If you&#x27;ve slept with somone, is it ok to later sleep with their mates?

puppy

Just wondered what people thought about this, or if they had some ridiculous morals regarding it. Maybe people have had good or bad experiences concerning this. I don't know, I'm bored.

Puppy, why do you try to reassure yourself? Whatever you do, you'll have to accept that some guys will not respect you because of it. You can't just say "It's my past, none of your business!" What kind of attitude is that? How do you expect to get close to someone with that kind of attitude?

Reply 2

Feefifofum

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Depends on the situation I think - how close you are to any of them etc. Can lead to ridiculous complications and tensions between the two other epople involved, especially if there are still some feelings on the part of the 1st person you slept with. Not that I've had any experience of this, so I'm probably no the best one to comment

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Johnny 5

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puppy

Just wondered what people thought about this, or if they had some ridiculous morals regarding it. Maybe people have had good or bad experiences concerning this. I don't know, I'm bored.

I can understand the good part of the experience, how could it be bad?

Reply 4

puppy

OP

SamTheMan

Puppy, why do you try to reassure yourself? Whatever you do, you'll have to accept that some guys will not respect you because of it. You can't just say "It's my past, none of your business!" What kind of attitude is that? How do you expect to get close to someone with that kind of attitude?

What? I don't want reassuring, I'll do what I damned well like.

Stick to the point.

Reply 5

puppy

What? I don't want reassuring, I'll do what I damned well like.

Stick to the point.

OK. Do it. Whatever. Don't expect any respect from any of them though.

Reply 6

trouttrout

yeah

Reply 7

veryjammy

SamTheMan

OK. Do it. Whatever. Don't expect any respect from any of them though.

when it comes to sex ur obsessed with 'respect' and 'decency' and 'morals'.

Do what u want sexually, experiment, ur only young and have this much sexual freedom once. If it turns out bad learn from it and dont do it again. At least u won't look back like some of the repressed people on here and realise u never explored ur sexuality properly

Reply 8

puppy

OP

SamTheMan

OK. Do it. Whatever. Don't expect any respect from any of them though.

FFS I'm not talking about me. Do you think I'd come on an Internet forum to ask people for advice about my private life? Don't be so ridiculous. This is a general question I'm asking to find out what peoples' attitudes are. Where did I say this was anything to do with me?

Reply 9

puppy

FFS I'm not talking about me. Do you think I'd come on an Internet forum to ask people for advice about my private life? Don't be so ridiculous. This is a general question I'm asking to find out what peoples' attitudes are. Where did I say this was anything to do with me?

OK It's nothing to do with you. Sorry.

Reply 10

Lidka

I don't think that'd be OK - I'd hate it if an ex of mine slept with my friends, so why should I sleep with my ex's? It'd be too much hassle, and hurt too many people.

Reply 11

Luize

an ex of mine has slept with my best friend.
It doesn't bother me, it wasn't while we were together and so why should I. And she never knew that he was an ex.
I'm still friends with the guy, she isn't. We don't really talk about him much. And certainly don't talk about anything sexual, the only times that has happened is when both drunk and in a mood with him...

Reply 12

Beekeeper

veryjammy

when it comes to sex ur obsessed with 'respect' and 'decency' and 'morals'.

Do what u want sexually, experiment, ur only young and have this much sexual freedom once. If it turns out bad learn from it and dont do it again. At least u won't look back like some of the repressed people on here and realise u never explored ur sexuality properly

hmm, if you were a woman, myself and my friends would refer to you as HORIZONALLY ACCESSIBLE.

Reply 13

But I'd say shag everything in sight... and the day you meet a guy you really like, tell him it's none of his business, what you did in the past. He won't mind at all that what you're sharing with him, you've shared with pretty much everyone, including random assholes. You just have to tell him that you're having "love" sex not just "fun" sex. Right :rolleyes:

The secret to a successful romantic relationship!

Reply 14

Kew

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puppy

Just wondered what people thought about this, or if they had some ridiculous morals regarding it. Maybe people have had good or bad experiences concerning this. I don't know, I'm bored.

So how exactly are morals 'ridiculous'?

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Beekeeper

kew96158

So how exactly are morals 'ridiculous'?

I was thinking exactly the same...
I don't go bending all my friends over, but it's not because of any 'ridiculous morals', it's because i'm not that... loose.

As far as actual morals go, some are rididiculous, and some are rude and selfish... but not in this case.

Reply 16

puppy

OP

kew96158

So how exactly are morals 'ridiculous'?

Morals that are ridiculous are ridiculous. It's an adjective.

Reply 17

Ericz

veryjammy

when it comes to sex ur obsessed with 'respect' and 'decency' and 'morals'.

Do what u want sexually, experiment, ur only young and have this much sexual freedom once. If it turns out bad learn from it and dont do it again. At least u won't look back like some of the repressed people on here and realise u never explored ur sexuality properly

I reckon you should very well know my answer from my previous postings in the other thread. No hard feelings really, to anyone. Maybe I am just too conservative where sex is concerned, especially to the person I truly love.

I am of the view that one should really preserve their virginity for their true love. However, when will that true love comes and how will you know it? That is really a hard question to answer.

I can understand that there could be unforeseen difficulties but not to the extent of having swapped one boyfriend after another and having sex so easily with all of them. It is even worse when they are not even your boyfriends or the person you loved, trusted to start with.

Yes, people do say, enjoy your sexual life while you still can but wouldn't one want to save his/her first time for the person who really appreciates, treasures, cherishes and truly loves him/her?

I don't know. Maybe like what I said, I am just too conservative on this.

Reply 18

Ericz

puppy

Just wondered what people thought about this, or if they had some ridiculous morals regarding it. Maybe people have had good or bad experiences concerning this. I don't know, I'm bored.

Oops.. I almost forgotten to answer the question. :eek:

Well, personally I don't quite approve of it.

It's not just because of conservativeness but also it might ruin two good friends' friendship. Of course the former takes much more precedence over the latter.

But of course, if the "someone" and his mate are only interested in getting inside you and doesn't possess the slightest thought of being in love with you.. then I reckon that both of them might not mind. After all, it's free treat for them. They will be okay with the idea.

But are you happy knowing that they are just making use of you as a tool to them?

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veryjammy