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Reply 1
Awwww, I wouldn't know exactly but surely that's not the most important part for a girl? I wouldn't worry unless she does!

It's so sweet that you care so much about that though.
Don't worry, it's no ones fault. As long as she's not lying there like limp lettuce then it's all good. Don't put pressure on her to orgasm, because the expectation will make it less likely. Just enjoy what you have, I am sure she does, if she doesn't feel the need to fake to please you. Go with it, you are probably doing everything right - if you don't think you are, then just pay her more attention in bed, sorted!
Reply 3
annabellewalter
Don't worry, it's no ones fault. As long as she's not lying there like limp lettuce then it's all good. Don't put pressure on her to orgasm, because the expectation will make it less likely. Just enjoy what you have, I am sure she does, if she doesn't feel the need to fake to please you. Go with it, you are probably doing everything right - if you don't think you are, then just pay her more attention in bed, sorted!


I'm not blaming her or putting pressure on her I am just wondering if this is a normal thing and if she isn't lieing to try to save my feelings. I dont think it is possible for me to pay more attention to her, she has said that I make her feel like a princess because of the amount of attention I pay to her.
I think you are sorted then :smile:
Reply 5
Interesting article in Company this week - despite what most girly magazines and porn films would have you believe, some women just don't orgasm very easily. Pressuring isn't going to help, most likely she feels there's something wrong too and that doesn't relax her any more. Besides, just because she doesn't orgasm doesn't mean she's not enjoying it. :smile:

Persevere, in a nice relaxed sorta way, and it'll happen eventually.
Dont they say about 60% of women never have an orgasm during sex. You shouldnt worry about it unless she has them in the past in which case that might be a problem.......

At least she isnt faking it.
Reply 7
these_apples
Dont they say about 60% of women never have an orgasm during sex. You shouldnt worry about it unless she has them in the past in which case that might be a problem.......

At least she isnt faking it.


I hope she hasnt had them with another guy as I was the first guy she ever slept with and hopefull am still the only one she has slept with!
SciFi25
I hope she hasnt had them with another guy as I was the first guy she ever slept with and hopefull am still the only one she has slept with!



Well at least you dont have the problem of her comparing you to anyone else. Just take everyone elses advice and relax and dont put to much pressure on the topic, it should happen naturally. :smile:
It'll come when you least expect it. Oh dear God I can't believe I just said that.
Reply 10
these_apples
Dont they say about 60% of women never have an orgasm during sex. You shouldnt worry about it unless she has them in the past in which case that might be a problem.......

At least she isnt faking it.


Yep - 75% of women are unable to orgasm through sex alone. The only answer is foreplay. And lots of it. Trust me, it'll be worth it for you as well.
annabellewalter
It'll come when you least expect it. Oh dear God I can't believe I just said that.

Me neither :eek: .
Reply 12
Oral sex is the way forward if you want her to orgasm. Or just ask her to show you what she likes. She'll know.
Reply 13
Rebecca/Becca
Oral sex is the way forward if you want her to orgasm. Or just ask her to show you what she likes. She'll know.


Unfortunately not, she doesn't like it, too sensitive apparently. :confused:
Don't worry about it. It's not whats important. As long as she enjoys the rest of it and is ok with it, thats all that matters. :smile:
Reply 15
SciFi25
Unfortunately not, she doesn't like it, too sensitive apparently. :confused:

Too sensitive?? What? How? In what way? :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:
Reply 16
SciFi25
Unfortunately not, she doesn't like it, too sensitive apparently. :confused:


In which case she's DEFINITELY not relaxed enough - I went through a long phase where it hurt when a guy tried certain things, no matter how much I enjoyed everything else. Get her to tell you what to do, it might be weird and seem too unspontaneous at first, but you'll learn what to do and she'll appreciate it more. Just take time.
Reply 17
Helenia
Just take time.


A case where time heals all yeah?
Reply 18
SciFi25
A case where time heals all yeah?


Well hopefully :wink: I can't promise miracles, but I'm sure you're not doing anything immensely wrong, so it will happen.
Reply 19
Don't worry about it. I think we all know what the most important part of sex is........not getting an STI.


Nah, seriously, I'm sure she's more bothered about what you're like to her 90% of the time when you're not in the bedroom than when you're in there. Like its been said, stats say most women don't orgasm frequently anyway (if they did, such a big deal wouldn't be made about it).

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