Controversial question: Does race matter?

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Nowadays, racism is not as big of an issue in our society as it once was. Thankfully, it has been realised that the colour of one's skin has nothing to do with the person they are, their intelligence...etc. But, although we have come a long way from banning inter-racial marriages/relationships, do people still have objections to inter-racial relantionships?

1) Would you/ Have you ever gone out with a person of a different race? Please state yours and their race. If no, has it got anything to do with not being attratcted to certain races...which ones?

2) What do you think of people who are in inter-racial relationships?

3) What do you think of people who would not go out with a person from another race?

Apologies to anyone who finds this offensive, but I am interested in societal changes, and just want to find out about the state of Race Relations in our society today.
Please be honest.
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1) Yes for over a year, I'm white and he was an Indian Muslim

2) I think they should go for it, but if they're young I pity them, because it's tough to get over so many barriers

3) I would avoid it again because I know how hard it is, but if i was really in love with some one then I wouldn't let that deter me. I think everyone should be open minded and those that say 'I'm not racist but I wouldn't want my daughter to marry one' bug me
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1) Would you/ Have you ever gone out with a person of a different race? Please state yours and their race.
Yeah, sort of. I'm mixed race (half Caucasian, half Chinese) and they've been Caucasian, so of a partially different race. Meh, where do I fit in anyway? I pretty much feel white or whatever. I don't think about race that much.

2) What do you think of people who are in inter-racial relationships?
It’s up to them…Just like any other relationship. I don't see it as being a big deal because of my parents.

3) What do you think of people who would not go out with a person from another race?
They’re prejudiced/racist/ignorant? I'm used to it, I guess, and it doesn't seem like a big deal. Is race even an issue?
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would avoid it again because I know how hard it is, but if i was really in love with some one then I wouldn't let that deter me. I think everyone should be open minded and those that say 'I'm not racist but I wouldn't want my daughter to marry one' bug me
So would it be right to assume that usually you go for someone your own race, but that if you happened to fall in love with some one of a different race, then it would not matter?
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1) I'm white and have never been out with anyone of a different ethnic background. But I haven't been out with many people anyway, so I don't really think it counts. Would I? Yeah, if I liked them. There are some I am attracted to and some I am not, but that's the same as for white guys!

2) I don't see the problem - makes no difference at all.

3) Hmmm, interesting. Depends on the reason. If the reason is purely "Because they're black/white/Asian/whatever" then that's pitiful really in this day and age. But then you get other things affecting it - personally I just don't find e.g. Chinese men particularly attractive, though no doubt if there was one I knew really well and liked, that would be less of an issue.

I understand some cultures have more objections to it than others, but my personal viewpoint is that clichés aside, there really is little difference, as long as you respect other people's heritage that's fine.
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Good question by the way.

1) I'm Caucasian and no I havent, but would I? Yeah sure, if the right person came along and I was attracted to them, but if I'm honest I find some races more attractive than others.

2) Up to them really, it shouldn't matter.

3) What do I think of people who won't go out with someone from another race? Well, I'm not going to judge someone just on that opinion that they have because THAT would be prejudiced and ignorant. It depends on their reason, some people are generally not attracted to some races (and I think most people have preferences), only finding the odd one attractive. Also some certain religions only want their children to marry the same as them, so that would be their parents views, and not neccessarily theirs (although it could be their views also). Other people may have predjudiced reasons. It all depends on the reason.
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1)Yes I have, and would consider doing so - it's not really much of an issue. However, there are some races that I don't generally find attractive.

2) If anything, my view is positive. It's nice to see intermixing of races and it shows that these people don't have mindless prejudices like some do.

3) It really depends on the reason. If the reason is something that's based on an immature stereotype about the character of someone of a different race then that's disgusting and could almost be seen as racist. If, however, it is the simple fact that there is no physical attraction, then someone's biology is no fault of their own and that wouldn't anger me.

Refusing to be FRIENDS with someone of another race on the other hand; there's no excuse for that.
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(Original post by Nina166)

1) Would you/ Have you ever gone out with a person of a different race? Please state yours and their race.
my race: asian indian, their race white british (x 2) Went out with one of them for about 18 months, and have just started seeing the second.

2) What do you think of people who are in inter-racial relationships?
Does race really matter? If two people feel really comfortable with each other?
3) What do you think of people who would not go out with a person from another race?
I wont fault them for doing that, it's just their choice. It doesn't really affect me to be honest...
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i remembered a quote writed on Readers Digest, about a man who works at a passport office, and says - I love when people fills the blank space that reads race, and write human...
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(Original post by Nina166)
1) Would you/ Have you ever gone out with a person of a different race? Please state yours and their race. If no, has it got anything to do with not being attratcted to certain races...which ones?
Haven't, but would. I think I'm fussier in terms of who I find attractive if they're of a different race, more polarised in my opinion but I don't really know. I think I have a tendancy to rate an attractive person of mixed race or different race as 'higher' than an attractive person who's same race. I can be quite odd and fussy about things as it is :rolleyes:. I was once somewhat berated by a colleague for only finding "european looking" HKers attractive but as far as I certainly wasn't aware I did that until then :eek:.

Anyhow, it's all rubbish, because people who have to be more than their looks anyway and I'm not the kind of person to think religion/race/prejudice/anything would get in our way. Far too stubborn for that.

(Original post by Nina166)
2) What do you think of people who are in inter-racial relationships?
Not much, I occasionally wonder if they have a harder time of it due to prejudices but generally I don't think about it.

