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Im a virgin but don't feel like one

Ok Im female 23 and a bit of a loner I don't have bf's friends or a social life I just work and go jogging/walking the dog. Not through my own choice Im just very reserved and get ignored a lot. Anyway Im a virgin as in Ive never had sex but I don't feel like a typical virgin I mean I sort of pleasure myself a few times a week lol Ive been doing it for years and don't call me sad just because Im female guys do it all the time! Im wondering though Im not a virgin in the original meaning of the word am I? Virgins to most people would be 'innocent' etc but I don't know what do you think of my situation:confused:

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Reply 1
Whats there to do? Other than have sex to 'cure' your virginity. Go out, meet guys etc, they're all gagging for it.
Reply 2
I could've pretty much written that, except I'm 19 and not 23. So I'm not gonna tell you it's weird!
Reply 3
elldee
Whats there to do? Other than have sex to 'cure' your virginity. Go out, meet guys etc, they're all gagging for it.


I can't just go out on my own though can I that would be seen as sad.
You are a virgin if you have never had penetrative sex. Masturbation DOES NOT count. You seem to be pretty normal to me, I cant really see what your problem is......
So now us virgins arent allowed to please ourselves? Im positive pretty much all girls do it whether they're having/have had sex or not. Just like guys really.
Most girls **** 2 or 3 times a week - those who tell you they don't are often lying :p:

It's a good thing to be, erm, acquainted, with yourself before letting someone else down there. But you're definitely still a virgin.
Reply 7
Go to the dictionary. Look for V. Look for Vi. Look for Vir. Look for Virg. Look for Virgi. Look for Virgin.

Oh! Apparently you are.
Reply 8
Anonymous
I can't just go out on my own though can I that would be seen as sad.

Do you have any brothers or sisters/cousins to go with for nights out, to get you back on the 'scene' first. Are you at uni? If so it's never too late to make new friends.
rofl at "Virgins to most people would be 'innocent'" this isn't the middle ages anymore!
I'd be willing to "deflower" you, if you were willing. I promise that I'm no weirdo/pervert!

I'm serious, PM me, if you're interested. :smile:
Anonymous
Ok Im female 23 and a bit of a loner I don't have bf's friends or a social life I just work and go jogging/walking the dog. Not through my own choice Im just very reserved and get ignored a lot. Anyway Im a virgin as in Ive never had sex but I don't feel like a typical virgin I mean I sort of pleasure myself a few times a week lol Ive been doing it for years and don't call me sad just because Im female guys do it all the time! Im wondering though Im not a virgin in the original meaning of the word am I? Virgins to most people would be 'innocent' etc but I don't know what do you think of my situation:confused:


Virgins to most people are people who have not had sex, being all innocent doesn't make you more or less of a virgin you either are/aren't. In your case your a virgin, just not so reserved about it cause of you getting off by yourself.
Reply 12
elldee
Do you have any brothers or sisters/cousins to go with for nights out, to get you back on the 'scene' first. Are you at uni? If so it's never too late to make new friends.


Nope Im an only child still living with parents:redface: I finished uni and have a job but most are not my age and those who are I try to talk to but they never want to talk. Two weeks though someone randomly asked how old I was and I said 23 and he said 'really I would have thought 16' and the girl my age I was working with looked at him and said 'I would have said 14/15' lol I just can't mix!
It's no big deal, guys do that and stay virgins for years!

Your time will come :hugs:
Reply 14
Anonymous
Nope Im an only child still living with parents:redface: I finished uni and have a job but most are not my age and those who are I try to talk to but they never want to talk. Two weeks though someone randomly asked how old I was and I said 23 and he said 'really I would have thought 16' and the girl my age I was working with looked at him and said 'I would have said 14/15' lol I just can't mix!

aww...erm... don't know what to say, you just have to keep making the effort to go out and stuff- don't become/stay a recluse.
Reply 15
Anonymous
Anyway Im a virgin as in Ive never had sex but I don't feel like a typical virgin


Maybe you got violated in your sleep.
Hmmm, seems like you're a bit naive if you think most virgins are as innocent as you're saying. It may come as a shock to find out, but there are lots and lots of virgins out there, that have done everything BUT have penetrative sex. That means oral sex, mutual masturbation etc etc - but they're still virgins.

Girls spank the monkey. It's a fact of life. You don't have to be a slut to do it - your sexual experience has nothing to do with it.
Reply 17
Anonymous
Anyway Im a virgin as in Ive never had sex but I don't feel like a typical virgin I mean I sort of pleasure myself a few times a week lol Ive been doing it for years and don't call me sad just because Im female guys do it all the time! Im wondering though Im not a virgin in the original meaning of the word am I? Virgins to most people would be 'innocent' etc but I don't know what do you think of my situation:confused:


Nah, don't worry about it. Most people don't associate "virgin" as being the same as being "innocent". I think it pretty generally accepted now that a lot (most?) girls pleasure themselves.

If you're not happy with your social life there's no reason you can't change that. It's harder to meet people once your past the uni stage, but by no means impossible. If you can't bring yourself to chat with new people in person why not try on-line, it might help you build up confidence in your social skills
Reply 18
jismith1989
I'd be willing to "deflower" you, if you were willing. I promise that I'm no weirdo/pervert!

I'm serious, PM me, if you're interested. :smile:



In a slightly (Red Dwarf) Rimmer-esqe tone:

You're asking some you've never met if they'll let you deflower them on a public forum, and you don't think that qualifies you as weird ?
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In a slightly (Red Dwarf) Rimmer-esqe tone:

You're asking some you've never met if they'll let you deflower them on a public forum, and you don't think that qualifies you as weird ?

Hey, I have to take every chance I can get... :redface: :cool:

Besides, you've gotta pick a petal or two *breaks into song* :ninja:

And, as you can surely now see, I am rather weird, but not in a sociopathic, let-me-eat-your-children kind of way, of course. :yy: