Sex, girls, boys, lies, violence..

culture. i dont think there should be any sex ed. i think parents should teach their children to wait until they are older. the social pressure on 15 yr olds to have sex and gf/bfs is immense.and that age is getting younger and younger. 8 yr olds wear makeup and thongs, girls play with 'bratz' not 'barbie', bratz are merely glorified plastic dressed as prostitutes. why would you want a kid to play with a dolly dressed like a hooker?

Reply 2

anjimcflanji

i know those bratz should be melted down not a big fan of barbies due to her 'assets' but at least she's not a ho. there was an article in times 2 yday about teen chick lit and how it's full of sex pregnacy tests drugs etc and i was quite shocked. i agree there isn't enough being done to promote the dangers of unprotected sex we are lucky in this country that the AIDS time bomb hasn't quite gone off but how will we cope when it will? schools seem to be teaching how to have sex and just throw the 'it;s ok to say no' crap at you but it doesn't work. surely they should teach more about drink spiking awareness..i know 3 girls who have been affected by this. i think magazines like sugar bliss and wtever others around now are awful all seem to be about 'how to pull the hot boy' 'this make up makes you look sexy'... not teaching self respect etc and no im not saying that all engaging in underage sex are irresponsible of course some 14yr olds can deal with it but 12yr olds having sex?? i just don'tunderstand!

Reply 3

anjimcflanji

i think magazines like sugar bliss and wtever others around now are awful all seem to be about 'how to pull the hot boy' 'this make up makes you look sexy'... not teaching self respect etc and no im not saying that all engaging in underage sex are irresponsible of course some 14yr olds can deal with it but 12yr olds having sex?? i just don'tunderstand!

i agree. but at age 12, you dont know any different so you just do as the rest of the kids do.

and not just magasines aimed at 12 yr olds, 'cosmo girl' does it too. even 'girl talk', i think aimed at 6-8 yr olds had some sort of free makeup on the cover. its really wrong. then when men look at these thong-and-makeup-wearing 6 yr olds, they are branded paedophiles!

Reply 4

Angel_Cake

Lucky Penny

Even though I'm only 18, i certainly don't remember 15 to be like this...

Definitely! Teen culture has changed so much in such a short amount of time. I'm only 19 but it seems the way 10-15 year olds behave these days is vastly different to when I was their age. They have so much more money, they start drinking and having sexual relationships so much younger, they know so much more about adult culture, music and TV etc.

I remember when I had my first cigarette at 12 - everything about it was so childish. It was such a big deal, there were 4 of us and we planned it for days before eventually sneaking behind my friend's garden shed one night to try it! These days you see kids just openly smoking on the streets and nobody seems bothered.

Reply 5

TKR

15

magiccarpet

culture. i dont think there should be any sex ed. i think parents should teach their children to wait until they are older. the social pressure on 15 yr olds to have sex and gf/bfs is immense.and that age is getting younger and younger.

Are you quite insane?! You say yourself that there is immens pressure on teens to have sex at an earlier age, and they are surrounded by sex, how effective do you think a "just say no" approach from parents without even support from schools would relly be? The fact is that no institution in a teenager's life is better equipped to give a comprehensive, detailed and accurate coverage of sex, it's implications and contraceptive methods than schools.

Reply 6

need_money

9

As a 15 year old. I can agree with that. Sex is a big thing. If we don't do it we're tight. If we do do it we're a slut. In the end most people (including myself it has to be admitted) just do it. Alcohol is another factor in the rise in STD's though. About 98% of people in my school drink every weekend. If that is the case here it must be the case everywhere else too. So the increase in people my age drinking alcohol, increases the risk of unprotected drunken sex.

Reply 7

Lucky Penny

OP

Completely.. Clearly there needs to be a complete culture change, and re-definition of 'cool'. Not to mention magazines being more responsible, understanding that they're incredibly influential to their target audience and stop treating teens as a business.

I think they're is a real niche market for a cool but informamtive and responsible magazine for this age group... E.g. Fashion tips.. to be sexy: less is not more. Class and sophistication should win over a micro skirt...

Reply 8

SamTheMan

17

need_money

As a 15 year old. I can agree with that. Sex is a big thing. If we don't do it we're tight. If we do do it we're a slut. In the end most people (including myself it has to be admitted) just do it. Alcohol is another factor in the rise in STD's though. About 98% of people in my school drink every weekend. If that is the case here it must be the case everywhere else too. So the increase in people my age drinking alcohol, increases the risk of unprotected drunken sex.

So you have sex to avoid being called tight?
I can't even see what would be wrong about being tight? How would some other 15-year old who's shagging every person who asks and doesn't have a clue what she's doing have something over you?

Reply 9

anjimcflanji

i changed school at 13 and went from a rural school to a jungle there were parties every week and they were all drinking smoking and it wasn't jus tabacco and soon a lot of sex but the thing that got me was that the parents were buying the alcool and letting them have the house to themselves knowing full well what was going on!! No they wont all listen to authority but when one parent says yes and the other no how do we expect them to?

