A mixture of problems.. LDR and dissertation. Watch
Now, i'm due to go transatlantic this weekend. I looked at my dates and my first draft is in for Apr 20th, with final hand in May 18th. I get back from the states on the 7th April. I'm in line for a 1st; am i being ******* stupid going away? is it possible to right 12k words of 80%+ work in 4-6 weeks?
I started to panic. Rang my girlfriend, figured it was a lose-lose situation. I either go to see her and risk top marks (or any at all) or don't, and break both of our hearts. She was in bits when I even approached the situation of not being able to go.
Maybe i'm being pathetic, maybe i'm over analysed the situation. I don't know what to do. Go or not.
If you've been in an LDR for a while, an extra six weeks or so isn't going to be too difficult. You won't be breaking both of your hearts - absence makes the heart grow fonder. Keep in touch over skype etc in those six weeks and it will come around before you know it! Then you'll be able to spend quality time with your girlfriend, safe in the knowledge that you worked your hardest on your dissertation.
Come on, this is what you've spent the past three years and all this money on, not to mentioned A-levels etc, you don't want to waste it - particularly when you're in line for a first!
She can wait 2 months or so, surely? Why not explain to her that if you get your first, you'll be able to get a good job after uni, meaning you'll have lots of money to come and see her whenever possible. I understand her being upset, but she should understand really.
She ultimately said that she would love me no matter my decision, but of course she's going to say whatever she can to get me to come.
Which is fair play. I just don't know what to do. I find the distance stupidly hard, and having a 'date' to look forward to is what keeps me going, ie. this weekend. With that potentially gone it's ******* horrible. and ultimately she still has university when i hand-in so we wouldn't know when we're seeing each other next.
I'm in a long distance relationship myself and my boyfriend and I have had to change our plans to fit around my deadlines/his work. It's not nice having to do that and I know how much you will cherish having a date to look forward to but sometimes other things in life take over.
What makes it worse is that she has planned her spring break around this, so will be left alone cross state from her family/friends.. even her dad was flying out to meet us for 2-3 days.
Im assuming youll be sepnding every day with her? If so, im sure she wouldnt mind giving you space every day for as long as you like so you can do your work. Or you could cut the trip short, spend time with her whilst doing work, and then when you get home earlier finish your work.
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Findlay6's suggestion seems good too