Hes Gay

ok basically my friend has just told me what i already suspected that my younger cousin is gay. He is apparantly open about it at college and my friends sister is in his group, hence how i found out. So im now confused and a little worried about him because if our family findout i just know he'l be shunned. (there a typical Asian family) And i want to know he can talk to me about it and that ive got his back. But i really don't know why but im feeling upset and let down about him being gay. I always thought i was a laid back person and i seriously don't have problems with anyone gay, but yet im feeling this way.
How should i go about it? i don't want to dob the girl in either :confused:

Reply 1

RaniBee

lessthanthree

it is natural to feel a bit ":\" when you first hear that someone is not what they appear.

Maybe what your feeling is not uneasiness at his sexuality, but concern for what his family might do if they find out.

why don't you drop him a text or call him to see how he's doing..maybe he'll open up to you and you can talk about how each other feels

thanx thats made me feel slightlt better, i just feel rotten about judging and maybe discriminating against my cousin, who i see as a lil brother really. Where close, i chat 2 him every week and he visits me, so its not like he hasnt had the chance.

Reply 2

queenselphie

as humans, generally we don't like change - we make all our actions and descisions based on the world as we know it. When we find out something new about someone we can react badly at first. I've known people react a million times worse than you have, so don't worry, keep giving your support, and you'll be doing a lot better than many people do. Shock isn't something to be ashamed of. You'll just be adjusting the way you treat this person and the world around you, and that takes time.

Reply 3

technik

queenselphie

as humans, generally we don't like change

as humans, generally we don't like difference.

Reply 4

queenselphie

very true...we arent a very tolerant lot are we? sigh.... :frown:

Reply 5

Eru Iluvatar

queenselphie

very true...we arent a very tolerant lot are we? sigh.... :frown:

Some of us maybe... but it isn't about tolerance, its about acceptance. Tolerance sounds like its something thats bad that people deal with because they have to. Its more important to accept it, regardless of your own opinion of it.

Reply 6

queenselphie

Tolerance sounds like its something thats bad

very wise! :p:

and true...I suppose tolerance is a better state to be in that intolerance though. and some people are pretty intolerant, so anything would be a step up :smile: