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Advice Needed!!!!
Hi everyone, just wondering if you can help me with something. Read below and tell me what you think, thanks 
I went out the other night and saw one of my friends (S) (he also likes me and has asked me out a few times but ive always said no because i dont see him that way, i just want him as a friend).
He was out with another one of his friends (A), who i kind of know but not as well. Anyway my friend went off for a while and i was sat talking to his friend and he was saying to me "why dont you go out with S, he really likes you and he a really good guy" and i replied how i always reply when anyone asks me about him and said "i just dont like him that way, i just want to be his friend".
He carried on talking about him for a while but eventually dropped it and i tried to change the subject. I noticed that he kept looking and staring at me even if i wasnt saying anything but thought nothing of it, then he said "i can see why hes interested though, you are a good looking girl".
I didnt really know what to say so i just laughed and said "oh dont be stupid, are you drunk?" and he said "no im not drunk, its a shame that im S's friend coz if i wasnt id ask you for your number. But im a good friend and i wouldnt do that to him because i know how much he likes you". i said "well thats good, im glad hes got a friend as good as you" and tried to change the subject again because i was getting abit uncomfortable because i didnt know that he might like me (just to note that ive liked him for a while aswell but never thought he'd like me so didnt do anything about it).
He went quite for abit and then said "would you give me your number? if i asked you out for a drink sometime would you go?" i wasnt sure what he was getting at and i wasnt sure if he was being serious or not because someone who i know who has been out with him said that hes abit of a player, so tocover my own back i said "yeah i give my number to anyone so id give it to you" and he said "i really wana ask you out but i cant because of S"
Then S came over and sat down with us and i went to the bar for a drink, when i came back A had gone and S didnt look very happy, i asked him if everthing was OK and he said "yeah im fine" i asked where A had gone and he said "i dont know". i went to go and dance for abit with friends and when i went 2 go to the bar again i saw S and A stood there and they seemed to be shouting at each other. i went over to try and break up the situation (at this point i didnt know what they were arguing about) and then A said "were going now, hope you have a good night" so i said "awww dont go , its only early, you should both stay" so A said to S "well do you wana go to the bar?" and S just stood there and looked at him so i said "well im guna go to the bar" thinking that he'd come with me but he wouldnt budge so i went by myself and left one of my friends talking to A and S.
When i got back A said "yeah were definatly going now, see you later" and S just said "bye" so i said to my friend whats going on?" and she said "well when you were at the bar S went off somewhere so i was talking to A and i said to him "you were trying to chat her up werent you?" and he said "no the opposite" and before she could ask him what he meant S came back and said that he was going and was A coming with him?
Anyway all night i was very confused and i didnt know what was going on, i didnt know whether A liked me and really wanted my number or if he was asking for it and then was going to give it to S or if he was just messing around. then the next day I saw S in one of my lessons and he didn’t look to happy so I said "what’s up?" and he said "oh I’m just tired and stressed out, i didn’t get much sleep last night" so i asked why and he said "because me and A were up all night arguing" so i asked "what about" and all he said was "what happened last night, i told him not to say something and he did".
he wouldn’t tell me what he meant by that so I said "oh right, well is everything sorted now? Are you alright with each other?" and he just said, "Yeah I think so" and walked off.
Well i think that’s everything, sorry its so long but i wanted to get in everything that happened coz I want your opinion on what you think happened and what’s going on.
Thanks to anyone who replies and has helpful info or an insight into what’s happening coz I’m real confused
I went out the other night and saw one of my friends (S) (he also likes me and has asked me out a few times but ive always said no because i dont see him that way, i just want him as a friend).
He was out with another one of his friends (A), who i kind of know but not as well. Anyway my friend went off for a while and i was sat talking to his friend and he was saying to me "why dont you go out with S, he really likes you and he a really good guy" and i replied how i always reply when anyone asks me about him and said "i just dont like him that way, i just want to be his friend".
