Really annoyed by my 'friend'

Hi, please keep anon or delete.

A follow-up to this thread...http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=835218

This friend is now going out tonight, as well as tomorrow. I'm seriously pee'd off about this cos she said she was absolutely skint. I want to text her and tell her how annoyed I am.

What should I say or do?

Ta.

Reply 1

denty5

sounds like an excuse, if she wanted to go out with you she'd come. maybe you could offer giving her abit if money if you really want her to come.

Reply 2

The_Goose

18

nothing. leave her alone.

Reply 3

>Anna<

15

Confront her!

Just say that perhaps you're being unreasonable (to show you're not being overly hostile) but you can't help but feel that the reason she gave you wasn't the full story and you'd appreciate it if she'd explain.

Just make sure you stay calm and don't come across angry or she'll get hostile herself.

Reply 4

lindsaaay

Tell her she didn't have to lie if she didn't want to go in the first place.
And she is not a true friend for this.

Reply 5

teh_samby

13

Rub it in after the event about what an amazing night you had.

Reply 6

pamelaa

17

teh_samby

Rub it in after the event about what an amazing night you had.

Reply 7

jabed786

15

Maybe she thought she couldnt afford to give you a good birthday present along with going out to the club.

Reply 8

username136318

10

teh_samby

Rub it in after the event about what an amazing night you had.

this.

Reply 9

prettyblueeyes

13

I'd just text her tomorrow saying something along the lines of "I'm really sorry that you decided not to come out last night. I understand that money is tight for you but you clearly have the money to go out with other friends on Sunday, even though it'll cost almost the same. Friends are supposed to make the effort for eachother's birthdays and I feel a bit let down as you know that if the situation was reversed I wouldn't have let you down. There'll be no hard feelings from now but if you'd rather just not have come then I'd rather you were honest with me than make up excuses. I hope you enjoy your night out Sunday, shame you couldn't have been there last night, you were missed and we had a great night x".
We've got a friend who is the same - never has any money and never wants to go out (but is happy enough to spend time with us when it's just round someone's house) and yet suddenly she tells us she's going out clubbing with another group of friends when she'd let one of us down for a birthday or something the week previous. Sometimes you just have to make it clear how you feel and then move on from it, there's obviously a reason for their decision and you just have to remind yourself not to count on them for that kind of thing in future.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm going to send this 'I know you don't exactly have a money tree growing in your garden and I understand you're skint but I don't understand how you can go out tonight and tomorrow, but you couldn't come out for my birthday on thursday. I don't wanna argue with you or anything but when we're all best mares it wouldn've been nice if you'd have come out on thursday!x" .... how's that sound?

Reply 11

Welles

3

Anonymous

I'm going to send this 'I know you don't exactly have a money tree growing in your garden and I understand you're skint but I don't understand how you can go out tonight and tomorrow, but you couldn't come out for my birthday on thursday. I don't wanna argue with you or anything but when we're all best mares it wouldn've been nice if you'd have come out on thursday!x" .... how's that sound?

Bad idea. Entertaining for us to read about the bitching that will ensue, but bad idea.

Reply 12

Lu-x

16

Leave her to get on with it. Just don't bother with her again. Not worth it.

Really annoyed by my 'friend'

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