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Why am i getting messed round by girls all the time?
This is starting to make me a tad pissed off. I feel I have got a lot to offer to girls, i havent got brad pitt looks (how cliche) but i am not that bad looking.
I am just getting the bad end constantly. I have been cheated on in a relationship, and given very bad reasons for breakups (e.g. i just dont want a relationship anymore, you are too good for me). Two of my previous girlfriends also had no desire to have sex at all with me and that made my self esteem crumble to bits
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And thats the start. Ive even been messed around in the dating stage. I have done internet dating for a few years and its not gone too well. Two or 3 times, ive got talking to someone, arrange a date and then get a call a day or 2 before saying they cannot meet, and then i never hear from them again! I have been lied to by others saying they are not looking for a relationship, lose contact and then 3/4 months later they are seeing someone!
So now im 23, and I m finding honesty in women a real problem and i have got treated badly. Im just thinking if its better staying single! I know a lot of people at 23 or 24 will want to settle down in a long term relationship, I would like that but im finding it difficult if women cannot be honest and this is a huge problem.
So what should I do. Am i the problem here or have I just been extremely unlucky.
I am just getting the bad end constantly. I have been cheated on in a relationship, and given very bad reasons for breakups (e.g. i just dont want a relationship anymore, you are too good for me). Two of my previous girlfriends also had no desire to have sex at all with me and that made my self esteem crumble to bits
. And thats the start. Ive even been messed around in the dating stage. I have done internet dating for a few years and its not gone too well. Two or 3 times, ive got talking to someone, arrange a date and then get a call a day or 2 before saying they cannot meet, and then i never hear from them again! I have been lied to by others saying they are not looking for a relationship, lose contact and then 3/4 months later they are seeing someone!
So now im 23, and I m finding honesty in women a real problem and i have got treated badly. Im just thinking if its better staying single! I know a lot of people at 23 or 24 will want to settle down in a long term relationship, I would like that but im finding it difficult if women cannot be honest and this is a huge problem.
So what should I do. Am i the problem here or have I just been extremely unlucky.
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PM me mate...I'll help you properly.
Any other opinions guys and girls? i had a chat with my mates, and they just cannot understand why this is happening! Its really weird
Either you're not man enough for these women (and the can smell your weakness and exploit it to the max), or you're picking the wrong women entirely. We're gonna need some more details/backstory from you though.......
Either way, raise your manhood, hit the gym (harder) and seek out the women that want YOU.
Oh yeah, before you think "relationship" you should be thinking "get good at getting women", THEN "understanding women", THEN relationship.
Either way, raise your manhood, hit the gym (harder) and seek out the women that want YOU.
Oh yeah, before you think "relationship" you should be thinking "get good at getting women", THEN "understanding women", THEN relationship.
what do you do?
I think men tend to exploit weeknesses to the max- sorry but i do
If shes not having sex with you and you know that shes not for other reasons e.g, faith, health etc then you havent done enough to earn sex- thats sounds bad and like prostitution- Im not going to spill here and say what I think you should do or say. Instead what do you do at the early stages and dating?? Gosh so many guys i know dont even bother dating the girl- like going for a meal or getting to know her- and it just pushes me away! Also never call- always with the texting - i dont text my girl mates every few hours i chat to them! anyways take us through it all- then i can diagnose you lol
I think men tend to exploit weeknesses to the max- sorry but i do
If shes not having sex with you and you know that shes not for other reasons e.g, faith, health etc then you havent done enough to earn sex- thats sounds bad and like prostitution- Im not going to spill here and say what I think you should do or say. Instead what do you do at the early stages and dating?? Gosh so many guys i know dont even bother dating the girl- like going for a meal or getting to know her- and it just pushes me away! Also never call- always with the texting - i dont text my girl mates every few hours i chat to them! anyways take us through it all- then i can diagnose you lol
mr-breaker
Either you're not man enough for these women (and the can smell your weakness and exploit it to the max), or you're picking the wrong women entirely. We're gonna need some more details/backstory from you though.......
Either way, raise your manhood, hit the gym (harder) and seek out the women that want YOU.
Oh yeah, before you think "relationship" you should be thinking "get good at getting women", THEN "understanding women", THEN relationship.
Either way, raise your manhood, hit the gym (harder) and seek out the women that want YOU.
Oh yeah, before you think "relationship" you should be thinking "get good at getting women", THEN "understanding women", THEN relationship.
I serriously think men are more complex than women
mean are so flippant one minute like you- next minute not so much- then they say women are hard to understand.
I'm the same but with guys - my housemates don't know whats going wrong.
You've probably just not found the right person yet.
You've probably just not found the right person yet.
This has happened to me but worse.
Some of the girls are plain £ucked in the head.
I think most don't know what they want. The reality is, you have to tell them what they want.
I've even had girls I've met that have friends that get jealous and screw it all up by lying.
Steer clear of Internet dating, a lot of the girls on these sites are attention seekers who like all the attention of guys talking to them.