He carried on talking about him for a while but eventually dropped it and i tried to change the subject. I noticed that he kept looking and staring at me even if i wasnt saying anything but thought nothing of it, then he said "i can see why hes interested though, you are a good looking girl".
I didnt really know what to say so i just laughed and said "oh dont be stupid, are you drunk?" and he said "no im not drunk, its a shame that im S's friend coz if i wasnt id ask you for your number. But im a good friend and i wouldnt do that to him because i know how much he likes you". i said "well thats good, im glad hes got a friend as good as you" and tried to change the subject again because i was getting abit uncomfortable because i didnt know that he might like me (just to note that ive liked him for a while aswell but never thought he'd like me so didnt do anything about it).
He went quite for abit and then said "would you give me your number? if i asked you out for a drink sometime would you go?" i wasnt sure what he was getting at and i wasnt sure if he was being serious or not because someone who i know who has been out with him said that hes abit of a player, so tocover my own back i said "yeah i give my number to anyone so id give it to you" and he said "i really wana ask you out but i cant because of S"
Then S came over and sat down with us and i went to the bar for a drink, when i came back A had gone and S didnt look very happy, i asked him if everthing was OK and he said "yeah im fine" i asked where A had gone and he said "i dont know". i went to go and dance for abit with friends and when i went 2 go to the bar again i saw S and A stood there and they seemed to be shouting at each other. i went over to try and break up the situation (at this point i didnt know what they were arguing about) and then A said "were going now, hope you have a good night" so i said "awww dont go , its only early, you should both stay" so A said to S "well do you wana go to the bar?" and S just stood there and looked at him so i said "well im guna go to the bar" thinking that he'd come with me but he wouldnt budge so i went by myself and left one of my friends talking to A and S.
When i got back A said "yeah were definatly going now, see you later" and S just said "bye" so i said to my friend whats going on?" and she said "well when you were at the bar S went off somewhere so i was talking to A and i said to him "you were trying to chat her up werent you?" and he said "no the opposite" and before she could ask him what he meant S came back and said that he was going and was A coming with him?
Anyway all night i was very confused and i didnt know what was going on, i didnt know whether A liked me and really wanted my number or if he was asking for it and then was going to give it to S or if he was just messing around. then the next day I saw S in one of my lessons and he didn’t look to happy so I said "what’s up?" and he said "oh I’m just tired and stressed out, i didn’t get much sleep last night" so i asked why and he said "because me and A were up all night arguing" so i asked "what about" and all he said was "what happened last night, i told him not to say something and he did".
he wouldn’t tell me what he meant by that so I said "oh right, well is everything sorted now? Are you alright with each other?" and he just said, "Yeah I think so" and walked off.
Well i think that’s everything, sorry its so long but i wanted to get in everything that happened coz I want your opinion on what you think happened and what’s going on.
Thanks to anyone who replies and has helpful info or an insight into what’s happening coz I’m real confused
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well i am:
a) as confused as you
b) of the opinion the A and S both fancy you
c) of the opinion that S fancies you, told A something and he tried to tell you
or
d) at a complete loss
a) as confused as you
b) of the opinion the A and S both fancy you
c) of the opinion that S fancies you, told A something and he tried to tell you
or
d) at a complete loss
I think they both like you, and this is creating tension between them. S saw you first and told A about you, and A wanted to help but then discovered that he liked you too (what a hard life it is!).
Personally I would go for S, as A is apparently unfased by the fact that he is making advances on the girl he knows his best friend likes and so is not REALLY the kind of guy I would like to try and trust. And S obviously really likes yo8u, otherwise he wouldn't have minded A's actions at all.
If S's uncertainty is causing problems then say something yourself, ask him out if you're interested, and if not tell him. Apart from your own feelings you don't want to be the cause of their friendship breaking up.
Personally I would go for S, as A is apparently unfased by the fact that he is making advances on the girl he knows his best friend likes and so is not REALLY the kind of guy I would like to try and trust. And S obviously really likes yo8u, otherwise he wouldn't have minded A's actions at all.
