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Treat em Mean Keep em Keen

footballhead

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Discuss. Do you agree?

Reply 1

rainjan_4now

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I think thats horrid!

Reply 2

BlackHawk

17

No, I do* think everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect.

I do believe however that everyone needs their own space and time for themselves. I don't constantly need attention and I don't even need to be called everyday to know that the other person is there. I enjoy speaking to them but my world wouldn't grind to a halt if they went off the radar for a day or two.

Reply 3

Piggsil

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BlackHawk

No, I don't think everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect.

I agree. If somone I had feelings for started being horrible to me, I would be upset. It wouldn't make me like them more!

Reply 4

viviki

14

No way

Reply 5

BlackHawk

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LOL that was a typo. But if someone were mean and horrible to me I would just drop them. Who wants that?

Reply 6

Piggsil

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BlackHawk

LOL that was a typo. But if someone were mean and horrible to me I would just drop them. Who wants that?

D'oh. I am so dumb sometimes!!

Reply 7

BlackHawk

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Rebecca/Becca

D'oh. I am so dumb sometimes!!

No it was me! I always post then proof read :redface:

Reply 8

kingslaw

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Hmmm...not sure. No matter how many times I've kicked any one of my ex-girlfriends, they never seem to get any keener.

Reply 9

naelse

15

i have to admit it worked for me in the past- only because it made me obsessed about them, trying to get them to notice me and crying over them because they didn't care. but it never worked out in the long term. now i'm with a guy who doesn't play games and i can truly say that for the first time i'm in love and enjoying being loved and i could never go back to the type of guy i used to be with.

Reply 10

Tyler Durden

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naelse

i have to admit it worked for me in the past- only because it made me obsessed about them, trying to get them to notice me and crying over them because they didn't care. but it never worked out in the long term. now i'm with a guy who doesn't play games and i can truly say that for the first time i'm in love and enjoying being loved and i could never go back to the type of guy i used to be with.

Yeah exactly, think you hit the nail on the head. If a bloke wants to get girls to sleep with once or twice and then move on, the whole treating them mean and just playing it cool seems to work. It's hardly a basis for maintaining a relationship though. Love is about letting down some of the barriers and treating someone coolly is doing the opposite; putting a barrier up. Basically I think it creates artificial interest. The "why doesn't he care?" factor and then it becomes a point the girl has to prove to herself - doesn't really mean anything though. A much more meaningful relationship would be one where such petty games can be dropped in favour of meaningful feelings which are discussed openly and without the need for constant point scoring.

Reply 11

Mad Vlad

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Its mean... it knocks my confidence for 6 :frown:

Reply 12

Tyler Durden

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Mad Vlad

Its mean... it knocks my confidence for 6 :frown:

Maybe it's like I said in my last post and it's just because they're after one thing. It's strange you say that, for some reason I always associated it with blokes doing it to women. But of course it does happen the other way...

Reply 13

Mad Vlad

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englishstudent

Maybe it's like I said in my last post and it's just because they're after one thing. It's strange you say that, for some reason I always associated it with blokes doing it to women. But of course it does happen the other way...

Possibly... am I confusing this and "playing hard to get"? or is there no difference?

Reply 14

Apricot Fairy

16

I don't, but I probably should! The guy I like would probably be more interested if I seemed less available!

Reply 15

Tyler Durden

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Mad Vlad

Possibly... am I confusing this and "playing hard to get"? or is there no difference?

Kinda similar I think... Playing hard to get is more before you've never had "something" with them. I suppose treat em mean keep em keen is more like if you're with someone but always keeping them on their toes and not really being open or honest and always making them feel like they have to work for you. Dunno. Both are playing games and therefore pretty dumb.

Reply 16

kingslaw

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susiemakemeblue

I don't, but I probably should! The guy I like would probably be more interested if I seemed less available!

How do you make yourself look available :eek:

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Sayin that, every girl in Stockport manages it.

Reply 17

Mad Vlad

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englishstudent

Kinda similar I think... Playing hard to get is more before you've never had "something" with them. I suppose treat em mean keep em keen is more like if you're with someone but always keeping them on their toes and not really being open or honest and always making them feel like they have to work for you. Dunno. Both are playing games and therefore pretty dumb.

Indeed

Reply 18

queenselphie

I would never ever play with someones feelings like that...

but...when people do it to me, much as I hate it, I'll admit, it makes me wish even more that they liked me, makes me try and get things back to when they were being nice to me...guess thats the doormat in me :redface:

Reply 19

Apricot Fairy

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kingslaw

How do you make yourself look available :eek: