long ditance relationships- worth the effort?

Been in one for the last 5 years. met on holiday but havent seen each other since then. We are serious about making this work as Im planning on going to stay with him for a week in February. Plus theres talk of marriage and kids and we love each other to bits. I havent seen anyone behind his back and im pretty sure hes been faithful too. But cant help wondering sometimes whether its all going to be worth the wait in the end.

What does anybody else think?

I've been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year - not as long as you, but I'm completely in love, as is my boyfriend. I think when it gets hard, everyone in this situation considers whether it's worth the wait. But if you've been together faithfully for 5 years, I'm guessing you know that you're both serious about one another n it must be worth it or you wouldn't have stayed together!
You haven't seen him since holiday, n that's when you met?? How often do you talk, etc..?

the only time you've seen your boyfreind was on holiday? im guessing 2 weeks out of the 208 weeks you've been together? (don't know how long your holiday was) What do you do, phone, email, msn? do you have webcams? I have only been with my boyfriend for 5 months and i generally see him once a week but I could not imagine a 5 year break! were you 11 when you met, because people change a lot. I'm not suggesting you don't know him, because he is your boyfriend and you know the situation a lot better than me, but i mean physical things like height, what it feels like to hug him, what he smells like - yes I know I'm sounding strange, I'm just thinking of things you couldn't get through your relationship. If you love him to bits and have waited 5 years surely you believe he is worth the wait??

Been in one for the last 5 years. met on holiday but havent seen each other since then. We are serious about making this work as Im planning on going to stay with him for a week in February. Plus theres talk of marriage and kids and we love each other to bits. I havent seen anyone behind his back and im pretty sure hes been faithful too. But cant help wondering sometimes whether its all going to be worth the wait in the end.

What does anybody else think?

i know we'll both have changed a lot and thats what worries me. maybe we wont get along when we see each other. thats what makes me wonder if it will be worth it. i know what you mean by all that tho. would be nice for it not to be long distance and to know what its like to hug him and stuff. but i guess its the same for him.

I personally wouldn't invest so much emotion in someone who I'd only met once. Generally with separation and maturation people either grow apart or grow together. If you feel you're growing apart you need to do something about it ASAP!

i know we'll both have changed a lot and thats what worries me. maybe we wont get along when we see each other. thats what makes me wonder if it will be worth it. i know what you mean by all that tho. would be nice for it not to be long distance and to know what its like to hug him and stuff. but i guess its the same for him.

Hmmm how far apart do you actually live? It's awfully serious for two people who met when they were 11. Are you sure he is also taking it so seriously?

There's so much that changes between 11 years old and an adult. You think the most of it has happened... but what about when you go to university, and you both become more independent? That'll change you a lot too.

Ah well, good luck and don't stay with him for the sake of it if you find you don't like him because it'll only lead to trouble!

Anyway, I didn't know people even had proper hormones when they were 11, I couldn't fancy people (properly anyway) when I was that young.

he lives in west midlands and i live in south yorkshire so it isnt really too bad. uni's gonna be hard but thats when the real test will start.

How could you be in a long distance relationship with someone you met when you were 11?

And the next time you will meet him is in February NEXT YEAR?

I'm not sure how I can come to terms with this working. How do you know he's been faithful? And how can you expect him to have been?

And you are so young even now!

How far apart are you?

he lives in west midlands and i live in south yorkshire so it isnt really too bad. uni's gonna be hard but thats when the real test will start.

Why haven't you met up again! If you can contemplate all this serious stuff, surely you could have met these last 5 years?