ok so im at uni, so obviously my parents arent here.
a lot of my friends do absolutely crazy stuff and dont tell their parents lol.
while in a way i envy this, i have just always shared good and bad with my parents, and whilst i want to have fun at uni and do the stuff all uni students get up to, i know i cant because i'd feel so guilty and would have to tell them.
this would then lead to an argument, which will lower my confidence, which will just lead to me doing even more crazy stuff i suppose.
i guess i just dont like the shame: eg. if for example i slept with someone tonight, and then my parents call me tomorrow to discuss uni or something, i would just feel so guilty because i'm in the "uni mindset" and not the "family mindset".
but the thing is i really really want to do this kind of uni stuff..
Learn to draw the line between what your parents do and don't need to know. Personally I'd never ever talk to my parents about something like a one night stand.. I find it completely wrong.
Just do it and don't tell them. If you really feel that much "shame", then maybe it's something you shouldn't be doing anyway.
Stop relying on other people's validation/approval for your own confidence.
Man up, do what the **** you like because you want to, not because your parents want you to. The problem isn't so much that you're not doing "absolutely crazy stuff", the problem is that you're not really exerting your own will.
lol ok thanks... that was just a bit of an extreme example, but it is not just that.
even if i do something at uni "a bit out of character" (i'm generally quite shy so anything that makes me seem more "confident" then i dunno, i guess i'm just scared of doing new things anyway.
sorry if i dont seem to be making any sense