Anxiety - Waiting for that text back...

I get really anxious when people don't text me back, or take a while to and I start thinking all sorts of bad things about myself.

I'm an anxious person generally.

I've just asked a guy out by text, and no reply!! :frown:

Imagine what this is doing to me.

Can you give me some tips on how to deal with the rejection, or feel less terrible please :frown:

Reply 1

Jazmine

If someone doesn't text back (it is a rare occurance that I text or phone back), then it could be because they don't have credit (like me) or they don't feel as if they have anything to say back that's worthy of paying 10p (or whatever the rate for them is) for. Also, they may not get the text straight away, so don't assume the worst 'cause you're probably wrong. If they don't text back for ages (the next day, kind of thing) then phone them up and ask them perhaps?

Regarding rejection, just try and shrug it off 'cause there's always other people and oppotunities out there. It's not the end of the world, you'll move on soon enough. You may feel bad, but so long as you can still get on with things (Maybe try and arrange other plans for yourself instead?) then it's all good. Try not to think about/focus on it too much.

Reply 2

VanillaLatte

hahahahha, i am sooo much like you ... but its getting better now cause i start accepting that most people simply dont have credit ...

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Just tell yourself if they fail to reply it's there loss.

Don't take it personally, move on. Take stock in the fact you had the confidence to ask him out and channel that positivity into finding someone else. :smile:

Reply 4

wannabe mexican

Anonymous

I've just asked a guy out by text, and no reply!! :frown:

Imagine what this is doing to me.

Can you give me some tips on how to deal with the rejection, or feel less terrible please :frown:

Tip 1. Don't ask people out in text.

I also get anxious when people don't text back, but I worry more that they have been hit by a car or, abducted or something.

Reply 5

fisherman

For important stuff, like asking people out, do it face to face, over the phone, or even msn. Not email/text.

Reply 6

LukeatForest

If I were anxious about not receiving a text back from somebody, and I'm sorry to say this but this is genuinely how I feel, I would be quite worried about myself. Texts are dependent on so many factors, and given the banal nature of text messages some will always be ignored, or else the person on the other end will look at them and think that there's not really much they can say in answer. I do this and it's not dismissive, even if it's discourteous, it's simply what happens. You need to relax and stop worrying that every little thing you do is going to destroy the Universe. Remember, only dividing by zero can do that.

Reply 7