Background. I recently moved away from home (... my parents) and decided to get a taste of nightlife, finally, at the ripe age of 22.
A question for all you decent guys out there.
What do you do to get a girl's attention at a club? I mean, I've met lots of men, but a lot of them are creepy (meaning they look lecherous, are much older than me, piss drunk...or something else unattractive). The last time I went out I had a guy grabbing my hand and offering me drinks even when I told him I didn't want anything (I don't drink) and he then went on to grab every other girl in the club.
Oh, and please tell me if there's something that generally scares off good guys and attracts the bad, I'd like to know if I might be doing it. [In terms of dress: I'm a classy girl, I don't need advice on that]
Questions for the girls.
How do you spot the decent guys? At one point I just ignored every single man around me because I just couldn't tell the good from the bad. A decent guy, for me, is one that backs off if I ask him to and understands if I'm not interested. If he's cute and a good conversationalist or a good dancer, even better. I'm just afraid of getting stuck with a dude who won't leave me alone, expects something or just wants to grind with me. I don't want to lead anyone on.
Lastly...what do I do when a guy's near me and looks like he's sort of/possibly dancing with me when I'm dancing in a circle of friends? Ideally, I'd love it if someone tapped me on the shoulder, introduced themselves and then politely asked me for a dance...but they don't seem to do that a lot (ever).