A QUestion for the Females

I'm no girl, but my initial thought would be... get her number when she's not drunk, and she won't forget/regret you the next day.

Reply 3

caffecooki

10

i tend to be quite easy with giving my number out :rolleyes:

i can still be quite keen on whoever i gave it to but then i can wake up the next morning and think maybe they're not really worth it.
i suppose there would be more chance of going out if i had spent longer getting to know the male, and then the future meeting would be much more comfortable anyway :biggrin:

Reply 4

Zurich

I'm no girl, but my initial thought would be... get her number when she's not drunk, and she won't forget/regret you the next day.

Yep, pretty much. Also, just general tips, but try to talk to her a bit before you ask for her number (that way you look like you're actually interested in her, not just fancy the look of her), be nice to any mates she's with (no girl will ever like you if you're nasty to her fat mate), and when you do ask her out be casual and friendly, don't make it sound like you want to marry/sleep with her straight away.

Reply 5

queenselphie

speaking for myself, rather than for girls everywhere, if I gave a guy my number when Im out there are two likely possiblities:
1: Im too shy
2: two...erm...Im too shy :-p
seriously, dont under estimate the power of shyness...its much easier to talk to people in a crowd than alone on a dare, so it gets a bit scary :-D

Reply 6

Mr J

OP

No - I think you've missed the point here Zurich.

I'd honestly say, 80 to 90 percent of the time it's the woman who decides to pass me her number - not me asking for it.

I'm not pushy thereafter - may txt her a couple of days later if I'm interested etc. but lamost without exception its like trying to get blood out of a stone!!!

Reply 7

Beekeeper

13

aww man, people will have to stop putting 'women only'... its far too tempting to have a peek :p:

Reply 8

Mr J

No - I think you've missed the point here Zurich.

I'd honestly say, 80 to 90 percent of the time it's the woman who decides to pass me her number - not me asking for it.

I didn't mean that you forced it out of them, just that if they were drunk, they might feel differently about it the next morning. If they really wanted you to have their number last night, they might wake up thinking 'God, did I really do that, was I that forward? Argh scared! can't go out with him!' Or something equally silly and womany :p:

Reply 9

Mr J

I'd honestly say, 80 to 90 percent of the time it's the woman who decides to pass me her number - not me asking for it.

In that case, I'd almost definitely say that it's one of those things where it seems like a really good idea to give someone your number after having a few drinks - but then the next morning you decide/your mates tell you it's a bad idea to take it any further :smile:

but what do I know, I've never given my number to a guy like that :wink:

Reply 10

Zurich

I didn't mean that you forced it out of them, just that if they were drunk, they might feel differently about it the next morning. If they really wanted you to have their number last night, they might wake up thinking 'God, did I really do that, was I that forward? Argh scared! can't go out with him!' Or something equally silly and womany :p:

Yes! This is exactly what I was trying to say! Zurich, you're very good at thinking like a girl :wink:

Reply 11

Mr J

OP

Zurich

Then you have really come to my second point. Its no bad thing when women just hand their numbers over to you - I'm obviously not gonna stoip them. But how do I then get them out. Even if they're acting womany, there must be an easier way than txt and hope!

Come on girls, you're the only ones with the answers!

Reply 12

Natalie Lane

beekeeper_

aww man, people will have to stop putting 'women only'... its far too tempting to have a peek :p:

Zurich

I didn't mean that you forced it out of them, just that if they were drunk, they might feel differently about it the next morning. If they really wanted you to have their number last night, they might wake up thinking 'God, did I really do that, was I that forward? Argh scared! can't go out with him!' Or something equally silly and womany

You know, you're actually pretty insightful with the whole women's attitude thing. I've had to council 1000s of friends who did eactly that and thought the exact same thing the next day (just remove the part that says it's a 'silly womany' thing :mad:

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Reply 13

Mr J

But how do I then get them out. Even if they're acting womany, there must be an easier way than txt and hope!

Come on girls, you're the only ones with the answers!

You might do better by NOT asking them out initially. Start by sending a txt saying something like 'Hi, it's xxx, we met at [xxx bar/club] the other nite. was really nice chatting to you, hope you had a good time too'. Unless she's REEEEEALLY not interested, she will txt back and then you can actually start having a 'conversation'. It's much easier to go from that to 'would you like to have a drink sometime' than just go straight in with that, and girls like it better (well, I would).

Good luck :wink:

Reply 14

anita_xx

Yes! This is exactly what I was trying to say! Zurich, you're very good at thinking like a girl :wink:

Natalie Lane

You know, you're actually pretty insightful with the whole women's attitude thing.

I'm not sure whether to take them as compliments, or worry and become insecure about my manhood :redface:

think rugged manly grrrr things, football, beer, sleeping with women and not calling back, kebabs, strippers, DIY!

ahh, that's better!

Reply 15

Zurich

I'm not sure whether to take them as compliments, or worry and become insecure about my manhood :redface:

think rugged manly grrrr things, football, beer, sleeping with women and not calling back, kebabs, strippers, DIY!

ahh, that's better!

lol!! Well I meant it as a compliment, don't know about Natalie :wink:

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