is it possible to completly change yourself?

i've recently realised that i dont really like myself. its not that i'm a horrible person as such.
just i'm very opinionated and quite loud and ....well frankly mean.
i'm very sarcastic which in its self doesnt always work when trying to show yourself in a nice way. but my sarcasm is generally based around being mean. you know how it is when you are mean as a way of amusing people.
it not that i dont have any friends cos i do, and some of them are like me tho by no means all of them, i suppose i'm just concerned about how others percieve me.
this probly isnt making much sense but what i really want to know is if it is possible to conciously change yourself? i dunno :confused:

Reply 1

winged_hippo

i went the other way. i used to be really quiet and timid, now i'm loud(er) and have developed a sense of humour. i still find myself annoying, i think people always do. change isnt always good

Reply 2

babybrittie07

i dont think that you cn change yourself,but if you find out that you can let me know how you did it because the way you described yourself sounds just like me so let me know ASAP. :p:

Reply 3

queenselphie

wanting to change is a good sign, and it's the first step

You need to remember that if you are changing for other people, you may grow to resent them and feel you've repressed who you really are.

On the other hand, if you are doing this for yourself thats a far better reason, we all want to like ourselves, I'd imagine.

Now, I remember hearing on a program, and I'm not sure if this is true, that up to the age of 30 humans can change their personality and habits with relative ease. It's to do with impulses in your brain always firing down a certain path, but when we are young its easy to grow new paths, as such, so making a habit of something makes us more and more likely to do it naturally. If you want to change, it is possible.

But it's possible that you are just being overly critical of yourself, and you're actually a nicer person than you think, so remember to look at your good points as well as the bad.

Reply 4

Zurich

You can't change who you are, but you can change how you act.

Think before you open your mouth, consider someone's feelings before you do or say something to them. Treat people as you would want to be treated yourself.

Reply 5

SilverWings

I think that changing yourself is a bad idea... Im a very shy, introverted person... I'm quiet and keep myself to myself... I hate being this way and I wish I could be more outgoing and friendly but, at the end of the day, thats not the person I am... I think if you're true to yourself, you're the best person you could ever be, and someone out there will love you for who you are, because there is a partner for everyone, and friends for everyone... Just an opinion tho... but yeah, don't change because of what other people think, because you'll end up back where you started - being yourself