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Slept with someone who has a girlfriend...

Yes, I know I'm a disgrace, awful, blahblahblah.

Got myself involved with a guy who has a girlfriend. I know them both, see them together at school almost everyday, they've been together about a year. We've been talking/sleeping with each other for about two months now and the guilt is practically eating me up. He says he loves her but I do wonder...

It's just hard to stop it, I really like him but what I'm doing is so wrong... anyone been in a situation like this?

I'm pretty sure I just need to go cold turkey and stop all contact with him. I leave school in five weeks so won't have to see him/then if I don't want to...

... yeah.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Been there... just stop it. How would you feel if your boyfriend cheated on you?

Reply 2

DD2

7

Try to stop it. This is his fault though, not yours.

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

oh my gawd that sounds exactly what i did lol...

but i dont actually like his girlfriend so i didnt care...

he felt the guilt not me lmao...(and finished it)

just keep your head down n learn from thias...(and stop sleeping with him...)!

Reply 4

Anonymous #4

you're exactly the type of person who ruins relationships!!

GTFO!!

Reply 5

tayalouise

11

Anonymous

you're exactly the type of person who ruins relationships!!

GTFO!!

THIS

Reply 6

NEVERYOUMIND

that is bad. find someone else (who hasnt got a gf)

Reply 7

Hypertrophy90

lol damn OP records the fight that's about to happen

Reply 8

Profesh

20

Anonymous

you're exactly the type of person who ruins relationships!!

GTFO!!

Utter bull****.

Reply 9

whitepearlbaby

18

Anonymous

you're exactly the type of person who ruins relationships!!

GTFO!!

As if it's not the boyfriend's fault at all.

Reply 10

fabulous_darling

15

If the relationship wasn't weak and heading toward ruin in the first place, then the boyfriend in question wouldn't have cheated on his girlfriend.

Reply 11

Emsiee

5

That's a bit harsh.
Things aren't always as simple as they first appear.
She feels bad about it she's said that, if she didn't want help she wouldn't have posted it, there's no need to be mean.
And besides if the relationship was that good, HE wouldn't be cheating in the first place would he?

O.P - I do think that you should go "cold turkey".

Reply 12

sleekchic

18

DD2

Try to stop it. This is his fault though, not yours.

No it is both their faults.

OP, just end it now, you now that he has a girlfriend so end it now.

Reply 13

ColonelStrong

Anonymous

Yes, I know I'm a disgrace, awful, blahblahblah.

And you say the guilt is eating you up?

Reply 14

xNishx

cut all contact with him, hes just using you for sex, if thats all you want then im sure you can get it from someone else?

Reply 15

cazs

6

As long as you did it for the right reason, it's okay.

Reply 16

Jayde

Anonymous

Yes, I know I'm a disgrace, awful, blahblahblah.

Got myself involved with a guy who has a girlfriend. I know them both, see them together at school almost everyday, they've been together about a year. We've been talking/sleeping with each other for about two months now and the guilt is practically eating me up. He says he loves her but I do wonder...

It's just hard to stop it, I really like him but what I'm doing is so wrong... anyone been in a situation like this?

I'm pretty sure I just need to go cold turkey and stop all contact with him. I leave school in five weeks so won't have to see him/then if I don't want to...

... yeah.

I was in the same situation, but I didn't know the gf as she lived where he called "home" and I saw him while he was a Uni.. kinda makes it worse seeing as I knew she probably would never find out but anyways, but considering how much time he spent with me I don't know how she didn't find out... anyways...

You can try and go cold turkey, but I can tell you from experience it is near on impossible.. even though I know I am moving house soon, when he's home he's hundreds of miles away.. and when he's at uni he's still an hour away in a car, it was SO hard to stop talking to him (from my perspective) and even though I finished things.. he still claims he did because his consience was eating him up. lol! and by me saying I finished things I mean I started the "where do I stand?" conversation and ended things like that...

I am glad I am not with him anymore as he would never have broken up with his gf because they've been together since school or college or something, and he always goes "home" during holidays so how would I know if he wasn't doing the same to me?? if he did it to her, cheated I mean.. it means he will do it again.

The best thing you can do is just stop seeing him in person, perhaps stay as friends online or whatever until you finish school and then get rid. You deserve better.

And for those calling the OP names, well then.. of course guys can never be charmers and never make you feel like they love you, and they are never in the wrong - are they? there are some right idiots out there who thrive on female attention, I think the person I was seeing had lots of other women so that makes the whole break up a little harder seeing as I put SO much more into it, but hey - we all make mistakes.