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Talk to the girl/ ask her out. Usually you have to actually ask someone to confirm that you're a couple. Talking to her about it is always best even if you think it might be a bit of an awkward conversation, you never know she's probably in the same situation as you and wants to know exactly where you both stand with each other. You'll feel so much better when you've cleared it up :smile:
When you ask her out maybe..? Or to put it another way.. to be your girlfriend ? But never actually say that to her.. it sounds abit possessive.
Reply 3
Just a guess but:
When you have asked her to be your girlfriend?
Reply 4
Just use the word relationship, sounds better than holding her hand and asking her to be your GF fo' sho'.
Reply 5
Bubblegummy
Talk to the girl/ ask her out.


But I mean I already did ask her out :s-smilie: . Do I have to specifically say "Do you want to be my girlfriend" or something?

Sorry, quite inexperienced in this whole girlfriend thing as you can probably tell.
Reply 6
Ask her how she feels about what's been happening between you and where she wants it to go
shmex
But I mean I already did ask her out :s-smilie: . Do I have to specifically say "Do you want to be my girlfriend" or something?

Sorry, quite inexperienced in this whole girlfriend thing as you can probably tell.


Say something like 'so are we a proper couple now then?' or just be truthful and tell her that your mates have been asking if you've got a girlfriend and you don't quite know what to say to them. Then she'll say one of three things, either... 'well you can tell them you have a girlfriend now' or 'i thought we were just seeing each other/i dont really want to be in a relationship' or 'well what do you think?/do you see us as being in a relationship?' at which point you say 'yes'/ask her out ('you wanna be my girlfriend/make it official then'). God that was a lot of speech marks.
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Bubblegummy
Say something like 'so are we a proper couple now then?' or just be truthful and tell her that your mates have been asking if you've got a girlfriend and you don't quite know what to say to them. Then she'll say one of three things, either... 'well you can tell them you have a girlfriend now' or 'i thought we were just seeing each other/i dont really want to be in a relationship' or 'well what do you think?/do you see us as being in a relationship?' at which point you say 'yes'/ask her out ('you wanna be my girlfriend/make it official then'). God that was a lot of speech marks.


Thanks Bubblegummy :woo:
Hmmm all this seeing someone / girlfriend and boyfriend / dating all confuses me.

Anyone care to define them alll?
Reply 10
dating : the beginning - when you're still figuring things out
seeing someone : usually monogamous relationship without any defined boundaries usually the beginning of a relationship usually friends and common friends know about it
girlfriend-boyfriend : personally find it to be a "highschool term" but generally at this point people have defined their relationship & most people know about it
partner : serious long-term relationship term for the "other"; can be both hetero- or homo-sexual; usually a non-gender specific term when it's not fiance(e) husband/wife or roommate
Reply 11
Just change your facebook status. If she confirms it, good deal; if she rejects it, it's back to using your hand.
Reply 12
don't do it - don't do it over facebook - I think that's just a bad, passive aggressive way to do it and you don't want to start a relationship by already avoiding talking about it - and it's immature
Reply 13
Bubblegummy
Say something like 'so are we a proper couple now then?' or just be truthful and tell her that your mates have been asking if you've got a girlfriend and you don't quite know what to say to them. Then she'll say one of three things, either... 'well you can tell them you have a girlfriend now' or 'i thought we were just seeing each other/i dont really want to be in a relationship' or 'well what do you think?/do you see us as being in a relationship?' at which point you say 'yes'/ask her out ('you wanna be my girlfriend/make it official then'). God that was a lot of speech marks.
that is ******* embarrasing and poofy rofl...
Reply 14
Ask her where you think it's going or something. If she wants a relationship with you.
Reply 15
You need to ask her out really, make it official. She'll probably be waiting for you to do so, there's nothing more frustrating than someone you like expressing interest and then nothing moving forward.

*feels pang of loneliness* :sad:
Reply 16
When i asked my old girlfriend I was a bit shy. So walking her home one day I stopped her before we git to her house and said 'so...do you want to make it all official?' LOL, one of my classic quotes in life, but it worked!
Ah I had this. Makes it real difficult when trying to determine an anniversary date!

With us, it was just that some bloke said something to him like "you should listen to your girlfriend" and none of us contradicted him. So there it was.
Reply 18
I get this totally. You've beeing 'seeing' her for a while, but probably aren't 'going out' and you can't ask anything "Do you want to go out with me" because you already are lol! I said something like I thought us just seeing each other felt like a waste because we had such a close connection..which sounds extreme now I look at it but she like it :smile: You need to talk to her..
Reply 19
Well, I was "seeing" my boyfriend unofficially for about a week and a half, but we were getting on really well and had been spending a lot of time together so it was getting to the point where I was like, "so are we actually a couple then or what? :confused:" I was going to talk to him about it, but then he texted me going "are we together baby? :s-smilie:" lol which I found quite endearing and of course said yes, if that's what he wanted.
So yeah, she's probably thinking the exact same thing, like I was. Go ahead and ask her.