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Relationships at home when at uni?
What would you advise about having relationships at home while you're at Uni? Is it wise to carry them on? I have a few friends who are thinking about this and, to be honest I can't see how it'd really work... just don't want them to get hurt!
What do you think?
What do you think?
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Well, this is kind of related but not exactly.
I went to uni single, and a ball, and i saw people who were in relationships and they (most of them) felt like they were missing out.
I went to the USA for a year as part of my course and was in a relationship then and i definetely felt like i missed out on some stuff... this however is a completely different course because there was 4,000+ miles between us...
i can say that the longer you are away from your boy/girlfriend the harder it is.. and especially when you are first at uni and you see all your friends going out and pulling etc, you might start to think you are missing out.
I don't know if this helps, but personally at least for the firstone or two years I would say go to uni single...
I went to uni single, and a ball, and i saw people who were in relationships and they (most of them) felt like they were missing out.
I went to the USA for a year as part of my course and was in a relationship then and i definetely felt like i missed out on some stuff... this however is a completely different course because there was 4,000+ miles between us...
i can say that the longer you are away from your boy/girlfriend the harder it is.. and especially when you are first at uni and you see all your friends going out and pulling etc, you might start to think you are missing out.
I don't know if this helps, but personally at least for the firstone or two years I would say go to uni single...
Jenfer
what if u have been with the person over two years?
and are only leaving them because u think u might 'miss out'?
and are only leaving them because u think u might 'miss out'?
you dont leave them if you still love them... just because you will 'miss out'. But if you go and then feel like you are straying or you really do feel like you are missing out on something and YOU think it's the right thing to do to leave them.. then that's your decision.
It depends on your situation. I was with my boyfriend for a year before i went to the states and I felt like i was missing out on some things but that didn't mean i was going to leave them as i was still very much in love. But, if you feel like the 'missing out' is overtaking the love, then you need to look at your relationship.
Also, when you go to uni, you will probably only be 18, still got the rest of your life ahead of you to have relationships.
schmeeble
you dont leave them if you still love them... just because you will 'miss out'. But if you go and then feel like you are straying or you really do feel like you are missing out on something and YOU think it's the right thing to do to leave them.. then that's your decision.
It depends on your situation. I was with my boyfriend for a year before i went to the states and I felt like i was missing out on some things but that didn't mean i was going to leave them as i was still very much in love. But, if you feel like the 'missing out' is overtaking the love, then you need to look at your relationship.
Also, when you go to uni, you will probably only be 18, still got the rest of your life ahead of you to have relationships.
It depends on your situation. I was with my boyfriend for a year before i went to the states and I felt like i was missing out on some things but that didn't mean i was going to leave them as i was still very much in love. But, if you feel like the 'missing out' is overtaking the love, then you need to look at your relationship.
Also, when you go to uni, you will probably only be 18, still got the rest of your life ahead of you to have relationships.
Thank you, that is very helpful advice... problem being.. i am up for that,but will he be?! .... blokes... not as nice as girls, am worried he may think more about lack of relationship at hand, and not want to miss out... o well.. nothing i can do about that.*sighs*.. relationships eh?!
It really depends.
If both people concerned are going to uni, then I reckon it's easier as you both can relate to each other's needs. If one person stays at home, it's harder because you're absent to them, and they don't understand what you're going through.
If both people concerned are going to uni, then I reckon it's easier as you both can relate to each other's needs. If one person stays at home, it's harder because you're absent to them, and they don't understand what you're going through.
Most people in first year at my uni managed to just about keep it together for the first term, but finished over christmas, guess it just wasnt the same when they went back.
My girlfriend and I have been together since about three months before she went off to uni (and I stayed at home). Then I went off to a different uni the year after. Now coming up on four years together, and we're looking forward to finishing this year and moving in together. Of course it can be done - and only YOU can decide whether it works for you.
ThePants999
My girlfriend and I have been together since about three months before she went off to uni (and I stayed at home). Then I went off to a different uni the year after. Now coming up on four years together, and we're looking forward to finishing this year and moving in together. Of course it can be done - and only YOU can decide whether it works for you.
Totally agree here. Of course it can be done. It depends on what you personally want though. If a realtionship is strong enough it can handle all sorts and still work.
it does completely depend on the couple. and i don't think that the longer the distance between you then less chance you have of making it work. my bf is at uni in lancaster, i'm in dundee (that's about 300 miles, 4 hour trip) and we've actually made it work so far (we'd been together about 7 months when we started uni, seems weird that over half our relationship has been long-distance)... my best mate had been with her bf for 18 months when she went to uni and she was only an hour away and they've since split up....
i personally thought the distance was too small a reason to split up
lou xxx
i personally thought the distance was too small a reason to split up
lou xxx
My best friend started going out with her boyfriend early in Year 13. She then went to Cambridge and he went to Durham and at the end of our 2nd year they're still very happy together.
