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Reply 3
I guess you catch somone's eye while dancing or hanging out, make sure you really *stare* but not in a scary way, just give them chance to notice you looking. Then when you dance, you (or them) can slowly move nearer til you and your friends are dancing near them and their friends. Then smile. Lot's.
Well, thats my pennys worth anyway.
I don't ever really pull in clubs, I've only done once or twice. I find it a bit intimidating, as everyone can be very loud and drunk. I guess as long as you let the person see you looking, the rest should follow on. Eye contact is the key!
Well, thats my pennys worth anyway.
I don't ever really pull in clubs, I've only done once or twice. I find it a bit intimidating, as everyone can be very loud and drunk. I guess as long as you let the person see you looking, the rest should follow on. Eye contact is the key!
Reply 6
From my personal experience I find that the easy going attitude works.
Or you could just try the 70 - 30 rule?
Or you could just try the 70 - 30 rule?
jumpunderaboat
Moonwalk through the crowds into the middle of the dance floor then break into the ROBOT...if you haven't got girls swarming on you by now jump into the WORM and get your freak on!
LOL That always works for me. But the swarms of girls are usually female friends trying to get me off the dancefloor.
It depends totally on the club you go to (what a generic answer...). If it's the kind of club where girls go to get a guy or if it's the kind of club where the girls are "totally above that kind of pathetic attitude". In the former, you get girls who end up getting it on with some guy before even saying a word. That's never seemed appealing. I'd rather start talking a bit before moving in. Even if it means making a fool of myself by saying something stupid. It's much nicer to get a girl who at least finds one or two of the things you say interesting.
Then again, don't listen to me. I've only pulled 4 or 5 times in clubs (I'm 23) and most of the time, that hasn't led very far anyway. But hey, once I pulled a Russian model at an after-fashion show party. So you never know...
Reply 8
I've pulled many times in clubs, but it's not that great. Nothing has ever come of it - occasionally I might give someone my number but if they text me the next day (which admittedly is a rarity anyway! 
) I usually ignore them because the kind of behaviour you get up to in clubs seems a bit cheap and distasteful the morning after.
The only thing it's good for is if you're in a situation like you're in right now where you need to get over someone and regain some confidence that you are still attractive and can still pull - after you've done that get back out into the real world and start some real relationships!
Oh, and the best way to do it...just have a few drinks and go for it. Offer to buy a girl a drink or something. Don't worry about that one you met before, she was probably just shy! You must be a fairly attractive, decent human being if you had a girlfriend for three years.
) I usually ignore them because the kind of behaviour you get up to in clubs seems a bit cheap and distasteful the morning after. The only thing it's good for is if you're in a situation like you're in right now where you need to get over someone and regain some confidence that you are still attractive and can still pull - after you've done that get back out into the real world and start some real relationships!
Oh, and the best way to do it...just have a few drinks and go for it. Offer to buy a girl a drink or something. Don't worry about that one you met before, she was probably just shy! You must be a fairly attractive, decent human being if you had a girlfriend for three years.
Reply 9
Also: what's the 70:30 attitude?
Reply 10
Personal trick of mine. Wait at the bar. If you see someone fit at the bar then order them a drink.
Pulled 3, yeh not many, but still 3 ....... this way.
Corny as hell! So what! I dont care. Ill never see them again, so whats there to lose.......
I never bother getting numbers or anything. To much hassle to ring them up..... haha!
Pulled 3, yeh not many, but still 3 ....... this way.
Corny as hell! So what! I dont care. Ill never see them again, so whats there to lose.......
I never bother getting numbers or anything. To much hassle to ring them up..... haha!
Reply 11
Angel_Cake
Also: what's the 70:30 attitude?
Isn't that to do with how far you lean in for a kiss or something? I don't know, i'm not experienced in these matters...
Reply 12
Haha. That reminds me ....... anyone seen Hitch? The 90:10 rule!
Very funny film!
Very funny film!
Reply 13
Yeah_butno
Haha. That reminds me ....... anyone seen Hitch! The 90:10 rule!
Very funny!
Very funny!
Yeah, thats why i said i thought that the 70:30 thing was similar. Haven't seen it, but the promos have been on tv enough...
oo...something ive noticed, is try and try and you will succeed!! i saw this one guy try it on with not only me and my friend (REJECTED) but also like 4 other girls, he finally pulled .. ( by starting with dancing behind some1 and then u know gradually dancing with them ... ) !
so i guess, if you try you will succeed!!
so i guess, if you try you will succeed!!
lessthanthree
I've done the gradual dance thing before and it worked, although I have to admit, one time this guy just started randomly dancing with me [behind me] and I freaked out because he was old.
*shudder* that's the most horrendous thing! Most men that try that approach are very drunk and think that any girl could be theirs.. and how could any girl resist him thrusting his crotch into her?
I'd definitely go with the eye contact and conversation approach, or if you do the dancing thing, make eye contact and approach from the front! Don't be disappointed if she moves away with her friends though (we do this a lot, men randomly try and join in with us and we either move away or edge him out) sometimes it's because she doesn't like you, she might have a bf or she might just not be up for pulling because she's having a girly night out.
I have absolutely no idea.
I've been either single and not looking, or in a serious relationship since I was 15. I have no idea at all about dating, picking up girls or anything. To be honest, the idea of making anything happen with someone I don't already know, and am comfortable with, scares the **** out of me!
I've been either single and not looking, or in a serious relationship since I was 15. I have no idea at all about dating, picking up girls or anything. To be honest, the idea of making anything happen with someone I don't already know, and am comfortable with, scares the **** out of me!
Reply 18
To be honest, i dont think pulling in clubs always turns out so great - unless you're not looking for anything to happen afterwards...you cant talk properly so i always find it really difficult to know whether i like a guy or not in that kind of situation & im sure i dont project the greatest image of myself either.....
That said i suppose asking to buy them a drink & then steering them over to a seat is probably the best option as then its away from the dancefloor & possibly quieter.
Also, as i think someone has already said, it depends on the type of club.
That said i suppose asking to buy them a drink & then steering them over to a seat is probably the best option as then its away from the dancefloor & possibly quieter.
Also, as i think someone has already said, it depends on the type of club.
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