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Can't be bothered with the initial stuff
I have had the chance with a few girls recently who I think could have ended up in something more but to be honest I just cannot be bothered to go through the whole 'first bit of a relationship thing'. I just want the kind of relationship that people have that have been going out for years (like best friends) sort of thing but am not interested in the bits that come before that.
I don't think I am making any sense lol. Ok to try and clarify the 'initial bits', things like flirting, making first moves and all of that kind of stuff. To be honest I am not really interested in the sexual side of relationships either which I think is weird for my age.
I think I am weird lol, does anyone else feel like this?
I don't think I am making any sense lol. Ok to try and clarify the 'initial bits', things like flirting, making first moves and all of that kind of stuff. To be honest I am not really interested in the sexual side of relationships either which I think is weird for my age.
I think I am weird lol, does anyone else feel like this?
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well go out with one of ur mates?
Aww. Am I the only one that loves all the initial bits? All the silly 'trying-to-not-be-too-obvious-but-a-little-bit-flirty' texts and conversations? All the uncertainty...it's great!
I'm afraid there's no way around it: even if you did decide you liked one of your friends in 'that way', you'd still have to go through asking them out/first date/first kiss, etc.
Tough :P
I'm afraid there's no way around it: even if you did decide you liked one of your friends in 'that way', you'd still have to go through asking them out/first date/first kiss, etc.
Tough :P
Sarah7
Aww. Am I the only one that loves all the initial bits? All the silly 'trying-to-not-be-too-obvious-but-a-little-bit-flirty' texts and conversations? All the uncertainty...it's great!
I'm afraid there's no way around it: even if you did decide you liked one of your friends in 'that way', you'd still have to go through asking them out/first date/first kiss, etc.
Tough :P
I'm afraid there's no way around it: even if you did decide you liked one of your friends in 'that way', you'd still have to go through asking them out/first date/first kiss, etc.
Tough :P
Think being single is easier hehe! Going to just concentrate on my degree and friends and forget all that relationship stuff.
NikNak
I have had the chance with a few girls recently who I think could have ended up in something more
at the same time?
most genuine relationships seem to transpire when you're not actively looking for them, so do what you said with regards the degree and friends and you never know what'll be around the next corner
i was actually talking about thsi yesterday with someone who was saying he was fed up with all the games he and a girl in my flat have been playing, and that he just wants a 'normal' relationship that's pretty honest (like mine)... i don't think i could be bothered with the whole getting to know someone stage, i'm far too used to being in a ltr...
lou xxx
lou xxx
Bro... what? - the first bits are the best bits.
It's all good - the chase is fun too, not just the great feeling when you're with someone you absolutely love.
NikNak
I have had the chance with a few girls recently who I think could have ended up in something more but to be honest I just cannot be bothered to go through the whole 'first bit of a relationship thing'. I just want the kind of relationship that people have that have been going out for years (like best friends) sort of thing but am not interested in the bits that come before that.
I don't think I am making any sense lol. Ok to try and clarify the 'initial bits', things like flirting, making first moves and all of that kind of stuff. To be honest I am not really interested in the sexual side of relationships either which I think is weird for my age.
I think I am weird lol, does anyone else feel like this?
I don't think I am making any sense lol. Ok to try and clarify the 'initial bits', things like flirting, making first moves and all of that kind of stuff. To be honest I am not really interested in the sexual side of relationships either which I think is weird for my age.
I think I am weird lol, does anyone else feel like this?
i met my boyfriend through a friend...and a week later we were going out. we never really had that awkward first move bit...and been together nearly 2 years now!
so when you meet the right person it will just happen
NikNak
Think being single is easier hehe! Going to just concentrate on my degree and friends and forget all that relationship stuff.
To be honest, a stable relationship or a relationship where things remain simple would probably help you more in your life and studies than being single.
If you don't have any form of relationship, you can get quite a bit frustrated, which is the worst thing ever if you want to focus on work.
A friend recently joked about the successful student life and I think I agree with him: you need plenty of sex, you need to go out a lot at the weekend and that way when it comes to focusing on work, that's all you have to focus on.
It's all about keeping a balance really.
When I first got out of a long term relationship a few months ago, I felt a lot like how you described.
I went out with some friends, and everyone was doing the whole looking at each other accross the bar, flirting, making the first moves, getting drunk etc. and I thought "this isn't for me. I can't be bothered with the initial stages, I don't have the energy it requires to meet someone new, cant deal with the worry of rejection, finding out all about someone, it seems like too much hassle" ...yet I was lonely, and I guess what I really wanted was to date my best male friend, who wasn't interested. :-s
In the end, I met people in other ways, and they were friends before I looked at them as possible love interests, which is always a good way to start :-)
I do generally enjoy the thrill of the chase, but I know people who don't. I also know people who like the flirting, but don't like to follow it up with anything sexual. We're all different.
Also, if you don't feel compelled beyong reistance to be with someone, chances are the feelings arent that strong, and they aren't a good bet to date anyway, Im sure you know when you really fall for someone, you'd do anything to be with them :-) You can't just date someone because they are interested in you.
Dont worry too much, and hope you sort this out
I went out with some friends, and everyone was doing the whole looking at each other accross the bar, flirting, making the first moves, getting drunk etc. and I thought "this isn't for me. I can't be bothered with the initial stages, I don't have the energy it requires to meet someone new, cant deal with the worry of rejection, finding out all about someone, it seems like too much hassle" ...yet I was lonely, and I guess what I really wanted was to date my best male friend, who wasn't interested. :-s
In the end, I met people in other ways, and they were friends before I looked at them as possible love interests, which is always a good way to start :-)
I do generally enjoy the thrill of the chase, but I know people who don't. I also know people who like the flirting, but don't like to follow it up with anything sexual. We're all different.
Also, if you don't feel compelled beyong reistance to be with someone, chances are the feelings arent that strong, and they aren't a good bet to date anyway, Im sure you know when you really fall for someone, you'd do anything to be with them :-) You can't just date someone because they are interested in you.
Dont worry too much, and hope you sort this out
its hard being single when all the guys you know are either attached or you're not interested/they arent interested. to meet someone completely new is sometimes hard. (esp for me atm as stuck in all girls school). and in bars etc you either meet sex maniacs looking for a one night stand or losers! it sucks! just chill out and hopefully we'll all meet someone we love eventually :-)
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