I left my previous relationship because I thought I could find someone who matched my interests better, and now regret it to some extent because I haven't found anyone so far who even comes close in terms of honesty.
A lot of the time its a numbers game, you just have to approach/get to know as many girls as possible before you find the right one. This will be the most common way to meet people once you have left university.
Clubs are probably not the best place to meet girls. Try some new hobbies, you never know who you will bump into.
You may just be a bad judge of character, as I think I have been in the past (or I could just be to naive about the signs you might observe as to whether a girl is worth your time).
Most girls play silly 'tests' on you to try to figure you out, which I think is plain immature, but then if you were trying to sell a car to the target market it needs to do what the target market wants right?
Some of the girls are plain £ucked in the head.
I think most don't know what they want. The reality is, you have to tell them what they want.
I've even had girls I've met that have friends that get jealous and screw it all up by lying.
Steer clear of Internet dating, a lot of the girls on these sites are attention seekers who like all the attention of guys talking to them.
I left my previous relationship because I thought I could find someone who matched my interests better, and now regret it to some extent because I haven't found anyone so far who even comes close in terms of honesty.
A lot of the time its a numbers game, you just have to approach/get to know as many girls as possible before you find the right one. This will be the most common way to meet people once you have left university.
Clubs are probably not the best place to meet girls. Try some new hobbies, you never know who you will bump into.
You may just be a bad judge of character, as I think I have been in the past (or I could just be to naive about the signs you might observe as to whether a girl is worth your time).
Most girls play silly 'tests' on you to try to figure you out, which I think is plain immature, but then if you were trying to sell a car to the target market it needs to do what the target market wants right?
yazoo
what do you do?
I think men tend to exploit weeknesses to the max- sorry but i do
I think men tend to exploit weeknesses to the max- sorry but i do
meh..........women are just as ruthless about it. They can keep it a secret better - that's the only difference!
If shes not having sex with you and you know that shes not for other reasons e.g, faith, health etc then you havent done enough to earn sex-
(you have a point though)Instead what do you do at the early stages and dating?? Gosh so many guys i know dont even bother dating the girl- like going for a meal or getting to know her- and it just pushes me away!
This is the problem with traditional dating. It doesn't allow for enough time to get to know her! Take your girlfriend to dinner (or invite her over and make her dinner..........or invite her over and make her cook
)Also never call- always with the texting - i dont text my girl mates every few hours i chat to them!
More gold guys. DON'T TEXT as a substitute for talking.
Jillie Boe
I'm the same but with guys - my housemates don't know whats going wrong.
You've probably just not found the right person yet.
You've probably just not found the right person yet.
guess how people are arouns 1 another....
mr-breaker
More gold guys. DON'T TEXT as a substitute for talking.
This could be something that I've not utilised so well.
Anonymous
I think most don't know what they want. The reality is, you have to tell them what they want.
I think most don't know what they want. The reality is, you have to tell them what they want.
How old are you? Most young women are like this. This is not a bad thing.
I left my previous relationship because I thought I could find someone who matched my interests better, and now regret it to some extent because I haven't found anyone so far who even comes close in terms of honesty.
Variance. That, and always have an exit strategy in case of crisis.
A lot of the time its a numbers game, you just have to approach/get to know as many girls as possible before you find the right one. This will be the most common way to meet people once you have left university.
Better to find out what sort of women are feeling you, improve yourself on the inside and the outside, then go hang out where they hang out!
Clubs are probably not the best place to meet girls. Try some new hobbies, you never know who you will bump into.
Clubs are great places to meet women. OK you probably ain't gonna meet your wife there, but I suspect the OP wants the regular sex he's never had. If he learns how to play it he could find that easily there...........
Most girls play silly 'tests' on you to try to figure you out, which I think is plain immature, but then if you were trying to sell a car to the target market it needs to do what the target market wants right?
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It's actually smart on their part........if you can't pass their silly tests you ain't man enough for them. Tests should be welcomed.
Anonymous
This is starting to make me a tad pissed off. I feel I have got a lot to offer to girls, i havent got brad pitt looks (how cliche) but i am not that bad looking.
I am just getting the bad end constantly. I have been cheated on in a relationship, and given very bad reasons for breakups (e.g. i just dont want a relationship anymore, you are too good for me). Two of my previous girlfriends also had no desire to have sex at all with me and that made my self esteem crumble to bits .
And thats the start. Ive even been messed around in the dating stage. I have done internet dating for a few years and its not gone too well. Two or 3 times, ive got talking to someone, arrange a date and then get a call a day or 2 before saying they cannot meet, and then i never hear from them again! I have been lied to by others saying they are not looking for a relationship, lose contact and then 3/4 months later they are seeing someone!
So now im 23, and I m finding honesty in women a real problem and i have got treated badly. Im just thinking if its better staying single! I know a lot of people at 23 or 24 will want to settle down in a long term relationship, I would like that but im finding it difficult if women cannot be honest and this is a huge problem.
So what should I do. Am i the problem here or have I just been extremely unlucky.
