unsure relationship?

i am currently in a relationship and i have now found out that my friend (simon) fancies me and i didnt know how to tell him that i am already going out with someone. i am thinking more about simon than i do of me bf! :eek:

i dont know whether to dump my bf and hope for the best that Simon will ask me out if i tell him that i dumped my bf for him. :confused:

please can you help???

Reply 1

ciara

13

well, to be honest if you are that easily distracted from your boyfriend then you probably shouldn't be with him. you don't say how long you've been together, but think carefully before you dump him that this is really what you want and you're not just getting caught up with what could happen with you and your friend. if your friend really does fancy you then i'm sure he'll go out with you! just under no circumstances let anything happen before you've dumped your current bf. good luck! :biggrin:

Reply 2

Lidka

13

If you have more feelings for Simon, then you shouldn't be with your boyfriend. Break up with your boyfriend (gently!) but don't 'wait' for Simon to ask you out. Ask him yourself if you like him that much. In the future, try to go out with people you're sure you love;things can get a bit messy otherwise.

Reply 3

trudz evz

OP

i have been with my current boyfriend for nearly 2months now. your view does help with the consequation! thanks! :redface:

what if i ask Simon(my friend) if he wants to go out. behind m bf's back! he wont know any different and if he says no i am still with the 2nd person i love. however the first person i love and truely love is my friend. wot d u tink?

Reply 4

jpowell

15

Lidia

In the future, try to go out with people you're sure you love

How could you possibly know if you loved someone before you went out with them?

Reply 5

_Jax_

1

trudz evz

i have been with my current boyfriend for nearly 2months now. your view does help with the consequation! thanks! :redface:

what if i ask Simon(my friend) if he wants to go out. behind m bf's back! he wont know any different and if he says no i am still with the 2nd person i love. however the first person i love and truely love is my friend. wot d u tink?

Everybodys a winner!

Reply 6

A0307

7

From a blokes perspective, it seems a bit harsh on the current boyfriend, who probably knows nothing of it. It amounts to saying "sorry, I found someone better".

Reply 7

_Jax_

1

calumc

From a blokes perspective, it seems a bit harsh on the current boyfriend, who probably knows nothing of it. It amounts to saying "sorry, I found someone better".

I think the OP kinda glossed over that on purpose.

Reply 8

naelse

15

trudz evz

i have been with my current boyfriend for nearly 2months now.

erm... didn't you just say in another thread that you've been with him for 2 years?

Reply 9

username18215

0

10

if you dump your b/f dont expect simon to jump right in, he may think u need time to get over the other one if hes your friend.

If you do like simon, just say u dumped ur b/f cos u like him and then u will be sorted!

Reply 10

magiccarpet

2

because you are so easily distracted from your current bf by Simon, it appears u like simon more than him. so you should break up with your bf and let simon kno w u r single. if he asks u out, all is good. if not dont worry, as being in a relationship with ur bf where u cant stop thinking bout simon isnt fair on anyone

Reply 11

Feefifofum

16

I agree with <3 - you can't say that you love your boyfriend and be annoyed about him thinking about going on holiday without you, and then the next minute say that you are thinking about another guy loads.

I'm not sure that you are thinking about this the right way. If, as you said before, you are annoyed about your boyfriend going away wihtout you/without mentioning that he was thinking about it, then you are bound not to be in the best of moods with him. Ask yourself this - would you still be interested in Simon if your relationship wasn't going through a rockly patch at the moment?

I'd say work at your relationship, don't just give up on it as soon as someone else comes along, that's just not fair.

Reply 12

Lidka

13

AntiMagicMan

How could you possibly know if you loved someone before you went out with them?

Something called your 'heart' tells you. :p:

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