What should i do?

Right, this is gonna sound a little silly, but i like this guy, only thing is that he has a girlfriend. I don't really know how serious they are, but what would you do? Should i just give him my number and if he doesn't do anything about it just assume that he is not interested or should i just stay away from him because he has a girlfriend? Help!!!!

Reply 1

queenselphie

This is always going to spell trouble: if he's committed enough to another girl for them to be officially boyfriend and girlfriend, I'd stay well clear until you find out more. Have you got any mutual friends that could find out about the situation for you?

Reply 2

amo1

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bohogirlie

Right, this is gonna sound a little silly, but i like this guy, only thing is that he has a girlfriend. I don't really know how serious they are, but what would you do? Should i just give him my number and if he doesn't do anything about it just assume that he is not interested or should i just stay away from him because he has a girlfriend? Help!!!!

just approch him and talk and then just let convo go onto gf and find out

Reply 3

bohogirlie

OP

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queenselphie

Have you got any mutual friends that could find out about the situation for you?

Good idea, maybe i should just try and be friends with him?

Reply 4

maz69

stay away..... kinda nasty!

Reply 5

caffecooki

10

i think maintaining a friendship there is a good idea, and it would be completely wrong to try to come between him and his girlfriend. if the relationship doesn't last, and he is interested, something might become of it :biggrin:

Reply 6

Harv616

9

Put it this way: If you did talk to him and he did decided to go out with you and dump his gf, whats going to stop him from doing that to you?

Reply 7

bohogirlie

OP

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caffecooki

i think maintaining a friendship there is a good idea, and it would be completely wrong to try to come between him and his girlfriend. if the relationship doesn't last, and he is interested, something might become of it :biggrin:

Thats what i was thinking....i think i will go with that!

Thanks v much!

Reply 8

bohogirlie

OP

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BhArJ

Put it this way: If you did talk to him and he did decided to go out with you and dump his gf, whats going to stop him from doing that to you?

Good point. :cool:

Reply 9

twiga

15

Stear clear - it'll only hurt all of you in the long run, and earn you an enemy.

Reply 10

eurasianfeline

13

bohogirlie

Right, this is gonna sound a little silly, but i like this guy, only thing is that he has a girlfriend. I don't really know how serious they are, but what would you do? Should i just give him my number and if he doesn't do anything about it just assume that he is not interested or should i just stay away from him because he has a girlfriend? Help!!!!

I think you should find out more about their relationship before u make any move. Don't act rashly, cos if they're in a committed relationship, your act might be seen by other people as trying to be "the other girl" (if u know what i mean), and he might also think that you're not respecting his relationship, and naturally the girl would tell her friends you're a slut. If they're just kinda flirting around...and I think you should try and get closer friends to him and flirt a bit with him first to get to know him better and see how he acts around you. If he flirts back, and mb it's a sign that u have a chance and sure, give him your number. Otherwise, it's not a smart move to just go up to him and shove him your number.

Reply 11

jessicarabbit

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bohogirlie

Right, this is gonna sound a little silly, but i like this guy, only thing is that he has a girlfriend. I don't really know how serious they are, but what would you do? Should i just give him my number and if he doesn't do anything about it just assume that he is not interested or should i just stay away from him because he has a girlfriend? Help!!!!

Why the hell are u even thinking of getting with a guy if he has a girlfriend? Who cares how serious or not they are....HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Hello. What the heck is wrong with some girls. Don't mess with a guy with a girlfriend. Thats just bad karma. AND MEAN!!! u meany.

Reply 12

Feefifofum

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jessicarabbit

Why the hell are u even thinking of getting with a guy if he has a girlfriend? Who cares how serious or not they are....HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Hello. What the heck is wrong with some girls. Don't mess with a guy with a girlfriend. Thats just bad karma. AND MEAN!!! u meany.

Perhaps a bit extreme, but in essence true. And besides he will be going out with her for a reason, not just because he is waiting for someone else. Wait and see what the truth is about their relationship:
If it's a strong, loving relationship stay well away. Be friends by all means but an attmept at anything more is only going to lead to problems.
If the relationship seems a bit rocky then become friends with ihm by all means and if they do break up be a shoulder to cry on. BUT don't count on them breaking up and DEFINITLEY don't try to split them up at all.

Presumably they are happy in their relationship and so your crush will have to stay as just that - a crush. Harsh reality but that's how it is (or seems to me at least). Try looking around for someone else you like if necessary - someone single that is.

Reply 13

jessicarabbit

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feefifofum

Perhaps a bit extreme, but in essence true. And besides he will be going out with her for a reason, not just because he is waiting for someone else. Wait and see what the truth is about their relationship:
If it's a strong, loving relationship stay well away. Be friends by all means but an attmept at anything more is only going to lead to problems.
If the relationship seems a bit rocky then become friends with ihm by all means and if they do break up be a shoulder to cry on. BUT don't count on them breaking up and DEFINITLEY don't try to split them up at all.

Presumably they are happy in their relationship and so your crush will have to stay as just that - a crush. Harsh reality but that's how it is (or seems to me at least). Try looking around for someone else you like if necessary - someone single that is.

SINGLE being the key word here. :p:

Reply 14

Ticki

8

Do as you would be done by. Imagine you were his girlfriend, and think about what sort of behaviour you'd find acceptable in other women. Then apply that logic to your own situation. Generally that means leaving them to their relationship - settle for friendship with this guy! :smile:

Reply 15

Niaya

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bohogirlie

Right, this is gonna sound a little silly, but i like this guy, only thing is that he has a girlfriend. I don't really know how serious they are, but what would you do? Should i just give him my number and if he doesn't do anything about it just assume that he is not interested or should i just stay away from him because he has a girlfriend? Help!!!!

sorry but i think you should leave well alone if he leaves his girlfriend for you when he doesnt know you very well (if he did who would know how well him and his current girlfriend were geting on) how do you know he wouldnt leave you for another girl

Reply 16

Feefifofum

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Ticki

Do as you would be done by. Imagine you were his girlfriend, and think about what sort of behaviour you'd find acceptable in other women. Then apply that logic to your own situation. Generally that means leaving them to their relationship - settle for friendship with this guy! :smile:

Well said. I think you would be a bit miffed if you were going out with this guy and another girl was trying to split you up. Not good. Plus, even if he did leave her for you (which is highly unlikely unless he is a bit of a b****** anyway) that would mean he might be willing to look at what else was on offer instead of you. Not good - leave well alone!

Reply 17

bondjamesbond

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bohogirlie

Right, this is gonna sound a little silly, but i like this guy, only thing is that he has a girlfriend. I don't really know how serious they are, but what would you do? Should i just give him my number and if he doesn't do anything about it just assume that he is not interested or should i just stay away from him because he has a girlfriend? Help!!!!

don't even bother in keep looking... this guy has someone else... remember him as a platonic love and get someone real... i read once "you have three people in your life, who likes you, who loves you and who marry you, and you be very fortunate if one people meets all of them"

Reply 18

Feefifofum

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bondjamesbond

i read once "you have three people in your life, who likes you, who loves you and who marry you, and you be very fortunate if one people meets all of them"

Not a particularly optimistic viewpoint there...

I'd like to think that more then one person would like you or love you in a lifetime, and if you marry someone surely (in most cases, don't let magiccarpet see!) you must love...? Just a thought!

Reply 19

hayelz81

bohogirlie

Good point. :cool:

Yup, I agree with this one...

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