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Woo I'm in the 2% so far then!
Have you talked to him about it? If you decide to be together then talking lots and making each other still feel appreciated is really the best way. If both of you aren't so keen to make such an effort then remember you'll still have all of this summer together, and uni provides lots of opportunities.
Have you talked to him about it? If you decide to be together then talking lots and making each other still feel appreciated is really the best way. If both of you aren't so keen to make such an effort then remember you'll still have all of this summer together, and uni provides lots of opportunities.
laura7986
hey!
I'm sure I'm not the only with a bf/gf at the minute who in september are going to completly different places...and dosen't really know what to do about it!
I've heard that 98% of relationships break up when you join uni
and dunno really what to do about the situation I'm in at the minute!
Plus my bf is going on a gap year..which makes it a lot worse!
help
I'm sure I'm not the only with a bf/gf at the minute who in september are going to completly different places...and dosen't really know what to do about it!
I've heard that 98% of relationships break up when you join uni
and dunno really what to do about the situation I'm in at the minute!Plus my bf is going on a gap year..which makes it a lot worse!
help
I know what you mean...
The thing is, its different for every couple. People can tell you what you should/shouldn't do, but you've got to decide whats best for you.
Personally, I think I'm going to have to split up. The age difference between me and my boyf means we're going through completely different things. Hes older, got a house, job etc whereas I'm only just about to leave home. I want to experience uni life as much as I can and I don't want it to be ruined be having to come every weekend. I can't afford that, and I need to be aroudn to meet people. If we stay together, I'm too scared that I'll resent him for restricting me and he'll resent me for not giving him enough time. I'ld rather leave things on good terms, remain good terms and see what happens after uni rather than falling out and arguing over the phone.
Whether that means I break up with him now and start to get over him b4 moving away,so I'm not brokenhearted aswell as homesick when i start uni, or have a good summer and then break up, I don't know...
But anyway, your situation could be completely different, thats just what I think and if you think it could work then go for it
If he'll be staying at home for a while on a gap yr, maybe he could come see you? Good luck Reply 3
If it's meant to be, then you'll find a way. If it's not right, then you'll break up. What I'm saying isn't very helpful, but if it's any consolation, I'm at uni and most of my friends who've got relationships are still together, and those that split up were because the relationships weren't strong enough or good enough to last- and if a relationship can't withstand a little pressure then it's clearly not right anyway
Reply 4
Sian01
I know what you mean...
The thing is, its different for every couple. People can tell you what you should/shouldn't do, but you've got to decide whats best for you.
Personally, I think I'm going to have to split up. The age difference between me and my boyf means we're going through completely different things. Hes older, got a house, job etc whereas I'm only just about to leave home. I want to experience uni life as much as I can and I don't want it to be ruined be having to come every weekend. I can't afford that, and I need to be aroudn to meet people. If we stay together, I'm too scared that I'll resent him for restricting me and he'll resent me for not giving him enough time. I'ld rather leave things on good terms, remain good terms and see what happens after uni rather than falling out and arguing over the phone.
Whether that means I break up with him now and start to get over him b4 moving away,so I'm not brokenhearted aswell as homesick when i start uni, or have a good summer and then break up, I don't know...
But anyway, your situation could be completely different, thats just what I think and if you think it could work then go for it If he'll be staying at home for a while on a gap yr, maybe he could come see you? Good luck
The thing is, its different for every couple. People can tell you what you should/shouldn't do, but you've got to decide whats best for you.
Personally, I think I'm going to have to split up. The age difference between me and my boyf means we're going through completely different things. Hes older, got a house, job etc whereas I'm only just about to leave home. I want to experience uni life as much as I can and I don't want it to be ruined be having to come every weekend. I can't afford that, and I need to be aroudn to meet people. If we stay together, I'm too scared that I'll resent him for restricting me and he'll resent me for not giving him enough time. I'ld rather leave things on good terms, remain good terms and see what happens after uni rather than falling out and arguing over the phone.
Whether that means I break up with him now and start to get over him b4 moving away,so I'm not brokenhearted aswell as homesick when i start uni, or have a good summer and then break up, I don't know...
But anyway, your situation could be completely different, thats just what I think and if you think it could work then go for it
If he'll be staying at home for a while on a gap yr, maybe he could come see you? Good luck You sound completely sorted out
I broke up with a boyfriend when I started uni, because I didn't forsee that our differences would make a relationship be harder to maintain; he was still at home and I went off to uni and I wanted to make a good go of uni life, which I didn't feel I could do in a relationship. Now I'm settled in, I have a boyfriend at another uni and it's completely different as we understand the other's way of life!Reply 5
Well, my girlfriend (pikaboo) and I began our relationship on this note, her going to uni. Since late August when we first met we've met 10 times, including that one, that makes about once every 3 weeks or so. 3 times were for a week and 7 for a weekend.
We text eachother a lot and talk on MSN loads because it's free. Personally I hate phones but she wants me to ring her more so I will.
I'm looking forward to the summer when I can be with her way more. It is hard sometimes when I miss her like crazy, but it can work.
We text eachother a lot and talk on MSN loads because it's free. Personally I hate phones but she wants me to ring her more so I will.
I'm looking forward to the summer when I can be with her way more. It is hard sometimes when I miss her like crazy, but it can work.
Reply 6
tis_me_lord
Well, my girlfriend (pikaboo) and I began our relationship on this note, her going to uni. Since late August when we first met we've met 10 times, including that one, that makes about once every 3 weeks or so. 3 times were for a week and 7 for a weekend.
