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Why don't guys notice me...?

How much attention do you get from guys? In everyday life? At uni? On nights out?

What is normal/average?

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I am 20, in my first year of uni. I have been told by others (female/male) that I am ''stunning/beautiful'' (I think I'm OK...have bad/good days - sometimes I think I am ugly, sometimes I think I look OK) , I am quite sociable, chatty, friendly, intelligent (if you count excellent A Levels and on a prestigious course as being fairly intelligent), open minded, polite, caring etc. I am 5'4, size 8, slim, brunette, pale skin, mixed race. I have interests outside my course, I do a couple of extracurriculars, go out regularly, on various committes etc...

Problem is, no guys seem to like me, EVER...I sometimes see guys with some below average looking/chubby girls. IF EVER I get attention from males, it's almost only from men much older than me/really dodgy looking guys that stare...nobody my age seems to find me attractive/approaches me...

What am I doing wrong? Am I going to be single and unwanted for the rest of my life?? :frown: This is so depressing. I thought uni would be a great chance to meet people, but it seems everyone except me is hooking with with someone. What's wrong with me?

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Reply 1
Post up a photo of yourself and we shall be able to provide you with a more informed answer.
maybe you're hard to approach. You might look as ifyou're angry/moody all the time or might have a terrible appearance (clothing) which makes it hard for people to talk to you.

Why don't you try to approach people instead?
Reply 3
Anonymous
How much attention do you get from guys? In everyday life? At uni? On nights out?

What is normal/average?

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I am 20, in my first year of uni. I have been told by others (female/male) that I am ''stunning/beautiful'' (I think I'm OK...have bad/good days - sometimes I think I am ugly, sometimes I think I look OK) , I am quite sociable, chatty, friendly, intelligent (if you count excellent A Levels and on a prestigious course as being fairly intelligent), open minded, polite, caring etc. I am 5'4, size 8, slim, brunette, pale skin, mixed race. I have interests outside my course, I do a couple of extracurriculars, go out regularly, on various committes etc...

Problem is, no guys seem to like me, EVER...I sometimes see guys with some below average looking/chubby girls. IF EVER I get attention from males, it's almost only from men much older than me/really dodgy looking guys that stare...nobody my age seems to find me attractive/approaches me...

What am I doing wrong? Am I going to be single and unwanted for the rest of my life?? :frown: This is so depressing. I thought uni would be a great chance to meet people, but it seems everyone except me is hooking with with someone. What's wrong with me?


You should make the first move. Guys find that sexy. :yep:
Reply 4
Ghost
Post up a photo of yourself and we shall be able to provide you with a more informed answer.


This. :smile:
Reply 5
Yup go for guys and that will be able to give you your answer. See their response
Reply 6
I really would, but what if someone I know sees it??
Reply 7
Get a cat, move into an apartment alone, and prepare to live out your days watering plants and cleaning out litters.
Reply 8
Don't look for guys in bars, if you are intelligent then you probably aren't what most guys on a night out are looking for.
And I'm afraid the answer is to exit your comfort zone and go speak to people.
But I'm sure you knew that- you just didn't want to.
Reply 9
Okay, I tried to be more forward last weekend. I saw a a guy I liked, kept looking in his eyes every now and again, smiled and looked away etc. He made eye contact and smiled but just walked away after a while...
Reply 10
Anonymous
I really would, but what if someone I know sees it??


Just take it down in like 5 minutes
Can be a private showing.
And feel free to wear as much clothing as you like :wink:
Reply 11
will274
Get a cat, move into an apartment alone, and prepare to live out your days watering plants and cleaning out litters.

This is what I fear...
Reply 12
neverumind
You should make the first move. Guys find that sexy. :yep:

:yep:
I'm never really noticed either tbh.
Reply 14
Stanyon
Just take it down in like 5 minutes
Can be a private showing.
And feel free to wear as much clothing as you like :wink:

Yeah, I'll wrap up in my winter coat :P
Anonymous
Okay, I tried to be more forward last weekend. I saw a a guy I liked, kept looking in his eyes every now and again, smiled and looked away etc. He made eye contact and smiled but just walked away after a while...


That's not enough! You should have at least spoken to him. :rolleyes:
Anonymous
How much attention do you get from guys? In everyday life? At uni? On nights out?

What is normal/average?

---

I am 20, in my first year of uni. I have been told by others (female/male) that I am ''stunning/beautiful'' (I think I'm OK...have bad/good days - sometimes I think I am ugly, sometimes I think I look OK) , I am quite sociable, chatty, friendly, intelligent (if you count excellent A Levels and on a prestigious course as being fairly intelligent), open minded, polite, caring etc. I am 5'4, size 8, slim, brunette, pale skin, mixed race. I have interests outside my course, I do a couple of extracurriculars, go out regularly, on various committes etc...

Problem is, no guys seem to like me, EVER...I sometimes see guys with some below average looking/chubby girls. IF EVER I get attention from males, it's almost only from men much older than me/really dodgy looking guys that stare...nobody my age seems to find me attractive/approaches me...

What am I doing wrong? Am I going to be single and unwanted for the rest of my life?? :frown: This is so depressing. I thought uni would be a great chance to meet people, but it seems everyone except me is hooking with with someone. What's wrong with me?


Based on this, you're probably acting too intimidating. It's bloody hard for most guys to just start talking to a girl. If you've ever been told you seem aloof or spoilt then you wanna work on that.

Though we really need a picture. You may just be ugly lol.
Reply 17
ashy
:yep:

Really? I'm just scared I'll embarrass myself and that he won't like me back...
personally, i think the best way we can make a honest and professional decision on this matter is if you upload a pic and let unbiased spectators make comments on it, you can always delete it once the matter is resolved
Reply 19
Anonymous
Really? I'm just scared I'll embarrass myself and that he won't like me back...

Do you know what's sexier than a sexy girl? A confident sexy girl.

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