do you have a best friend?

Hi. Is it normal to have a best friend or can one do without. I have a few "best friends", and each one is different. To one I can laugh, the other is more serious etc

However, I feel that some of my friends consider ME to be their best friend. The thing is, I don't really feel the same. Let's say I do something/go somewhere without a particular person, then the other will feel devastated. I'm really not saying that I'm "Mr popular" (cos I ain't).

Its just that I feel I am playing a major part in a few people's lives, but I cannot be there for each of them.

do any of you feel the same ?

Reply 1

AngelofnoColour

14

No, I dont have a best friend. I wish I had one sometimes. But having a good bunch of mates, where we're all close to each other, is ok, but I cant chat to just one about something, cos I end up feeling guilty and tell the others.
I used to have a best friend when I was younger in primary school, but since then never. And within my circle of friends, there are best friends between two of them, but not me :frown:

Maybe I just cant get very close to someone.

Reply 2

Harv616

9

Yeah i have one friend who i just couldt live without, we speek everyday :biggrin:

AND SHES GOING AWAY FOR 3 DAYS!!! :eek:

Reply 3

cobra

14

I kind of have 4 best friends, 3 at uni, 1 at home, all fro different situations

Reply 4

eurasianfeline

13

i don't have a "best friend"...cos everytime i think of someone as a "best friend"...that person sooner or later hurts me...and it's more painful than being hurt by anyone else.

so now i have some very close friends who i can trust...but i don't want to call anyone my "best friend" anymore.

Reply 5

need_money

9

I have a best friend yes. We're joined at the hip so whenever anyone sees one of us going about without the other it's common to hear "so where's your other half?" lol. We've known each other since we were about 3 and we live across the road from one another. Our mums talk and our sisters play together so we're pretty close and know everything about one another. I have a few other best friends but not my bestest friend if you know what i mean.

Reply 6

ZigZag

11

I have a few good friends, as apposed to a best friend.

Reply 7

eurasianfeline

13

need_money

I have a best friend yes. We're joined at the hip so whenever anyone sees one of us going about without the other it's common to hear "so where's your other half?" lol. We've known each other since we were about 3 and we live across the road from one another. Our mums talk and our sisters play together so we're pretty close and know everything about one another. I have a few other best friends but not my bestest friend if you know what i mean.

that's very sweet and doesn't happen every day. treasure your other half. *wink*

Reply 8

Sooz

1

Don't really have a best friend anymore, just a group of really good friends from school and other mates I've randomly picked up from other places!

Reply 9

amo1

14

i think i have 1 bst friend, who i define as the person i would take with me if there was only one space on a trip, but then i have about 6 other good m8s who i can talk to

Reply 10

ylime

Yes, but lately he's acting like he'd rather spend more time with other people :-(. After that though I have a group of about six and all of us are very close, and then a different two I've known for about my entire life. We don't talk as much as we used to and hang out with different groups now but still consider ourselves best friends.

Reply 11

Cheeky_Lickle_H

I have a small group of friends at college that I would consider to be my best friends, but I also have a friend in Wales that I class as a best friend. I don't think you can have one, i did and it hurt so much when she stabbed me in the back.

Reply 12

eurasianfeline

13

Cheeky_Lickle_H

I have a small group of friends at college that I would consider to be my best friends, but I also have a friend in Wales that I class as a best friend. I don't think you can have one, i did and it hurt so much when she stabbed me in the back.

i get what u mean.

Reply 13

Wild Thing

11

BhArJ

Yeah i have one friend who i just couldt live without, we speek everyday :biggrin:

AND SHES GOING AWAY FOR 3 DAYS!!! :eek:

yeah but theres a difference..,..you love her :rolleyes:

and yeah i have 2 bestfriends who id die to save them :smile:

I mean they know everything i've done, even teh most embarassing details,and whenever i need someone they're always there
how sweet :bawling:

lol

Reply 14

SamTheMan

17

As you grow older, friendships become more and more superficial :frown:

Most of my best friends are from secondary school, even after 6 years at Uni. The sad thing is that I never see them. At Uni, it seems that too many friendships are based on superficial things, and mates are just to hang out with so you're not bored when you're not studying and you have someone to go out with and play sports with. Some people claim to have great friends at Uni so don't worry.