(Original post by Nina166)
3) What do you think of people who would not go out with a person from another race?
I feel pity that they'd be so narrow minded if that's their only reason.

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(Original post by bondjamesbond)
i remembered a quote writed on Readers Digest, about a man who works at a passport office, and says - I love when people fills the blank space that reads race, and write human...
Awww. I like that.
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1) Would you/ Have you ever gone out with a person of a different race? Please state yours and their race. If no, has it got anything to do with not being attratcted to certain races...which ones?
I haven't but I would if I really liked someone.


2) What do you think of people who are in inter-racial relationships?
Not a lot as in I don't think about it, I just see it as a normal thing but I do think it must be difficult to sustain in certain cases if they are both very into their different cultures.

3) What do you think of people who would not go out with a person from another race?
It depends why - colour well thats just daft, cultural differences is kind of understandable though.
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Actually, I think people who were against my inter racial relationship the most were my parents...

what they don't know can't hurt them...(but it's ****ing annoying trying to hide it)
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1) I dated an asian girl, a colombian latino girl (well it was more of a fling) and the rest were all white (one was a quarter something oriental)
race makes little difference to me. My family are rather racist and bigoted, but aside from the embarrassment of that...
Am not too keen on afro-carribean girls, (i find they are alot less attrractive than their counter parts from west africa. very odd that), and never seemed to go all in for a fully oriental girl (some are very hot, but tend to be the ones a little western looking)

2) Um, not much. Good for them i suppose - It doesn't tend to cross my mind really.

3) Their loss.

Note to helenia - Cambridge slightly stints your view on chinese guys and girls. Basically 95% of them there are international students hence extreme geeks, who refuse to mix with their western counterparts. By contrast in london i've met a lot more straight up chinese guys/girls who are a great laugh.
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I am half indian half english myself (dad white english, mum brown indian) and they've been married for 25 years in august so they've managed it even when people were alot less accepting...

atm i'm with a bulgarian girl (eastern europe?)...her family seem not to care my mum is brown..

i think personally in london (where i live) these things are seen alot less of an issue because there is quite a diverse mix ne ways...

i wud think it's kinda sad if you didnt go out with someone purely cus of their race...however soemtimes just cus ur attracted, you may still be uncompatible because of cultural differences mayb?
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(Original post by Nina166)
1) Would you go out with a person of a different race? Please state yours and their race. If no, has it got anything to do with not being attratcted to certain races...which ones?
Yes. As for race, generally speaking I prefer caucasion to mongoloid and *****id but have been attracted to mongoloid and *****ids.
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im an indian and have never been out with an indian, ive been out with white (dif countriues) and 1 caribbian girl.... its only cause i dont live near to many asians my age, i mean i dont prefer any colour its just ive never met ny1 who is of datable material whose indian... granted i havnt met to many indians
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Race Doesnt Matter!! What Matters Is Following Ur Heart!
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(Original post by bondjamesbond)
i remembered a quote writed on Readers Digest, about a man who works at a passport office, and says - I love when people fills the blank space that reads race, and write human...
Can I ask something?

Does "Human" refer to Homo sapiens, if yes then surely human is a species?
On the other hand, a race is a sub-group of a species depending on where you live.
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1) Would you/ Have you ever gone out with a person of a different race?
I'm Chinese / Vietnamese / French...though I look mostly chinese. Some people think i look kinda thai / slightly mixed. My ex was Chinese/Pakistani, he looked mostly Pakastini. My currently bf is Indian. I have also liked Caucasian, Chinese guys before. I've had Caucasian / Chinese guys who have asked me out before (i rejected them for personal reasons). My bf and I don't find any problems between our relationship because of our racial difference. In fact, I find it really interesting to learn the habits and culture of a different race, and I think it's important for a people, whether they are a couple in a relationship or not, to respect each other's culture and race.

2) What do you think of people who are in inter-racial relationships?
I think it's the same as any other relationships. Race doesn't matter for me at all. In fact...many of my friends go out with people of a different race. Most Caucasians in HK have Chinese / Philippino wives, or wives of other races. Many of my friends and people in my school are mixed-race kids. Since it's a German-Swiss school...most of the mixed kids are German or Swiss/Chinese or Philippino. We also have German/Japanese; German/Italien, American or British/Chinese, etc. It's really common in HK and i've been brought up in an environment where inter-racial relationships is nothing different/special. Many of my teachers have Asian wives, ie. one of my British teachers has a Thai wife (he met her in Thailand), and one of our German teachers, who recently passed away in the Tsunami, had a Thai gf who has his son. My British Maths teacher has a Chinese wife, and my German teacher in GCSE has a Chinese husband. When I walk around HK...I often see inter-racial couples. In fact...many Westerners I know prefer Asian wives because they seem more compatable with each other.

3) What do you think of people who would not go out with a person from another race?
No offence...but I think that's really ignorant and arrogant. Judging a person just cos of the skin colour is a really immature thing to do. Many couples in inter-racial marriages I know of still have that odd little bit of language barrier sometimes, but they don't seem to find it a problem at all because they truly love each other and would understand each other enough to overcome that barrier. Honestly, racism is probably one of the most horrible thing in this world. In fact...my mixed-race friends are probably one of the prettiest and nicest people I've ever met in my life!!

Every race has the good and bad people, and we should all judge a person from the personality, manners, and behavior and so forth, NOT the colour of the skin.
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