

AngelofnoColour

14

Mid 30's is fine, he'd probably get sick of my childish behaviour anyway. I wouldnt go as far as 40 year old men, unless it was Bruce Willis :smile:

Reply 8

SamTheMan

17

BlackHawk

no, not at all. I thik Nicholas Cage is lovely and he's in his 40s isn't he? I'm friends woth quite a few 30 year old guys too though if I were ever to date one it would cross my mind that they were closer to my mums age than my own.

Poor Nicholas doesn't have much hair left but if you don't mind... I really like him as an actor. Leaving Las Vegas is probably one of my favourite films. He really knows how to play tortured guys. He's absolutely crap in Gone In 60 Seconds unfortunately. It's just not his kind of role.

Reply 9

Monteferro

meetjoeblack

Assuming a guy looked fit and in shape (e.g. imagine Jude Law who I think is 30-31 years old), would you have any problems dating a guy in his early to mid 30s?

No offense but why do I get the feeling that you may be asking this because you're in your 30s? Do correct me if I'm wrong.

Reply 10

BlueAlex

Thought you were asking how old is too old for the girl to be when you date her! (was going to say if she's the same age as your mum!)

Btw, found out today that Brad Pitt is 41!!!!!!!

Reply 11

caffecooki

10

i couldn't, but i'm immature for a 17 year old :biggrin:

Reply 12

Ariel4

1

30 is a bit to old unless they are amazinlgy rich or good looking, preferrably both but either/or will do! :biggrin:

but no seriously, to old, i mean theyre like proper adults arent they? would they really want to go on a night out with all your 18 year old friends.

Reply 13

Starstrike

I have a friend who started going out with a 28 year old when we were 17. Shes now 20 and their still happily together. We all ripped it out of her at the start but looking back now you have to wonder. All of our 'serious' relationships with guys close to our own age have failed miserably and yet hers is perfect, so maybe theres something to it?

Reply 14

frost105

14

Starstrike

I have a friend who started going out with a 28 year old when we were 17. Shes now 20 and their still happily together. We all ripped it out of her at the start but looking back now you have to wonder. All of our 'serious' relationships with guys close to our own age have failed miserably and yet hers is perfect, so maybe theres something to it?

I used to think the same thing about my bets friend and her fiancee. Now she's living here and bizarrely she is the happiest I've seen her. Not that her boyf was not really nice but because of the age gap she felt trapped. She was 21 with a mortgage and going to dinner parties with other 30's people discussing things that she felt she was too young to have to start thinking about.

Reply 15

Vixen

12

When I was nearly 16 I went out with somebody who was 26. It lasted about 4 weeks because I knew right away we werent compatible because of the age gap. I felt out of my depth and slightly nervous round him. Now I think the oldest guy id date is probly about 22 and Im 18.

Reply 16

frost105

14

lessthanthree

exactly; it's not just the age gap of the couple that matters, it's the prerogative of the parters and the age groups they belong two.

I mean, a 35 year old is generally going to want to have some stability, possibly to the point of settling to start a family. A 20 year old's priority is generally to have a bit of a life before they tie themselves to a house, job, partner and dependants.

A lot of people see it as just a "me and them" thing, but fail to understand the whole kit and caboodle that comes with dating older people. This is generally why they're too immature for that sort of relationship.

The 40 year old woman some 21 year old guy might be dating might be a fabulous, lovely person, but I can almost guarantee in 90% of cases, compromises and allowances will have to be made, as priorities are so different.

The big thing was that in 5 years he was wanting to start having children and no offense to my best-she so was not ready to start that road in her life.

What was worse was that he was the nicest guy, unfortunatly it just wasnt the right time for her.

Reply 17

Aeris

15

meetjoeblack

Assuming a guy looked fit and in shape (e.g. imagine Jude Law who I think is 30-31 years old), would you have any problems dating a guy in his early to mid 30s?

nope! Well if he IS Jude Law then no, but if he just looked like him....I'd have to think about it...

Reply 18

Agrippina

15

I'm engaged to someone who's 35 (I've just turned 19), and he's the only person I'm truly on a wavelength with - we can talk about anything. I'm pretty mature for my age and my interests and hobbies are usually scorned by people my own age.

Reply 19

KittyKat

yes i remember when i fancied someone who was ten years older them me, but i stopped it. i think its ok to fancy but that's all. Although how can you ever say no to George Clooney. : )

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