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Taking after and turning out like your parents

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I guess my parents are the reason why I don't want to have kids anymore. I love kids...I honestly do, but I just don't want to end up behaving like my parents towards my own kids. My parents have a very poor marriage and most of my relatives are divorced. My mom is suffering from serious depression from this marriage and I'm the remaining reason why she's still staying here. (My brothers are both working already). It's been a major discouragement for me to get married / have kids cos I don't want to risk letting my kids go through the same situation. I know many people tell me that mb I can learn from my parents' mistakes instead and be a better mother. But my friend and I (we both have similar family problems) talked about it quite a few times, and we both think that even though we might try and avoid behaving like our parents, somehow we WOULD be influenced by them...subconsciously...because after all we were brought up by them. I guess it's something my friend and I both fear.