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I need help- What shall i do?
I have already sent this to an agony aunt but no reply as of yet! So, i was wondering if you people can help me. I really hope you can offer me some good advise and not jugde me.
I went around to my sisters about 5-6 days ago, because I needed to drop something off, but she wasn't there- her husband was. Anyway, my sisters husband invited me to come inside for a drink. I thought he was going to give me a soft drink, but he gave me a whisky. I took it without saying no because I can be a bit passive at times. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex on the floor (I'm a gay male). His touch was electrifying. We carried on for about ten minutes but we were shocked to see my sister at the living room door. She had seen everything. At that time my world as well as hers I would imagine, went crashing down. She went out the door with a shot. I quickly got dressed and caught up with her. Apart from hitting me around the face several times, she said she could never forgive me for what I have done. A few days has past, and it's like I am invisible to her. She never speaks to me, and as far as she is concerned she has only 1 brother (my brother). I've practically begged for her forgiveness, losing some self-respect along the way, but she's not giving in. My family are distant with me, because of what i have done. I feel like I am in a deadlock situation, with no one to turn to.
I went around to my sisters about 5-6 days ago, because I needed to drop something off, but she wasn't there- her husband was. Anyway, my sisters husband invited me to come inside for a drink. I thought he was going to give me a soft drink, but he gave me a whisky. I took it without saying no because I can be a bit passive at times. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex on the floor (I'm a gay male). His touch was electrifying. We carried on for about ten minutes but we were shocked to see my sister at the living room door. She had seen everything. At that time my world as well as hers I would imagine, went crashing down. She went out the door with a shot. I quickly got dressed and caught up with her. Apart from hitting me around the face several times, she said she could never forgive me for what I have done. A few days has past, and it's like I am invisible to her. She never speaks to me, and as far as she is concerned she has only 1 brother (my brother). I've practically begged for her forgiveness, losing some self-respect along the way, but she's not giving in. My family are distant with me, because of what i have done. I feel like I am in a deadlock situation, with no one to turn to.
Reply 1
no offence but good! you shouldnt of had sex with him and vice versa, is she talking to her husband?
Well I don't know what to say, other than put yourself in your sisters shoes. It must have been the worst possible thing that could have happened. Not only has her husband betrayed her, but he has slept with another man (which surely must be worse than sleeping with a woman as it must be the last thing you expect of your supposedly straight husband), but the other man was also your brother. No doubt someone she had utmost respect for all her life, and one of the people she trusted most. You will have totally broken all the trust that she had with you by sleeping with the man she loved. Of course she is not going to be willing to forgive you anytime soon.
I am sorry if I appear harsh but you really must look at it from her point of view. It would be like if you had a life partner and you caught him sleeping with your sister.
You may be lucky and she may forgive you one day, but I imagine it will take a lot of time.
I am sorry if I appear harsh but you really must look at it from her point of view. It would be like if you had a life partner and you caught him sleeping with your sister.
You may be lucky and she may forgive you one day, but I imagine it will take a lot of time.
Reply 4
No it's ok; i now i deserve it. Thanks for your honesty.
Reply 5
Why did you do it? Don't say you couldn't help it, howver carried away/drunk you got you still knew you were sleeping with your sister's husband. You get no sympathy from me I'm afraid.
Reply 6
Well, maybe time will let her put this behind her. But i suppose she'll always be weary of letting you get to know her future partners. I'm a very forgiving person, and if i was put in the same situation as your sister- i would move on, and gradually forgive my brother- because he's always going to be a part of me.
My family should only know if i become depressed and on the verge of suicide- because one simple act shouldnt make them forget the many years the had with you as a son, brother, whatever.
Of course, if you where the kind of person to WANTS TO wreck your sisters life, then you deserve to never be forgiven. But you dont sound like that kind of guy
My family should only know if i become depressed and on the verge of suicide- because one simple act shouldnt make them forget the many years the had with you as a son, brother, whatever.
Of course, if you where the kind of person to WANTS TO wreck your sisters life, then you deserve to never be forgiven. But you dont sound like that kind of guy
Reply 8
Disgusting
Reply 9
i think everyone is being far too harsh on KishKash. after all, TWO people were there having sex, kash and HER HUSBAND. it was in HIS house and HE GAVE KASH ALCOHOL.it seems as if he was hitting on Kash. even if Kash started it, the husband certainly shoulndt have let it continue to go so far
is she she talking to hr husband?
Kash man, i dont think there is anything you can do. if they dont like u and dont wanna talk to you, give her some time thats a terrible shock to see her husband a)having sex with someone else and B) having sex with another man. she needs some time and space.but dont blame yourself. there were two people thre and if he didnt want to do it, you didnt force him to.both o u are equally to blame
is she she talking to hr husband?
Kash man, i dont think there is anything you can do. if they dont like u and dont wanna talk to you, give her some time thats a terrible shock to see her husband a)having sex with someone else and B) having sex with another man. she needs some time and space.but dont blame yourself. there were two people thre and if he didnt want to do it, you didnt force him to.both o u are equally to blame
Reply 10
Whats happening with their relationship, are they gonna get over it?
If i was your sister i proberley cudnt forgive you but i hope that she manages to forgive u one day, for now, just give her time and a LOT of space.
If i was your sister i proberley cudnt forgive you but i hope that she manages to forgive u one day, for now, just give her time and a LOT of space.
Reply 11
magiccarpet
i think everyone is being far too harsh on KishKash. after all, TWO people were there having sex, kash and HER HUSBAND. it was in HIS house and HE GAVE KASH ALCOHOL.it seems as if he was hitting on Kash. even if Kash started it, the husband certainly shoulndt have let it continue to go so far
It takes two to tango, unless it is rape, but it is clear that it was not in this case.
Reply 12
ChemistBoy
It takes two to tango, unless it is rape, but it is clear that it was not in this case.
Yeah, but that doesnt make it any easier for the sister...in a way it'll be harder because 2 people she loves both betrayed her trust.
you slept with your sisters husbands! if my brother or sister did that to me i would find it very very hard to forgive them i know it would take me a hell of a long time. i would also leave the guy btw and would def not forgive him, whereas you are her family. its not all your fault, its 50% the other guys fault as well. but yeah, id be mad at both of you. i dont really know what you can do to make it up to her tbh. hed prob been doing it with other guys as well, and it was bound to all get found out at some point, i guess sooner rather than later is best.
Reply 14
I think my sis is talking to him right now. I have decided to give her some space aswell by going to America. I don't think i can take anymore of the humiliation at home.
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