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Big girls blouse?

Ok, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months. He moved here from another part of the UK. He's seemingly perfect.. so romantic, considerate, always puts me first etc... but since he's moved to london, i'm the only person he's met.. he literally doesn't have any friends...i am his whole entire universe...

Also, not that I'm claiming to be Einstein or a female Jimmy Carr, but he doesn't get any of my jokes, can't really keep up with me and my friend's conversations and has yet to form his own opinions and thoughts on general life issues. I find this really unattractive.

He's really sensitive and i don't want to hurt him, but i don't know whether i should stay with him or not. I am so attracted to him but i don't know what to do?!

Any thoughts?

Reply 1

dreamer86

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Maybe he's shy around your friends? As for the world issues does he just say I don't know? Don't stay with him just because you are the only person he really knows, becuase its not good to stay with someone becuase you feel sorry for them kind of thing, but you said you're really attracted to him so at least leave it for a little while would be my advice. Maybe tell him how you feel, but subtley, like ask him if he feels slighlty uncomfortable with your friends or something. Wow my use of English is just great, why not just get me to speak to him :rolleyes:

Reply 2

magiccarpet

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Lucky Penny

Ok, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months. He moved here from another part of the UK. He's seemingly perfect.. so romantic, considerate, always puts me first etc... but since he's moved to london, i'm the only person he's met.. he literally doesn't have any friends...i am his whole entire universe...

Also, not that I'm claiming to be Einstein or a female Jimmy Carr, but he doesn't get any of my jokes, can't really keep up with me and my friend's conversations and has yet to form his own opinions and thoughts on general life issues. I find this really unattractive.

He's really sensitive and i don't want to hurt him, but i don't know whether i should stay with him or not. I am so attracted to him but i don't know what to do?!

Any thoughts?

goddamit he has to put you first cos your the only person!!

how do u know he doesnt have any frinds?

if you think he's stupid, say hey maybe we shed just be frinds. either you want him or you dont. if you do, you gotta accept that he's dumb

Reply 3

Lucky Penny

OP

Dreamer, don't tempt me i may just take you up on that!! How do you tell someone that you want to go out with someone funnier/quicker/more intelligent and worldly?!!? It would totally crush him...

Also all the girls he's been out with before me have been....well... BASIC if you know what i mean. Just coz he finds me attractive, i have an education and can hold my own he thinks im the best thing since sliced bread... but i don't know anyone without these traits... and to me they're not amazing qualities.. they're bloody fundementals!!

Reply 4

Lucky Penny

OP

I have tried talking to him but it takes him what seem like a lifetime to get out a sentance and find the words.. except he never does find the words.. ahh bless him

Reply 5

saz_1989

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I think he needs to get himself some friends for one thing. Secondly, altho it's lovely having someone who thinks you're a goddess, it gets boring (you're starting to get bored). You want someone who disagrees with you. Why not try having a few conversations where he has to give his opinion, where hopefully it'll be different to yours?

Reply 6

Yeah_butno

Tell him to act like a man!

Reply 7

Lucky Penny

OP

He just handed in his Levi's application (which i had to fill out because 'he cant fill out forms') I really hope he gets it.

Your newspaper idea was genius. I hope he can read..

Reply 8

Yeah_butno

(If your not being sarcastic then........)

Youve been with him 5 months and you dont know if he can read?????

Oh my...

Reply 9

Lucky Penny

OP

Exactly lozza. Sometimes i would like someone to just say 'Shut up you're talking completely crap'. Also my 20 year old boyfriend can't make any decisions without consulting his perverted dad... I'm fast turning into his mother. I just want a maaaaan!

Reply 10

Lucky Penny

OP

jus joshin, yeah he can read. I just don't wanna dent his pride by pushing a newspaper at him. Anyone been in a relationship they can't/don't want to get out of in fear of hurting the other person's feelings?

Reply 11

magiccarpet

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just be rid. he's not helping you in any way.its your life not his. i say ignore him for a while then go back. he'll have to pull hislf tog without u to rely on

Reply 12

Lucky Penny

OP

God so true lessthanthree. I've learnt a hell of alot from working, being around older people and social etiquette etc...

I could easily say 'jog on, loser', but i really believe he's just a boy on the cusp of manhood who needs to be brought out of his shell one way or another. Something is just tellin me not to sack him in just yet. It just not nice having to wear the trousers in the relationship all the time.

Reply 13

Lucky Penny

OP

ruthless magiccarpet! hard to do that to someone who calls you 4 times a day. But true he's not helping me in anyway, but is it selfish to dump him because "I'm not gaining anything"?

Reply 14

Yeah_butno

Talk To Him! Not Us!

Reply 15

Lucky Penny

OP

Golden advice all round. If nothing else my little project is to make a man out of him by the time i've finished! cheers all x

Reply 16

magiccarpet

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i hate weak men who just agree with you. pick a fight with him and let him argue.. hey presto instant man!

Reply 17

Adhsur

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Lucky Penny

Also, not that I'm claiming to be Einstein or a female Jimmy Carr, but he doesn't get any of my jokes, can't really keep up with me and my friend's conversations and has yet to form his own opinions and thoughts on general life issues. I find this really unattractive.

I know what you mean. I was with someone for at least a couple of years and I thought I could tolerate this lack of "clicking" in conversation.. He was so sweet in every other way but I just couldn't have a conversation with him. He was dull to say the least and didn't get my sense of humour or feel interested in anything remotely of interest to me. I couldn't deal with it eventually. I don't think you can really stay with someone you can't talk with properly. And you shouldn't be with someone just because they want to be with you.

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