If S's uncertainty is causing problems then say something yourself, ask him out if you're interested, and if not tell him. Apart from your own feelings you don't want to be the cause of their friendship breaking up.
I think S fancies A but doesn't want to admit it, A fancies you and you are just confused.
MB
MB
i think A told S he fancies you and is guna ask u out. then i think they were shouting cos he told S that he sk you out and you said yes and you are going out now with A. S is pissed off and jealous.
A seems a bast to tell that to S when it isnt true and he seem a bit like a player. i don thisnk he really likes you i think he's doing it to prove he's more of a man than S.
S does really lik you
to sort things out, tell S you are not goitn out with A but that you arent interested in anyoe
A seems a bast to tell that to S when it isnt true and he seem a bit like a player. i don thisnk he really likes you i think he's doing it to prove he's more of a man than S.
S does really lik you
to sort things out, tell S you are not goitn out with A but that you arent interested in anyoe
Thanks for everyones input. Its cleared a few things up for me, but i'm still a little confused.
What does you think A meant when he said to my friend "No the opposite" when she asked him if he was chatting me up?
I also saw S again yesterday and he still wasn't looking very happy so i asked him if he was ok and he said 'yeah' in a real grumpy voice. so i said "well your obviously not, tell me whats wrong" He just said "im just still really mad at A, i can't believe he'd do something like that" so i said "i thought everything was OK between the 2 of you now" and he just shook his head.
My initial opinion about what happened that night is that, A didnt like me and he was messing around, thats why i tried to cover my back when he asked for my number by saying "yeah i'd give you my number, i give my number to anyone"
I thought he was asking me out for a drink either to
1) see what id say and if i said yes saying "i was only joking" to make me look stupid or
2) he was trying to get my number and would then give it to S so he could text/ring me
But because they've been arguing for the past few days, its made me think and im not really sure whats going on. Maybe A really does like me, thats why S has got so upset because maybe he sees it as a "betrayal".
Most people who read this will think "ohh A's a bad friend because he knows that S likes you" but looking back on everything, it may not be the ideal situation but to me it seems as though A has made sure (numerous times) that im not interested in S and now that hes sure that nothing would ever happen between me and S (hes been asking me out for the past 2 years and ive always said no, i thought he'd have got the picture by now) hes decided to make a now.
I dont really know if that makes him a bad friend or not. Maybe you guys can help me
Sorry about the length of it again
What does you think A meant when he said to my friend "No the opposite" when she asked him if he was chatting me up?
I also saw S again yesterday and he still wasn't looking very happy so i asked him if he was ok and he said 'yeah' in a real grumpy voice. so i said "well your obviously not, tell me whats wrong" He just said "im just still really mad at A, i can't believe he'd do something like that" so i said "i thought everything was OK between the 2 of you now" and he just shook his head.
My initial opinion about what happened that night is that, A didnt like me and he was messing around, thats why i tried to cover my back when he asked for my number by saying "yeah i'd give you my number, i give my number to anyone"
I thought he was asking me out for a drink either to
1) see what id say and if i said yes saying "i was only joking" to make me look stupid or
2) he was trying to get my number and would then give it to S so he could text/ring me
But because they've been arguing for the past few days, its made me think and im not really sure whats going on. Maybe A really does like me, thats why S has got so upset because maybe he sees it as a "betrayal".
Most people who read this will think "ohh A's a bad friend because he knows that S likes you" but looking back on everything, it may not be the ideal situation but to me it seems as though A has made sure (numerous times) that im not interested in S and now that hes sure that nothing would ever happen between me and S (hes been asking me out for the past 2 years and ive always said no, i thought he'd have got the picture by now) hes decided to make a now.
I dont really know if that makes him a bad friend or not. Maybe you guys can help me
Sorry about the length of it again
Emma05
From what I can gather the two lads both like you
ooh, we've found another genius.
MB
musicboy
ooh, we've found another genius.
MB
MB
you're so blunt. Lol.
md_red_uk
you're so blunt. Lol.
yes, I see it as a virtue!
MB
musicboy
yes, I see it as a virtue!
