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What sort of benefits are available?
Benefits?! You expect hand-outs when you've already got a perfectly suitable home to live in? Good lord.
la fille danse
Benefits?! You expect hand-outs when you've already got a perfectly suitable home to live in? Good lord.
Well...yeah I do. I'm only 16, I can't really get a job that I can live off and I still want to continue my education. I'm pretty much being forced to leave, it's not a choice I suddenly made because I'm sick of my curfew or something ridiculous like that.
norosesnoskies
Well...yeah I do. I'm only 16, I can't really get a job that I can live off and I still want to continue my education. I'm pretty much being forced to leave, it's not a choice I suddenly made because I'm sick of my curfew or something ridiculous like that.
I'm seriously considering moving out from home where I live with my mum, but I really do want to finish sixth form as well. We don't particularly get on and it would probably be for the best.
That doesn't sound like being "forced" out. Why can't you live at home?
norosesnoskies
Hi
I'm 16 years old, (soon 17), and currently doing my AS levels. I'm seriously considering moving out from home where I live with my mum, but I really do want to finish sixth form as well. We don't particularly get on and it would probably be for the best. I don't want to move in with my dad because he lives too far away and that would mean changing sixth forms blah blah...
Is there any advice on where to start if you want to move out...
Do you go to the council and get advice and information? What sort of benefits are available? Are they enough to get by? Is it even legal to move out and live by yourself at 16?
If anyone's got any advice or information they could give me, it would help a lot!
thank you
I'm 16 years old, (soon 17), and currently doing my AS levels. I'm seriously considering moving out from home where I live with my mum, but I really do want to finish sixth form as well. We don't particularly get on and it would probably be for the best. I don't want to move in with my dad because he lives too far away and that would mean changing sixth forms blah blah...
Is there any advice on where to start if you want to move out...
Do you go to the council and get advice and information? What sort of benefits are available? Are they enough to get by? Is it even legal to move out and live by yourself at 16?
If anyone's got any advice or information they could give me, it would help a lot!
thank you
no there are no benefits available as far as i was told when i looked to move out, unless you are a single parent? they expect you to put your education part time and get a job full time to pay for your expenses.
you also have to get it in writing from your mom that she has kicked you out so that you can get housing from a hostel etc.
if you want some quik advice i would suggest talking to an online adviser at the connexions website, but that ends at 2am, so you'll have to wait untill 8 am tomorow morning now.
http://www.connexions-direct.com/index.cfm?pid=223
also, you could try the citizens advice bureau. they will give you more detailed advice, and you'll be able to talk about your situation more clearly i'd imagine than on the internet.
you could also try and talk to your school? i know that some colleges have accommodation for last resort cases, but pupils will be staying there at their discretion. i s'pose the chances of this at a sixth form are smaller.
have you no other family you could stay with?
that's what i got asked by the people i spoke to.
la fille danse
That doesn't sound like being "forced" out. Why can't you live at home?
Well, I guess I could but it'd pretty much be hell. She's said that she wants me out and that I have to start supporting myself. There's no way I can stay.
norosesnoskies
Well, I guess I could but it'd pretty much be hell. She's said that she wants me out and that I have to start supporting myself. There's no way I can stay.
Really makes you wonder why some people have children at all. As far as I'm concerned, every parent has a duty to support their children until they're 18 at least.
From what I can make out, there's virtually no support out there, and the stuff that is there is incredibly difficult to qualify for. Though definitely talk to a Connexxions person, as suggested above.
I moved out when I was 16, and never had any problems managing my life. But I couldn't have done it without a good landlord, cheap accommodation, a part-time job and the best flatmates ever. If you're intelligent and hard-working, it's not impossible.
I moved out when I was 16, and never had any problems managing my life. But I couldn't have done it without a good landlord, cheap accommodation, a part-time job and the best flatmates ever. If you're intelligent and hard-working, it's not impossible.
norosesnoskies
Well, I guess I could but it'd pretty much be hell. She's said that she wants me out and that I have to start supporting myself. There's no way I can stay.
If you have any choice at all, maybe you should get a job, pay her some money and stay at home to keep her happy. It'd be a hell of a lot more difficult if you had to move out, get a job and finish your education. I know it's not ideal but there probably won't be a way back if it screws up after you move out.
la fille danse
Really makes you wonder why some people have children at all. As far as I'm concerned, every parent has a duty to support their children until they're 18 at least.
Hang on, are you sure she doesn't mean start paying towards food etc.? This was being discussed on the TV this morning, and a behaviour expert (apparently
) was saying that you should encourage teenagers to pay for things while they live at home so that it's not such a huge shock when they move out.I don't know, just thought I'd put it out there...
norosesnoskies
Well...yeah I do. I'm only 16, I can't really get a job that I can live off and I still want to continue my education. I'm pretty much being forced to leave, it's not a choice I suddenly made because I'm sick of my curfew or something ridiculous like that.
I agree with the person before you.
You have a home, a roof over your head and presumably food and warmth, and you want to throw that away and claim money from the taxpayers for no better reason than you just want to move out?
Stay at home for a few more years, enjoy the home comforts.
To me, it really doesn't sound like you're mature enough to move out and live on your own, and that you certainly don't know the expenses involved. Rent, Council Tax, TV licence (if you have a TV), gas, electricity, water… all these things have to be paid for before you even begin to pay for your day to day expenses like food and travel. Even with a full time job, these things can take up a HUGE wedge of a wage or salary, especially if you’re living on your own. You can’t expect the government to just pay for your entire lifestyle – it’s the start of a very slippery slope in my opinion, and I as a tax payer, wouldn’t want my taxes paying for your entire lifestyle just because you don’t get on with your Mom and are still in education.
As far as I see it, you do have a home. Work things out with your Mom for at least the next two years of education – finish your A Levels and then you can start living your own life (whether that be at Uni or by getting a job). I think it’s a good idea to try and earn a bit of money, and pay your way at home. It’s not uncommon to pay rent to your parents above the age of 16, and don’t think you’re being hard done by if asked to do chores. Education and A Levels is not an excuse not to contribute to the home unfortunately.
Once you move out, it’s very hard to re-establish that sense of “home” – trust me. Enjoy it for as long as it lasts. I never used to get on with my parents for most of the time, and often wanted to move out – but I wanted to do it on my terms and not with handouts from the government. You’ll probably screw up your education more living on your own, than you would living at home.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but you don’t seem to have any grasp of what living on your own in like and what it involves. It’s a fantasy to you at the moment, and the reality would be a sharp bump.
As far as I see it, you do have a home. Work things out with your Mom for at least the next two years of education – finish your A Levels and then you can start living your own life (whether that be at Uni or by getting a job). I think it’s a good idea to try and earn a bit of money, and pay your way at home. It’s not uncommon to pay rent to your parents above the age of 16, and don’t think you’re being hard done by if asked to do chores. Education and A Levels is not an excuse not to contribute to the home unfortunately.
Once you move out, it’s very hard to re-establish that sense of “home” – trust me. Enjoy it for as long as it lasts. I never used to get on with my parents for most of the time, and often wanted to move out – but I wanted to do it on my terms and not with handouts from the government. You’ll probably screw up your education more living on your own, than you would living at home.
Sorry if I sound harsh, but you don’t seem to have any grasp of what living on your own in like and what it involves. It’s a fantasy to you at the moment, and the reality would be a sharp bump.
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