Sticky situation with relationship.

Anon or Del.

Hey guys, well... basically. I just got back from holiday, and I'm now in abit of a situation. I've only been in a few relationships, and each time they end, they end in them dumping me. Now, I'm sadly going to have to do the same thing to someone else.
My girlfriend of 1 year, in which the past 1/2 months have been really hard (not seening eachother/workload/argue'ing..etc..)
I met someone while on holiday, who I really like and we connected really well.. We didn't have sex, but we kissed a few times. But it was mainly spending time together..enjoying each others company.
I'm at home and she's still there. Before I was about to leave we exchanged numbers and been texting ever since. I really want to see her.. I've told her I have a girlfriend. Told her I've not had the best couple of months with her. I want to do what makes me happy.. I was going to end my relationship anyway.. But I don't know how to go about it.. I mean.. Its so hard.. But I'm honest, but the girl I met on holiday. We clicked straight away. And I fell for her... but I've never broken up with anyone? I have no idea how I'll take it.. I mean..? Any advice. Do I just do what makes me happy? But not others?

Reply 1

ChunkymunkyDJC

12

Step 1. Stop being a manslut
Step 2. Grow some balls
Step 3. Break up with her if you are unhappy, not because you like someone more. It's immature.

Reply 2

Sun Ra and his Arkestra

Whatever you do, don't do what my friend did and start a relationship with holiday girl without bothering to inform old girlfriend that they're through. Old girlfriend will not take kindly to this at all.

This will be even worse if holiday girl turns out to be a crazy teutonic maneater who ends up breaking your heart.

Reply 3

ChunkymunkyDJC

12

Sun Ra and his Arkestra

Whatever you do, don't do what my friend did

Friend... Sure... :tongue:

Reply 4

wannabe mexican

12

Well, you are a cheater, so it may end up that you get dumped anyways and then don't have to worry about dumping her.

Reply 5

Kaykiie

15

You dont even deserve to be given advice.

You cheated on your girlfriend, going through a rough patch isn't an excuse, you tell her what you did and you feel bad about it.

Reply 6

annapenny

Kaykiie

You dont even deserve to be given advice.

You cheated on your girlfriend, going through a rough patch isn't an excuse, you tell her what you did and you feel bad about it.

Have to agree. You're in deep.

Reply 7

polythenepam

2

I'm sorry to tell you, but relationshipd sometimes take work....if you have been with your girlfriend for one year..then there is obvioulsy something you like about her....don't just fall at the first hurdle!

If you decide that the relationship is not for you, and you want to give things a try with this holiday girl, then you need to tell your girlfriend, and sooner rather than later..it will be better you end it with her now then she hears the whole story from someone else!

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

I'm the other girl in a 'relatioship' at the mo.... I would say have some balls and do it but make sure you do it cos you're not happy and not because you've found someone else you like, because these things come and go!!

I guess I am biased cos I would really like my 'friend' to end it with his girlfriend, but at the same time I would say only do it because you would be doing it anyway, if that makes sense? Otherwise it may go pearshaped with your girl from holiday and you may regret losing your gilfriend. Good Luck :smile:

Reply 9

the Alyx

Best thing to do is not to string your current girlfriend along. If she finds out about it, it would really hurt her. Tell how you feel, it's better than doing stuff behind her back, even if it's cheating emotionally.

Reply 10

wannabe mexican

12

Anonymous

I'm the other girl in a 'relatioship' at the mo.... I would say have some balls and do it but make sure you do it cos you're not happy and not because you've found someone else you like, because these things come and go!!

I guess I am biased cos I would really like my 'friend' to end it with his girlfriend, but at the same time I would say only do it because you would be doing it anyway, if that makes sense? Otherwise it may go pearshaped with your girl from holiday and you may regret losing your gilfriend. Good Luck :smile:

How can you trust him though if he is lying to his girlfriend? What will stop him cheating on you?

Reply 11

*sparkles*

8

wannabe mexican

How can you trust him though if he is lying to his girlfriend? What will stop him cheating on you?

Exactly... if he is cheating on his girlfriend with you, what would stop him doing the same thing if you were his girlfriend? I know we all want to believe that we are special, that if someone likes us enough they can change etc, but sadly it's usually not true. Cheating on someone is in my opinion the worst thing you can do- if you like someone else you should have the balls to end your relationship, you can't have both, and being cheated on can seriously destroy a person's confidence. If you're happy to be in that situation then I think you're own morals are pretty questionnable... obviously you really like this guy but just put yourself in the girlfriend's shoes for a minute.

OP- end things with you're girlfriend. What you're doing is really, really not the best way to go about things, but you've done it now so you don't have a lot of options. How would you feel if you're girlfriend has the same thing with same other guy? You need to end things now before you get yourself in any deeper.

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