Reply 10

technik

13

it disturbs me too.

even in a relationship i'd always use protection. dont want any surprises 9 months down the line. of course if we wanted a kid then you'd go au naturale. i certainly wouldnt sleep about and defo wouldnt do it with the gent unprotected to infections and the like. i dont want to be infertile or have some fetching warts dangling off the dude.

Reply 11

need_money

9

SamTheMan

So you have sex to avoid being called tight?
I can't even see what would be wrong about being tight? How would some other 15-year old who's shagging every person who asks and doesn't have a clue what she's doing have something over you?

There isn't anything wrong. But everyone else thinks there is so you get slagged for it. And i dont really understand what you mean in your last question.

Reply 12

Lucky Penny

OP

I watched a program a while ago about a a 17 yr old boy who'd been caught by the police 3 times for breaking and entering houses, stealing cars, clothes, trainers etc and possession of week and his parents were f'ing and blinding at the camera about the injustice that was inflicted on their son?! Parents obviously need a tighter grip around their kids.. but more importantly to strike a balance so not to cause rebellion, and teens doing things just to spite their parents.

As far as sex ed goes... It should be introduced sooner.. in more detail, and getting some kind of parent-teacher alliance going so whats being preached to the kids is in unison. I also think sex ed should use more shock tactics. Sex lottery radio adverts are a good start.

Reply 13

TKR

15

Lucky Penny

I watched a program a while ago about a a 17 yr old boy who'd been caught by the police 3 times for breaking and entering houses, stealing cars, clothes, trainers etc and possession of week and his parents were f'ing and blinding at the camera about the injustice that was inflicted on their son?!

"The teachers are against 'im!" :rolleyes:

Reply 14

thekillersrock

Are you quite insane?! You say yourself that there is immens pressure on teens to have sex at an earlier age, and they are surrounded by sex, how effective do you think a "just say no" approach from parents without even support from schools would relly be? The fact is that no institution in a teenager's life is better equipped to give a comprehensive, detailed and accurate coverage of sex, it's implications and contraceptive methods than schools.

my parents never exposed me to drink/meat/alcohol/premarital sex and just said i must never do it. im 20 and my sibling is 17 and we just dont do it.but for other families, the mom cant say not to do these things whereas she might be a single parent surounded by men, getting drunk etc

and the society reflects its morality with the 25% parents being alone, 50% divorce rate

Reply 15

Lucky Penny

I watched a program a while ago about a a 17 yr old boy who'd been caught by the police 3 times for breaking and entering houses, stealing cars, clothes, trainers etc and possession of week and his parents were f'ing and blinding at the camera about the injustice that was inflicted on their son?! Parents obviously need a tighter grip around their kids.. but more importantly to strike a balance so not to cause rebellion, and teens doing things just to spite their parents.

As far as sex ed goes... It should be introduced sooner.. in more detail, and getting some kind of parent-teacher alliance going so whats being preached to the kids is in unison. I also think sex ed should use more shock tactics. Sex lottery radio adverts are a good start.

actually yea. im 20 this year and my parents never allowed me to know about sex so all i learned about it was in school and i still dont know anything about STDs :eek:

its just as well im not having any sex!
but i dont think sooner is the answer. telling an 8 yr old about anal sex/buying condoms will make them want to experiment.

the west needs stricter parenting

Reply 16

Ariel4

erm, since when did 8 year olds wear thongs? i dont think they even sell in them in that size.
there is nothing wrong with kids messing around with make-up, its not like they plaster their face with everyday theyre just messing around with their friends.
those bratz dolls are way better than barbie! barbie was crap compared with bratz, she broke all the time and get way more cool stuff with bratz, but anyway... i think kids need to be taught about sex ed and stuff. if they arent told it doesnt mean that theyre not gonna do it, its just means theyre gonna do it and get pregnant or get aids. look at the situation in africa right now, as far as i know they didnt get any sex ed over there, and look whats happenig now.
8 year olds are not taught about anal sex, and considering the stigma thats attached to it theyre hardly gonna go and do it, imo.

Reply 17

Ariel4

lessthanthree

Since marykate and ashley, among others, marketed padded bras and knicker sets for 6 year olds that were swiftly removed from the market.

thats awful, i really didnt think they made stuff like that for kids! and the padded bras - 6 year olds dont even have breasts, where is the need? and what sort of parents would buy them for their kids?

Reply 18

blissy

15

lessthanthree

stupid ones. ;_;

The same ones that let their young girls wear "strappy tops" which fall down, or gape - clothes meant for adult bodies and not wriggly little children.

When my niece was 7 I was taking a picture of her and I went over and pulled her t shirt down to cover her tummy and she said "no, it's supposed to show" What the hell?!

*personal moan over*

Reply 19

Ariel4