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can't think what to say
i'm at uni and pulled a girl from my mates flat. i've got her number but don't really know her that well and wouldn't mind seeing her tonight. can anyone give me some advice with what to put in a text message or what to say to her on the phone other than the obvious just straight out asking? i want it to seem quite casual.
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ask her if she wants to go out to get to know each other
ben3085
i'm at uni and pulled a girl from my mates flat. i've got her number but don't really know her that well and wouldn't mind seeing her tonight. can anyone give me some advice with what to put in a text message or what to say to her on the phone other than the obvious just straight out asking? i want it to seem quite casual.
Say something like:
'Hey, hope you're ok! I'm going to ______ with some mates tonight and wondered if you fancied coming along- would be cool to see you again! xx'
perhaps!! :-)
or alternatively you could go the whole hog and ask her out- i'm sure she'd be flattered :-)
Good luck!!
Ruthie xx
Hmm tough one ... I'd leave it until you know her a bit better until you start putting kisses at the end of texts ... girls really tend to read into texts.
i've drafted this text:
"hey, hope you're doing okay and enjoyed todays sun! are you out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to imagine or the union bar, but i kinda feel like staying in"
thoughts?
i'm not even sure whether to send a message at all. 2 days after we pulled i sent her a message and she didn't reply - thing is i don't know if she's playing hard to get or just not interested. did see her the other night and she was fine with me. if she wasn't interested then surely the last time i sent her a text she'd have replied saying "thanks but no thanks" or something?
"hey, hope you're doing okay and enjoyed todays sun! are you out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to imagine or the union bar, but i kinda feel like staying in"
thoughts?
i'm not even sure whether to send a message at all. 2 days after we pulled i sent her a message and she didn't reply - thing is i don't know if she's playing hard to get or just not interested. did see her the other night and she was fine with me. if she wasn't interested then surely the last time i sent her a text she'd have replied saying "thanks but no thanks" or something?
Yeah that sounds fine - friendly rather than flirty, which is good at this stage. I'd send it her ... there could have been a number of reasons she didn't reply to the last one so it's worth another shot.
ben3085
i've drafted this text:
"hey, hope you're doing okay and enjoyed todays sun! are you out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to imagine or the union bar, but i kinda feel like staying in"
thoughts?
i'm not even sure whether to send a message at all. 2 days after we pulled i sent her a message and she didn't reply - thing is i don't know if she's playing hard to get or just not interested. did see her the other night and she was fine with me. if she wasn't interested then surely the last time i sent her a text she'd have replied saying "thanks but no thanks" or something?
"hey, hope you're doing okay and enjoyed todays sun! are you out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to imagine or the union bar, but i kinda feel like staying in"
thoughts?
i'm not even sure whether to send a message at all. 2 days after we pulled i sent her a message and she didn't reply - thing is i don't know if she's playing hard to get or just not interested. did see her the other night and she was fine with me. if she wasn't interested then surely the last time i sent her a text she'd have replied saying "thanks but no thanks" or something?
hmmm not sure about the whole sun thing - a little mundane? and put something like "what are you up to?" at the end
i think
'Hey, how r u doing? I'm going to ______ with tonight do u wana come?would be cool to see you again! x'
and yea, guys always put 'x' at the end of txts to girls. doesnt mean anything,my guy mates do that 2 everyone. i think u should. i got pulled at a party and the guy txt me to ask me out and he didnt put the 'x' and i was insulted!
and dont be friedly , flirt otherwise shell think u gone off her.
'Hey, how r u doing? I'm going to ______ with tonight do u wana come?would be cool to see you again! x'
and yea, guys always put 'x' at the end of txts to girls. doesnt mean anything,my guy mates do that 2 everyone. i think u should. i got pulled at a party and the guy txt me to ask me out and he didnt put the 'x' and i was insulted!
and dont be friedly , flirt otherwise shell think u gone off her.
no its not!!!!!!!
you PULLED her!!!!! its gonna be awkward anyway!!! at least make some effort!!!or she'll tell her mates that u r a moron!
the guy who pulled me was really really shy, didnt have any experience at all, and he got so shy on the day of the date he said 'hey,somethings come up' fool. im angry and gonna ignore him now cos he is not a real man
there's no way out of it.
