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what to do? (About a guy)

There is a guy called Tom.

He went out with my mate in school and for a few months in college. They split up back in october last year.

Anyway ive always been friendly with him. We was texting each other a few nights ago and he asked me out for a drink. I said i would think about it. The next day i told him yes. We was going to go out tomorrow night but he cant do it.

Anyway i got told by his ex girl (my mate) that he asked her back, so i asked him and he said that was rubbish. And the reason why they split up in the first place, i keep getting different from them both.

He says he likes me and always have even when he was with my mate. But he only told me this week. He wants to be more than friends.

I dont know what to do.

What do you think i should do?

Sorry its long.

Lou
Reply 1
loppy_lou
There is a guy called Tom.

He went out with my mate in school and for a few months in college. They split up back in october last year.

Anyway ive always been friendly with him. We was texting each other a few nights ago and he asked me out for a drink. I said i would think about it. The next day i told him yes. We was going to go out tomorrow night but he cant do it.

Anyway i got told by his ex girl (my mate) that he asked her back, so i asked him and he said that was rubbish. And the reason why they split up in the first place, i keep getting different from them both.

He says he likes me and always have even when he was with my mate. But he only told me this week. He wants to be more than friends.

I dont know what to do.

What do you think i should do?

Sorry its long.

Lou



Going out with a mate's ex is always going to be tricky because of the jealousy that could be there. Try it, but give yourself the option to call it off if your mate is too upset about it. Remember a mate is always better than a bf/gf.
Reply 2
SciFi25
Going out with a mate's ex is always going to be tricky because of the jealousy that could be there. Try it, but give yourself the option to call it off if your mate is too upset about it. Remember a mate is always better than a bf/gf.


i agree i think you should wait a while as well especially if they went out for a while and you should talk about it with your friend
Reply 3
Reasons for lieing

Girl - Dosent want you to go out with him, so she lied about him asking her out
Guy - To make it look like he only wants you now

Which is more likely? How close are you to the girl and does she still like him?
Reply 4
BhArJ
Reasons for lieing

Girl - Dosent want you to go out with him, so she lied about him asking her out
Guy - To make it look like he only wants you now

Which is more likely? How close are you to the girl and does she still like him?



I was quiet close to the girl. We went our own ways after a while in school and college.

Im not sure if she does still like him. Since they spilt up she has had 4 bfs and slept with most of the 4 so i guess she mite be.

The girl doesnt know anything about me and tom
clearly whats happened is they've broken up and either she wants him back but he wont have her, or she just isnt ready for anyone else to go out with him.

talk about it in front of both of them together to see whose saying what. it depends who you like more. you can go out with the guy and risk hurting your frind, or tell him she is still not over him and you cant hurt her.
i suppose this situation is always going to be difficult, if hes been out with your friend, but it sounds like you're having problems getting the truth!
it could be that he's a player, just trying to make sure he gets with one of you in the end, or she could just be jealous (which may be likely)
:confused: i'm not really sure which one it could be as i'm not in your situation, but really it should sort itself out i would have thought??
just remember mates come before lads :biggrin:
maybe you should talk to her before you go any further? :smile:
actually yea, he might be a playa. again, i dssay discuss it with bothe of them together
caffecooki
...just remember mates come before lads


What if your mates are lads?
Reply 9
Thank you for all the replies.

My friend doesnt know anything about me and tom.

I just asked her a few questions to find out what was going on with them two. I asked if she still hears from him and she said sometimes. Then she looked up and said that last friday that he asked her back.

I spoke to tom last night. He got a bit funny with me. He thinks that i dont believe him. He swears that nothing is going on.