I am just getting the bad end constantly. I have been cheated on in a relationship, and given very bad reasons for breakups (e.g. i just dont want a relationship anymore, you are too good for me). Two of my previous girlfriends also had no desire to have sex at all with me and that made my self esteem crumble to bits
. And thats the start. Ive even been messed around in the dating stage. I have done internet dating for a few years and its not gone too well. Two or 3 times, ive got talking to someone, arrange a date and then get a call a day or 2 before saying they cannot meet, and then i never hear from them again! I have been lied to by others saying they are not looking for a relationship, lose contact and then 3/4 months later they are seeing someone!
So now im 23, and I m finding honesty in women a real problem and i have got treated badly. Im just thinking if its better staying single! I know a lot of people at 23 or 24 will want to settle down in a long term relationship, I would like that but im finding it difficult if women cannot be honest and this is a huge problem.
So what should I do. Am i the problem here or have I just been extremely unlucky.
without having met you, it is difficult to say why you get messed around. i think it's just the girls you go for... you seem like a stereotypical nice guy and being such a person makes me keen to please your gf...i don't know the nice way to put it but sometimes nice guys don't have enough backbone in them to stand up for themselves. try being single for a while, learn about what REALLY makes you a great guy
yazoo
I serriously think men are more complex than women
mean are so flippant one minute like you- next minute not so much- then they say women are hard to understand.
mean are so flippant one minute like you- next minute not so much- then they say women are hard to understand.
This is very true.
OP, everyone feels like you do at some point. I also kind of assumed once people got to around 23/24 they'd be through that whole 'waaaaay I want to be single'/lads on tour holidays & whatnot. But obviously not! My ex is 23... finished uni last year, and his main concern is doing his bedroom up (he still lives at home), and getting some tacky lads holiday to shagaluf sorted. Whereas Im 22, and my main concern is moving out of home asap, and just getting some sort of independence. I guess different people just mature at different rates.
But yea, everyone gets treated like crap. Everyone gets the crappy reasons for breaking up with someone sooner or later. Only upside I can see to it as that its sort of a learning curve that everyone has to go through. And that surely it must be better to go through it now when you're young. Instead of having good/easy relationships until you're in your 30's or whatever, and then getting ****** over massively and then not being able to cope with it because you've never experienced that crap before.
mr-breaker
meh..........women are just as ruthless about it. They can keep it a secret better - that's the only difference!
(you have a point though)
This is the problem with traditional dating. It doesn't allow for enough time to get to know her! Take your girlfriend to dinner (or invite her over and make her dinner..........or invite her over and make her cook )
More gold guys. DON'T TEXT as a substitute for talking.
(you have a point though)This is the problem with traditional dating. It doesn't allow for enough time to get to know her! Take your girlfriend to dinner (or invite her over and make her dinner..........or invite her over and make her cook
)More gold guys. DON'T TEXT as a substitute for talking.
ha your funny!!! But i speak words of wisdom with a slight chip on my shoulder but not too big of a chip that it wont fall off
ohmyzeus
without having met you, it is difficult to say why you get messed around. i think it's just the girls you go for... you seem like a stereotypical nice guy and being such a person makes me keen to please your gf...i don't know the nice way to put it but sometimes nice guys don't have enough backbone in them to stand up for themselves. try being single for a while, learn about what REALLY makes you a great guy
I wouldnt consider myself a stereotypical nice guy who tries to please their gf all the time, but i cant beleive ive been treated crap before someone has met me. Its probably my bad judgement and hopefully not something to do with my personality. I
I just cant believe that women at my age are still playing games and not being honest at all!
mr-breaker
Clubs are great places to meet women. OK you probably ain't gonna meet your wife there, but I suspect the OP wants the regular sex he's never had. If he learns how to play it he could find that easily there...........
Clubs are great places to meet women. OK you probably ain't gonna meet your wife there, but I suspect the OP wants the regular sex he's never had. If he learns how to play it he could find that easily there...........
Well judging by the fact the OP is complaining about getting messed about by girls, I don't think easy sex is what he wants. From what I can see, he wants a decent girl who won't cheat etc. Now, I know this is a huge generalisation, but for the most part, girls you meet in clubs are more the "easy sex" type. (again, I know I shouldn't tar everyone with the same brush, but that is true from most of my experiences).
It's actually smart on their part........if you can't pass their silly tests you ain't man enough for them. Tests should be welcomed.
No they shouldn't. Mind games are for immature idiots. You just cant win with some girls. I know someone who always complained about her boyfriend. Either he was calling her / texting her too much, or not keeping in contact enough (and usually her opinion changed within a few hours).
Anonymous
I wouldnt consider myself a stereotypical nice guy who tries to please their gf all the time, but i cant beleive ive been treated crap before someone has met me. Its probably my bad judgement and hopefully not something to do with my personality. I
tbh, my parents are in their 40s/50s now and they still play games with each other. a lot of people never change and so yeah, you do need to work on your judgement
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