MB
MB
I am sure Ernesto Guevara would agree.
kaemba
Thanks for everyones input. Its cleared a few things up for me, but i'm still a little confused.
What does you think A meant when he said to my friend "No the opposite" when she asked him if he was chatting me up?
I also saw S again yesterday and he still wasn't looking very happy so i asked him if he was ok and he said 'yeah' in a real grumpy voice. so i said "well your obviously not, tell me whats wrong" He just said "im just still really mad at A, i can't believe he'd do something like that" so i said "i thought everything was OK between the 2 of you now" and he just shook his head.
My initial opinion about what happened that night is that, A didnt like me and he was messing around, thats why i tried to cover my back when he asked for my number by saying "yeah i'd give you my number, i give my number to anyone"
I thought he was asking me out for a drink either to
1) see what id say and if i said yes saying "i was only joking" to make me look stupid or
2) he was trying to get my number and would then give it to S so he could text/ring me
But because they've been arguing for the past few days, its made me think and im not really sure whats going on. Maybe A really does like me, thats why S has got so upset because maybe he sees it as a "betrayal".
Most people who read this will think "ohh A's a bad friend because he knows that S likes you" but looking back on everything, it may not be the ideal situation but to me it seems as though A has made sure (numerous times) that im not interested in S and now that hes sure that nothing would ever happen between me and S (hes been asking me out for the past 2 years and ive always said no, i thought he'd have got the picture by now) hes decided to make a now.
I dont really know if that makes him a bad friend or not. Maybe you guys can help me
Sorry about the length of it again
What does you think A meant when he said to my friend "No the opposite" when she asked him if he was chatting me up?
I also saw S again yesterday and he still wasn't looking very happy so i asked him if he was ok and he said 'yeah' in a real grumpy voice. so i said "well your obviously not, tell me whats wrong" He just said "im just still really mad at A, i can't believe he'd do something like that" so i said "i thought everything was OK between the 2 of you now" and he just shook his head.
My initial opinion about what happened that night is that, A didnt like me and he was messing around, thats why i tried to cover my back when he asked for my number by saying "yeah i'd give you my number, i give my number to anyone"
I thought he was asking me out for a drink either to
1) see what id say and if i said yes saying "i was only joking" to make me look stupid or
2) he was trying to get my number and would then give it to S so he could text/ring me
But because they've been arguing for the past few days, its made me think and im not really sure whats going on. Maybe A really does like me, thats why S has got so upset because maybe he sees it as a "betrayal".
Most people who read this will think "ohh A's a bad friend because he knows that S likes you" but looking back on everything, it may not be the ideal situation but to me it seems as though A has made sure (numerous times) that im not interested in S and now that hes sure that nothing would ever happen between me and S (hes been asking me out for the past 2 years and ive always said no, i thought he'd have got the picture by now) hes decided to make a now.
I dont really know if that makes him a bad friend or not. Maybe you guys can help me
Sorry about the length of it again
i think he said 'no the opposite' so she ould nt know whats going on between u 2.
i also think he took ur number to say to S he's going out with u. i get the impression of some male rivalry going on here. i don t think A likes u. he's only doing it to p*ss off S for some reason, think he's tying to prove he's more manly than him cos he couls pull u and S coulnt. S seems to really lov u, i think u shud give him a chance
i get the feeling A is alot more experience d than S and is a playa
md_red_uk
I am sure Ernesto Guevara would agree.
I'm not really a guevara fan because I hjave issues with the idea of starting revolutions in pre-industrial societies and the contradiction of the dictatorship of thee proletariat and guerilla warfare.
MB
okay, i will give my two cents, it may be long and incoherent, its late and im drunk! but yes on with the questionb. I think that S lieks you a lott, has asked you out loads. A fancies you too, was checking one last time to see ifyou liked s, and was then chatting you up and wanting your number for himself. When he said no the opposite this was because he was in front of S and would rather s think e was terying to make you goout with s rahter than himself. Not muxch you cvan really do about it though, just enjopy the ego boost!
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