I fall for people so easily. What's wrong with me?!

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Hey everyone, I'd really appreciate some advice on this, or at least a virtual TSR hug :frown:

Basically, I keep falling for people who are unattainable. In December I was completely infatuated with a guy I work with who is 8 years older than me and thinks of me as his little sister. It felt really hopeless for a long time because I really REALLY liked him (I even felt like I was falling in love with him :redface:

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However, recently, I've completely fallen for someone else, and I don't feel anything at ALL towards the last guy I liked. It's literally gone from being completely tongue-tied-in-his-presence, all-consuming crush to absolutely zilch in about 3 days, and I'm feeling really strongly attracted to the someone-else all of a sudden (I've known him for a few months and never felt anything until about 11 days ago when we started talking a lot more on MSN and stuff) Is this normal?? :confused:

I feel really weird that I've fallen so hard for someone and then completely gone off them for absolutely no reason at all.

The guy I like now is also unattainable in that he's been with his girlfriend for 3 years and told me recently that he thinks she's the one :frown:

I don't even think this post makes much sense but I needed to vent a bit. I really wish I could fall for people who would like me back :frown:

Does anyone else feel like this?

Reply 1

letsdothetimewarpagain

19

Lots of people fall for people who are out of bounds. I think it is quite a common thing. Just keep going and eventually you will find the right person, who is within your reach. The people you have been attracted to in the past you should value as friends as friendships are great.

:-)

Reply 2

avÃ©ry

15

Tell me about it. I'm in the same situation as you right now.

And the feelings disappearing in three days thing? That's pretty normal; I think it's easier to put aside your feelings for someone if you have someone else to concentrate those feelings on.

Reply 3

Aeyer

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. I've certainly had my share of unattainable crushes over the years.

Wanting the impossible, unrequited love, reaching for the unreachable...it's all perfectly normal.

Reply 4

Ashimar

Lol, yeah tis normal! I fall for girls who are unattainable in a blink of an eye, it really is very very frustrating!

Reply 5

Mos Def

17

Word of warning: You will eventually fall for someone who you will start off thinking is unattainable as you say, and then realise they are attainable, and at that instant, or a little while after you will realise that you no longer 'feel' for this person any more. It seems as though your attraction is in the 'wanting what you can't get' ...if you can get it, there wont be any attraction, believe me :wink:

Reply 6

Simon Armstrong

I think some people can just naturally fall for people very easily,
I myself don't seem to have any build up between mild liking and unincompassing love! (almost)
Its not something you can change,
Just keep yourself grounded and remind yourself its infatuation and not love.
Sadly the curse of this is that you often fall for people despite other circumstances.
But the beauty is that as you have said a switch can happen at anytime,
And eventually you will like someone who perhaps has the same problem as you :smile:

Hopefully.

Reply 7

itsmyname

18

This has happened to me recently.... TWICE

But i didnt get over them as quick as u.... more like 3 MONTHS for both cases. After I got over the first one I used to just look at her and think to myself what on earth did I see in her. The second girl was a good friend that didnt like me back so had to get over her too.

Reply 8

Be myself

Mos Def

Word of warning: You will eventually fall for someone who you will start off thinking is unattainable as you say, and then realise they are attainable, and at that instant, or a little while after you will realise that you no longer 'feel' for this person any more. It seems as though your attraction is in the 'wanting what you can't get' ...if you can get it, there wont be any attraction, believe me :wink:

For the reason above! I think it is normal

Reply 9

hannah_dru

2

I always do this too. I fall for people for a very long time and then get over them very quickly. I was in love with my ex for 2 years before we got together and then for a year and a half when we dated. I got over him within a few days but he had treated me badly towards the end. I've liked this current guy for a year and a few months. But the guys I usually like are unattainable bar my ex.

Reply 10

CloudStrife

8

Happens a lot. :frown:

Just wish I could find the right girl :frown:

Reply 11

Lauz21

I've fallen for people easily most of the time and I know what you mean, it's rubbish when they're unattainable
I also get attached wayy too easily and have as a result been hurt a fair few times
Dw bout it it's normal, and believe me you'll know when you've found the right person :smile:

Reply 12

username4356790

2

I fall for people I barely know too easily. A few days ago I met this guy online on a game and I completely fell for him in literally a day. I flirted with him too and he seemed to like me back. Then two days later he randomly said I wasn’t his type, and even though I barely knew him, I felt completely heartbroken and I still love him so much. This has happened once before and the feelings fade a little bit if they messeged me again I know I would fall completely in love with him again. I fall for people in person too but I’m never confident enough to ask them out. I just want someone to love I think 😢

(edited 6 years ago)

Reply 13

Zasty

19

I'm like the total opposite lul

I fall for people so easily. What's wrong with me?!

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