Is romance dead?

Reply 40

blissy

15

Zurich

I refuse to believe that any woman would take a huge cock over all that.

I would say you always want what you can't have... but :wink:

Reply 41

wiwarin_mir

SamTheMan

What ever happened to romance in relationships? Maybe it's just because everyone here is younger but it seems like people here have boyfriends/girlfriends for all reasons other than actual love or feelings.

Is it just me?

I am very romantic still, as previous girlfriends can attest to, although I do see your point, on the whole romance is being lost in many relationships today.

Reply 42

Zurich

9

blissy

I would say you always want what you can't have... but :wink:

I invite you not to finish that sentence :p:

Reply 43

twiga

15

In my relationship it is. We havent slept together since valentines day and we never do anyhting romantic. He prefers to go out when all his mates are there.

Reply 44

Adhsur

15

blissy

I think one of my favourites was when my bf and I had the house to ourself. I came home from work and there was a note on the front door saying "Don't talk to me, go upstairs. I've run a bath, I'm cooking dinner." It showed he cared about me being tired after work and gave me space to relax on my own so I wouldn't be harangued by questions. Other favourites include having a wonderful hotel in a medieval citadel and then watching the bastille day fireworks from the ramparts (a bit pricier!), a surprise neck rub after I've been sat writing an essay for a few hours - and then leaving me alone to finish it, walking into a room with lots of lovely candles and a big "welcome home" sign that he'd obviously spent ages making, cleaning and tidying my room when I was at a supervision and I'd been stressed all week and had no time - coming home was a dream rather than a nightmare!, making a video of my home town when I was home sick... the list goes on. He's too good to me!

Awwwwwwwwwww! Sweet!! I'm so happy for both of you :smile:

Reply 45

kokopops

10

1. blissy u r soo completely and utterly lucky!
2. i gotta say, i would have thought romance and love are both dead, but seeing my two closest friends and their boyfriends together makes me change my mind completely...! one of my friends, got with her boyfriend about 6months ago (her 1st) and is still with him - they were both each others 1st and both very much in love ... he sends her little texts just to say little things ... one of my faves was ... "its ur bday soon and everyone will be appreciating you, but i do that every single time i look at u and realise ur mine" ... :bawling:

i want some1 like that!

Reply 46

Eru Iluvatar

18

Romance is alive, it always will be while there are people in this world who know the truth and simple beauty of love... I just wish there were more people that could find such a special thing...

Reply 47

khil

15

A lot of people don't even know what love is, and most of us get passion mixed up with love when it's not love at all - intense feelings and passion doesn't equal love, although it's where love can grow from. And then others aren't serious in the relationships etc, which is a shame really, and hurtful if the other partner was serious. A lot of people nowadays go way too fast - like if you're gonna like get married after only knowing the person for less than 2 years, the risk of you finding later that he/she is not the one is higher, and so divorce rates go up. Doubtless they feel it's the right decision, but then again passion gets people muddled up. A relationship, when it's going well, can feel so perfect you can't imagine yourself without that person.

However after all those negative comments, romance certainly exists, and so does love. It's just a rare gift.

Oh when I went out with my ex it was the most romantic ever. Not the cliche roses and red hearts, but the intimacy in our relationship was so special. It was sorta like a relationship straight out of a typical romance comedy really... for reasons/circumstances I won't explain on a public forum. But as hurt as we both got, we both cherish the memories. He's still very important to me as a friend :smile:

Relationships give people too much to think about... or that's me, at least.

Reply 48

khil

15

blissy

I think one of my favourites was when my bf and I had the house to ourself. I came home from work and there was a note on the front door saying "Don't talk to me, go upstairs. I've run a bath, I'm cooking dinner." It showed he cared about me being tired after work and gave me space to relax on my own so I wouldn't be harangued by questions. Other favourites include having a wonderful hotel in a medieval citadel and then watching the bastille day fireworks from the ramparts (a bit pricier!), a surprise neck rub after I've been sat writing an essay for a few hours - and then leaving me alone to finish it, walking into a room with lots of lovely candles and a big "welcome home" sign that he'd obviously spent ages making, cleaning and tidying my room when I was at a supervision and I'd been stressed all week and had no time - coming home was a dream rather than a nightmare!, making a video of my home town when I was home sick... the list goes on. He's too good to me!

Awwwwww that is so sweet! You're a lucky girl :smile:

Reply 49

Esme

its scary, on TSR some of the guys are waaay more romantic than the girls, so im gonna have to stand up for us. romance and love isn't dead, i mean sure there are some girls who'll just settle but i dont see why we shud when there are guys like Blissy's one around. Love is fab but i think the thing we are talking about more one the original posting was more intimacy than the whole traditional romance thing...both are great though! :smile:

Reply 50

jessicarabbit

8

"You don't want to fall in love, you want to fall in love in a MOVIE"- sleepless in seattle

yep, I'm quoting chick flicks. But if you ask me, our society has millions of books and movies about love, and quite frankly- we are obsessed with it. the pursuit of love, the loss of love, lasting love. We want everything to be roses and sunshine, but the sad truth is that love isn't always going to be perfect. But that's what makes it true love, if you can stick with the person through the good and bad. No matter what. If u share deep respect and compassion for one another, thats what I call true love. True love is a great friendship.
Having said that, these threads are all started by people within my age group im assuming(im 19) - and at my age ALOT of people arent looking for true love(even though they may claim they are, many are not ready to handle what true love entails,but thats ok cause we're young!). They are just looking for a good ****.
the end.

p.s.- I have officially been ruined by the movie Sleepless in Seattle, and am waiting to meet my future significant other through some great act of God, rather than lookin for him at a bar ,or at school, or through mutual friends.

If there are any Jude Law look alikes out there who play the guitar, love stayin in on rainy Sundays listening to Miles Davis, can salsa,and wouldn't mind watching Some Like It Hot for the 100th time- I look forward to meeting u sometime in my life.
haha...man im a dork

Reply 51

Johnny 5

12

"Romance is dead. It was acquired in a hostile takeover by Hallmark and Disney, homogenised, and sold off, piece by piece."
-Lisa Simpson

Reply 52

jessicarabbit

8

great quote 2+2

"To beer, the cause- and solution, to all of life's problems!" -homer simpson

man i just had to quote it, i love that line.

Reply 53

Esme

jessicarabbit

"You don't want to fall in love, you want to fall in love in a MOVIE"- sleepless in seattle

p.s.- I have officially been ruined by the movie Sleepless in Seattle, and am waiting to meet my future significant other through some great act of God, rather than lookin for him at a bar ,or at school, or through mutual friends.

i watched that movie yesterday and have to say, i am right there with u, as they say, "men just don't get this movie". i love the whole idea of destiny, the one etc, kinda like in Serendipity. Gah, i watch way too many chickflicks! :redface:

Reply 54

PinkPigeon

13

I disagree, well actually I'm not sure...personally, romance is certainly not dead, me and my boyfriend are very much in love and have been for over a year now, if that was ever to change, that would be the end of us but then some people in the sixth form are together for what seems like other reasons...money being quite common, convenience and habit another. so I don't know. I don't think it's dead...maybe just rarer than it used to be? (but then again, I don't know, there's a good chance it has always been like this and nostalgia is simply making people believe that it used to be different because although our attidtues change, I don't think essential human nature changes)

Reply 55

Esme

RoisinHan

I disagree, well actually I'm not sure...personally, romance is certainly not dead, me and my boyfriend are very much in love and have been for over a year now, if that was ever to change, that would be the end of us but then some people in the sixth form are together for what seems like other reasons...money being quite common, convenience and habit another. so I don't know. I don't think it's dead...maybe just rarer than it used to be? (but then again, I don't know, there's a good chance it has always been like this and nostalgia is simply making people believe that it used to be different because although our attidtues change, I don't think essential human nature changes)

woah, that has a really depressing tone to it, especially as it seems like you have a really nice relationship anyway.
i don't think its rare, just that people look in all the wrong places for it!

Reply 56

momopie123

1

i dont think romance or love are dead. i just think its becoming harder and harder to find it.

Reply 57

Esme

momopie123

i dont think romance or love are dead. i just think its becoming harder and harder to find it.

I think part of the problem is that people are just becoming too cynical about life in general and are just missing it or not trusting it, but it is still out there!

Reply 58

Carreh

2

I dont believe romance is dead at all... been with my bf for 3 years and i still get the same rush of soppyness when he does something romantic for me :redface:

Reply 59

rainjan_4now

2

Maybe the romance of our time has gone. We can freely have and switch partners, with no moral issues to prevent us from being promiscuous- like sex b4 marriage, divorce, etc!!! The country wouldn't exactly be ashamed of me if i was to have a divorce, in comparison to the past.

During the war, many people had the romance of impending death to keep it alive. During the 60's/70's, escaping from parents gave relationships more fuel. 2005, we have better things to occupy our time (blame technology), and our standards have changed, making it harder to please a person on a date, killing the romance of our time.

This is, of course, only my opinion :smile:

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