I can't imagine what "work friends" are like...

Reply 15

eurasianfeline

13

SamTheMan

As you grow older, friendships become more and more superficial :frown:

Most of my best friends are from secondary school, even after 6 years at Uni. The sad thing is that I never see them. At Uni, it seems that too many friendships are based on superficial things, and mates are just to hang out with so you're not bored when you're not studying and you have someone to go out with and play sports with. Some people claim to have great friends at Uni so don't worry.

I can't imagine what "work friends" are like...

i agree. my close friends in primary school remain my closest friends...esp. one who has left for the states for 10 years...and we're only closer than ever.

meanwhile, my friends in school now...most of them i find difficult to trust cos they've hurt me so many times. i have to think carefully whether or not i can tell a friend about something before i say it out. many "friends" are just those i laugh around with...but they're not the ones i can share secrets with. many of my close friends in school...as in those i can actually talk to...are not in my year...they're all lower forms (i'm in year 13 so...) esp. during the time when we lost our friend (who's in year 10) and most of the ppl in my year didn't know her...and the year 10 girls were the one who went through it with me. the ppl in my yr...those "friends" didn't even BOTHER going to the funeral even though they "volunteered" to go with me as "friends". sometimes it's so superficial it scares me. i've had a girl who even just became "close friends" with me just to USE me during GCSE's years cos i was in most of her classes and she wasn't exactly very good at the subjects. another...even PRETENDED to be good friends with me just cos she wanted a "best friend"...in the end i had to find that out on an email she wrote to my ex...who she slept with after bumping into him in a bar one night. "best friends" can be such a scary thing.

Reply 16

queenselphie

lot's of good friends, people who are good in different ways, so Know the right people to turn to for the right things.
The guy who is probably my best friend, wouldnt count me as HIS best friend, because while he's the person Im closest to, it isnt true the other way round. Im probably his third closest friend or something.

Reply 17

Harv616

9

wild thing

yeah but theres a difference..,..you love her :rolleyes:

and yeah i have 2 bestfriends who id die to save them :smile:

I mean they know everything i've done, even teh most embarassing details,and whenever i need someone they're always there
how sweet :bawling:

lol

ah shut up :rolleyes:

Reply 18

eurasianfeline

13

lessthanthree

my boyfriend is my best friend <3

sweet

since i don't have a best friend...i guess my bf is one of my closest friends :rolleyes:

(btw...in case u wondered...that guy in the bunny ears in my msn pic IS my bf hehe...i "persuaded" him to put them on at the Rugby World Cup Sevens)

Reply 19

northern_lass

1

i used to have a best friend at primary school, we spent every second together and knew everything about each other. we always used to fall out for a few weeks then make friends n get on like nothing had ever happend, like most ppl do at primary school i guess. in our last year of primary school, another girl started hangin around with us, and we had another one of these rows. The other girl swooped in and bang, no best friend anymore. We both went to seperate high schools and since then, iv seen her once when i went to a riding school where she had a horse.

Throughout high school, i had lots of different best friends and lots of different groups of friends, but i always felt like i didnt fit in and seemed to end up being stabbed in the back quite a lot. in the last year of high school, i started hanging around with a group of girls who seemed really nice, and we wer friends through the first year of college.

Things went sour with them after i went on holiday with college and i got a new group of friends, and they didnt seem to like the fact i had other friends, so went cold on me. I started hanging around with these other friends because i didnt feel like i fitted in with the group of girls from high school, and now im very happy. I have 2 best girld friends who i can tell anything to, one more then the other, but i love them both. They both have other best friends, like me, but we always no we can talk to one another about anything. Then theres the rest of our group, who are a right mix of different characters but ther all amazin ppl, and accept me for who i am. With everyone else iv been friends with i always felt like i was putting on an act, but with my group now im totally myself and i feel accepted. We have our arguments, but because theres so many of us they dont seem to bad.

Sorry, this is really long, and probably boring, just thort id share!!! hehe!

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