One of my first year friends has been with her boyfriend since they were 14 and she's now at Cambridge and he's at Oxford. They're still together though she has lapsed a couple of times.
It can work, it will take effort but you won't necessarily be missing out. Distance isn't the key issue, it's how much time you invest in each other. It depends entirely on your relationship, so it will work if you both want it to.
One of my first year friends has been with her boyfriend since they were 14 and she's now at Cambridge and he's at Oxford. They're still together though she has lapsed a couple of times.
It can work, it will take effort but you won't necessarily be missing out. Distance isn't the key issue, it's how much time you invest in each other. It depends entirely on your relationship, so it will work if you both want it to.
i've been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years, and he's about to finish his 2nd year of uni.
he's still had a great time and although he's 2-3 hours away we've seen each other every fortnight or so. he comes hoem in the holidays so i don't even think of it as long distance really!
next year when i go to uni it will be the test, but i'm confident it can work. either way, i would never break up before you've tried it, because i'd always be thinking "what if"?
we've done it so far, no reason why we can't continue.
his sister and her boyfriend started going out when they were at school, went to uni 5 hours apart and have now graduated, got jobs, and bought a house together.
be positive and talk a lot and you'll be fine!
he's still had a great time and although he's 2-3 hours away we've seen each other every fortnight or so. he comes hoem in the holidays so i don't even think of it as long distance really!
next year when i go to uni it will be the test, but i'm confident it can work. either way, i would never break up before you've tried it, because i'd always be thinking "what if"?
we've done it so far, no reason why we can't continue.
his sister and her boyfriend started going out when they were at school, went to uni 5 hours apart and have now graduated, got jobs, and bought a house together.
be positive and talk a lot and you'll be fine!
i gota leave my bf when we go to uni. im goin to bristol, him aston so there will be a couple of hours between us, however i hope we can give it a go because i love him loads, n it wud just be a shame to just 'assume' your gona wana be with other people, when in reality you might not. howveer we both realise that although weve been together 3 n a bit years wen it comes to going, it wont be easy, and it may not work. my advice would be to give it a go!
lilcathstar
What would you advise about having relationships at home while you're at Uni? Is it wise to carry them on? I have a few friends who are thinking about this and, to be honest I can't see how it'd really work... just don't want them to get hurt!
What do you think?
What do you think?
Sorry i havent read any of the other replies...so i might be merely replicating what you have already heard.
From personal experience, i am currently at uni..and my man lives at the other side of london..so we hardly see each other and it gets to both of us big time. I am now contemplating breaking up with him...because we are both getting very little from the relationship.
I would say its hard but as long as you see each other regualarly and spontanteously then i think it could work....it is a struggle mind u...
when i go to birmingham in september, my long term partner (we'll be getting on to 2 years by then) will still be doing her last year of school back in london. and when she goes to uni, she probably won't end up where i am.
but we completely love each other, we're soulmates and we both feel exactly the same way and devoted. we'll be staying together. obviously, one can only try, and there will probably be very hard times. but life is what you make of it and if the relationship's strong and solid enough, the power of determination is endless.
but we completely love each other, we're soulmates and we both feel exactly the same way and devoted. we'll be staying together. obviously, one can only try, and there will probably be very hard times. but life is what you make of it and if the relationship's strong and solid enough, the power of determination is endless.
Sabrina1985
Sorry i havent read any of the other replies...so i might be merely replicating what you have already heard.
From personal experience, i am currently at uni..and my man lives at the other side of london..so we hardly see each other and it gets to both of us big time. I am now contemplating breaking up with him...because we are both getting very little from the relationship.
I would say its hard but as long as you see each other regualarly and spontanteously then i think it could work....it is a struggle mind u...
From personal experience, i am currently at uni..and my man lives at the other side of london..so we hardly see each other and it gets to both of us big time. I am now contemplating breaking up with him...because we are both getting very little from the relationship.
I would say its hard but as long as you see each other regualarly and spontanteously then i think it could work....it is a struggle mind u...
The other side of London?!?!?! you must be LAZY! with the tube it must be easy to see each other all the time!! My girlfriend lives about 3 hours away on train and we see each other quite alot (though still not enough!
) sure, it's difficult, but you've got to make the effort, which I'm guessing (i may be wrong) you're just not doing.amo1
i dont really think it would work i mean ur gonna meet so many people at uni it will just end in teaars
i dont really think it would work i mean ur gonna meet so many people at uni it will just end in teaars
If you don't try you'll never know.
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