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Do opposites really attract?

Well, when i have a look at all the good relationships around ppl are opposites to some degree, so do opposites attract, bcos i've been out with similar guys but its never lasted.

Reply 1

Sian01

12

_mad_moo_

Well, when i have a look at all the good relationships around ppl are opposites to some degree, so do opposites attract, bcos i've been out with similar guys but its never lasted.

Me and my bf are verrrryy opposite, and we seem to be doing ok! I think it all depends on what the opposites are really. If you disagree on almost everything, are always doing different things, its never going to work. But if you both make compromises, then it does :smile:

Reply 2

babybrittie07

I think that oppiste to attract, but then agian you have to be somewhat alike....me nad my boy are diffent in some ways and alike in others and our relationship is going great!!!!

Reply 3

queenselphie

I' ve fancied a lot of people who were my opposite...I think maybe it's a good thing to have a few fundemental things in common though. It's fun to be different, and debate, but if your basic values in life are very different, or if you both have very different ideas about relationships, things can be tricky to hold together.
My ex came from a very different background from me, and we had a lot of different ideas about the future, which eventually caused problems and we split up. He had a bad attitude to money amoung other things, which can be one of the big problems.

Reply 4

Mad Vlad

19

I look for girls who are quite similar to me... I don't think i could deal with going out with a chav or summat... ugh!

Reply 5

Harv616

9

Hmmm so that means i should end up with a good looking, smart, funny, populer gir whos good in bedl..................no i dont think oposites attract

Reply 6

PublicSchoolAnn

13

Pah. How do you explain me seeing idiots?
Okay leave it be actually...

Reply 7

*Gemz-ee*

I think they do

I'm attracted to a lot of boys who are completely opposite to me

Reply 8

saz_1989

2

Opposites attract but unless you have stuff in common you won't last. But be too similar and you'll get bored.

Reply 9

RetiredAccount89

18

_mad_moo_

Well, when i have a look at all the good relationships around ppl are opposites to some degree, so do opposites attract, bcos i've been out with similar guys but its never lasted.

its a balance. no one wants to date their mirror image. Same time you can't date your complete opposite. I mean extrovert v introvert, sporty v sloth., nymph v prude.
itd be bad plan. very short term

Reply 10

SilverWings

14

Opposites TOTALLY attract... at first... foolfarians right...

foolfarian

Same time you can't date your complete opposite. I mean extrovert v introvert, sporty v sloth., nymph v prude.
itd be bad plan. very short term

Me and my last gf both took a personality score and got LITERALLY opposite scores on things... She tended to be outgoing, I was more closed up... Im into science and maths and computers... Shes into art and english and drama... it was wierd but the fact that I didnt like myself, and she was so unlike me, made me like her even more... and I think she liked me because she was always trying to get me to come out of my shell, and I think she liked the way that I was uncomfortable in certain situations, because she could make me feel better...

But in the end it was the fact we were so different that split us up. Arguements broke out becuase I didnt act bothered enough about whatever, or Id get stressed because she was making me meet people and talk to people I never would have...

I think that opposites do attract, because its something new, exotic and different... but when it comes to it, you gotta have summat in common with the person you're with, otherwise you'll end up srguing about every little thing...

Sorry to blab on but I saw the thread title and couldnt help myself...

Oh, and as well... I dont think seeing someone that is too like you is any good either... I agree with Lozza on that... ud prolly get bored...

Reply 11

RetiredAccount89

18

SIlverWings

Opposites TOTALLY attract... at first... foolfarians right...

Me and my last gf both took a personality score and got LITERALLY opposite scores on things... She tended to be outgoing, I was more closed up... Im into science and maths and computers... Shes into art and english and drama... it was wierd but the fact that I didnt like myself, and she was so unlike me, made me like her even more... and I think she liked me because she was always trying to get me to come out of my shell, and I think she liked the way that I was uncomfortable in certain situations, because she could make me feel better...

But in the end it was the fact we were so different that split us up. Arguements broke out becuase I didnt act bothered enough about whatever, or Id get stressed because she was making me meet people and talk to people I never would have...

I think that opposites do attract, because its something new, exotic and different... but when it comes to it, you gotta have summat in common with the person you're with, otherwise you'll end up srguing about every little thing...

Sorry to blab on but I saw the thread title and couldnt help myself...

Oh, and as well... I dont think seeing someone that is too like you is any good either... I agree with Lozza on that... ud prolly get bored...

see academically its sometimes good to date someone with different interests - someone doing a different subject for instance. helps make for better conversation

Reply 12

SilverWings

14

foolfarian

see academically its sometimes good to date someone with different interests - someone doing a different subject for instance. helps make for better conversation

Yeah... I mean, the fact that we liked totally different things was kool, because we both learnt so much from each other... and conversation never ran dry... only trouble is, that conversation turned kinda sour when an arguement broke out... we were a little TOO different...

Reply 13

khil

15

To a certain degree yes and no... I mean, like, well friendship-wise anyway, all my friends are the quiet type, and reserved - and I'm quite enthusiastic and most certainly not the quiet type lol, generally very opened etc. My best friend is very quiet and my ex is quite monotone a lot of the times, very reserved...

But all of us are very firm in our values and ideas and especially my ex who's quite blunt like me - and all of us are pretty smart (them two anyway, Cambridge student/student-to-be). We're all helpful and friendly and generally we're very caring towards each other etc, and we're quite honest about stuff.

So it depends on what the differences are exactly - some differences can make the relationship more interesting, or help it, like two chatty people put together wouldn't reeeeally work well, and neither would two very shy people - although those combinations probably do exist, but you know what I mean!

Reply 14

KuinKra

1

_mad_moo_

Well, when i have a look at all the good relationships around ppl are opposites to some degree, so do opposites attract, bcos i've been out with similar guys but its never lasted.

No. Just no.

I see a chavette and I want to vomit, not get with her.

Reply 15

Hana_87

16

Hmmmmm.... Well i think there is definately something called too oppositte. For instance my boyfriend HATES the fact im not into cars like he is *sigh* and i WISH he would enjoy shopping 24/7. But now we try and get into each others likes so that we don't argue.

If you have really different opinions then i don't think it will work. Argh i don't know. Its a personal thing. Its too hard to generalise about everyone. No relationship is the same.

Reply 16

SciFi25

1

My gf and I have virtually nothing in common, but as we both have alot of respect for each other and are tolerant of the other its not caused any problems.

Reply 17

Lana

4

I wish I knew the answer.

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