if u r shy, dont flirt. just leave it a few days (3 days after u last pulled her) then send
'hey how r u doing, just wondering do u wana go 4 a drink tonite? ben x' then she'll either say yes, then she fancies u, or wont reply then she doesnt. if she doesnt, just be mates, will be ok!
the worst thing if u like her is to do nothing
you PULLED her!!!!! its gonna be awkward anyway!!! at least make some effort!!!or she'll tell her mates that u r a moron!
the guy who pulled me was really really shy, didnt have any experience at all, and he got so shy on the day of the date he said 'hey,somethings come up' fool. im angry and gonna ignore him now cos he is not a real man
there's no way out of it.
if u r shy, dont flirt. just leave it a few days (3 days after u last pulled her) then send
'hey how r u doing, just wondering do u wana go 4 a drink tonite? ben x' then she'll either say yes, then she fancies u, or wont reply then she doesnt. if she doesnt, just be mates, will be ok!
the worst thing if u like her is to do nothing
ben3085
i think i've decided not to send it.
she's one of my best mate's flatmates here on campus so if she didnt relpy i'd have to see her still quite a bit.
then again we're only back for exams after the easter break and then living off-campus the term after that.
damnit this is hard.
she's one of my best mate's flatmates here on campus so if she didnt relpy i'd have to see her still quite a bit.
then again we're only back for exams after the easter break and then living off-campus the term after that.
damnit this is hard.
Hmmm do you know if she's talked about you to your mate or any of their other flatmates?
better still, CALL her.
sounds scary, but at least then you can tell by her voice exactly how she is feeling.practise a few times, just say 'hi, this is ben, how r u?' she'll say 'hi ben, havent seen much of u recently, yea im ok' then u say 'i was wondering if wana go down the bar tonite, everyone seems to be going, should be good' then she'll say 'no im busy' (if she doesnt like you) or 'yea sure i'll be ready in 30 mins (if she does).
if she doesnt wana, then u say, sure ok catch u later.
then you can ignore her!
sounds scary, but at least then you can tell by her voice exactly how she is feeling.practise a few times, just say 'hi, this is ben, how r u?' she'll say 'hi ben, havent seen much of u recently, yea im ok' then u say 'i was wondering if wana go down the bar tonite, everyone seems to be going, should be good' then she'll say 'no im busy' (if she doesnt like you) or 'yea sure i'll be ready in 30 mins (if she does).
if she doesnt wana, then u say, sure ok catch u later.
then you can ignore her!
at least with a text i don't have to face rejection directly.
okay, i've got this message now:
"hey, hope you're doing okay, r u out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to the union bar or imagine but the hot weather made me lazy! ben"
i can't call her. don't know her well enough plus knowing my luck she'll be somewhere really noisy and it'd end up being one of those really awkward conversations.
EDIT: that text looks well lame now i've read it back.
okay, i've got this message now:
"hey, hope you're doing okay, r u out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to the union bar or imagine but the hot weather made me lazy! ben"
i can't call her. don't know her well enough plus knowing my luck she'll be somewhere really noisy and it'd end up being one of those really awkward conversations.
EDIT: that text looks well lame now i've read it back.
Yeah I think text is better, saves both of you being awkward. Uuuuh how about take the hot weather bit off and put 'but not sure yet' or nothing ...
ben3085
at least with a text i don't have to face rejection directly.
okay, i've got this message now:
"hey, hope you're doing okay, r u out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to the union bar or imagine but the hot weather made me lazy! ben"
i can't call her. don't know her well enough plus knowing my luck she'll be somewhere really noisy and it'd end up being one of those really awkward conversations.
EDIT: that text looks well lame now i've read it back.
okay, i've got this message now:
"hey, hope you're doing okay, r u out tonight? i'm supposed to be going to the union bar or imagine but the hot weather made me lazy! ben"
i can't call her. don't know her well enough plus knowing my luck she'll be somewhere really noisy and it'd end up being one of those really awkward conversations.
EDIT: that text looks well lame now i've read it back.
awww
ok then, dont call her.
use my text!
hey, hope you're doing okay, r u out tonight?Everyone's going to ______ ,do u wana come? ben x'
that looks friendly and flirty!
anyway, if you dont text her it'll look like YOU rjected HER. when u pulled her, im assuming u kissed her, so therefore you shouldnt be shy!
be brave good fellow!call her...
see my post txting leaves u in the dark..
see my post txting leaves u in the dark..
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