We text eachother a lot and talk on MSN loads because it's free. Personally I hate phones but she wants me to ring her more so I will.
I'm looking forward to the summer when I can be with her way more. It is hard sometimes when I miss her like crazy, but it can work.
We text eachother a lot and talk on MSN loads because it's free. Personally I hate phones but she wants me to ring her more so I will.
I'm looking forward to the summer when I can be with her way more. It is hard sometimes when I miss her like crazy, but it can work.
Did you meet her on TSR? Or do you both just happen to use it?
Reply 7
Angel_Cake
Did you meet her on TSR? Or do you both just happen to use it?
Met her here. Along with wiwarin_mir, but there was no threesome, I can assure you.
Reply 8
tis_me_lord
Met her here. Along with wiwarin_mir, but there was no threesome, I can assure you.
Are there any other TSR couples? That's so sweet! Do you live a long way away from each other?
theotherF.Poste
You sound completely sorted out I broke up with a boyfriend when I started uni, because I didn't forsee that our differences would make a relationship be harder to maintain; he was still at home and I went off to uni and I wanted to make a good go of uni life, which I didn't feel I could do in a relationship. Now I'm settled in, I have a boyfriend at another uni and it's completely different as we understand the other's way of life!
I broke up with a boyfriend when I started uni, because I didn't forsee that our differences would make a relationship be harder to maintain; he was still at home and I went off to uni and I wanted to make a good go of uni life, which I didn't feel I could do in a relationship. Now I'm settled in, I have a boyfriend at another uni and it's completely different as we understand the other's way of life!God, I wish I felt completely sorted! I know breaking up its the right thing, but its too hard
Its just a case of when...Laura, long-distance relationships can work. My cousin was in a similar situation. She went to uni, leaving her bf at home and on a gap year. She's now in her 2nd yr of uni, he's in 1st yr at another uni and they're still together - and very happy. It can work, that 2% does exist
Reply 10
Angel_Cake
Are there any other TSR couples? That's so sweet! Do you live a long way away from each other?
Her actual house is in Manchester. We always visit eachother by coach, and Manchester is about 6 hours from Bristol. (Taking half an hour to get to Bristol by car first...)
Her uni is Durham though, and to get there you have to go to London first, which takes 3 hours, stop for however long, usually about an hour, then drive from London to Durham which takes 6 more. Making the journey about 10 hours!
But it's always worth it!
My boyfriend and I are both going to uni together....hopefully....
I'm feeling quite scared about it, but it has taken 2/3 years of planning to get this far, and we submitted our replies to UCAS last night...so all is well. I believe it's down to the individuals to decide, and those who say that all relationships are doomed when couples go to uni are making a sweeping generalisation - and I for one intend to prove them wrong!
However, I do sympathise with people who are in a situation where a compromise cannot be met and the individuals are destined to do different things. Luckily, my boyfriend and I shall hopefully enter higher education together, without either of us having to make huge sacrifices.
I'm feeling quite scared about it, but it has taken 2/3 years of planning to get this far, and we submitted our replies to UCAS last night...so all is well. I believe it's down to the individuals to decide, and those who say that all relationships are doomed when couples go to uni are making a sweeping generalisation - and I for one intend to prove them wrong!
However, I do sympathise with people who are in a situation where a compromise cannot be met and the individuals are destined to do different things. Luckily, my boyfriend and I shall hopefully enter higher education together, without either of us having to make huge sacrifices.
Reply 12
thanks (everyone) !
i guess i kinda know the answer already, just gotta try it and see!
and to everyone who has managed the long distance thing then thanks cos u contradicted (in a good way) everything i've heard from anyone else! the negative stuff is mainly from single people anyway who are obviously bitter about not having someone themselves
(not that i wanna offend anyone!)
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i guess i kinda know the answer already, just gotta try it and see!
and to everyone who has managed the long distance thing then thanks cos u contradicted (in a good way) everything i've heard from anyone else! the negative stuff is mainly from single people anyway who are obviously bitter about not having someone themselves
(not that i wanna offend anyone!)xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Reply 13
Well I guess this is the one upside of being single and having no prospects.
Reply 14
My ex and I made it work for the whole of his first year at uni, which was my year 13. It can work. We broke up for other reasons in the end, but as long as you talk loads, completely trust each other and make sure you live your own lives as well as being a couple, it can be done.
Reply 16
Ali_04
hiya, how are you? haven't talked to you in ages! well done for UCL btw!
aww..no gals lined up at the mo then??
aww..no gals lined up at the mo then??
Hey
Aw I thought you were trying to avoid me (posted on the geography forum a few times but you never replied!!). I'm okay thanks... apart from a few niggley problems. Thanks, i'm still well chuffed about UCL Still working at Chessington?Hah.. oh dear.. no, no girls lined up. Same as the last 3 years I'm afraid
Reply 17
do what ur heart says.
Reply 18
I'm still with my boyfriend despite the York-Exeter distance. Phone calls, texting and msn are the key, along with visits every couple of weeks and a hell of a lot of trust: it won't work unless you care about each other very deeply. We're going to venice in May for our one year anniversary
I think that like other people say it depends entirely on your situation. How long have you been together? If you're somebody who relies on having your boyfriend round alot, then not seeing him at all may be very hard for you. You could try what lessthanthree said, and see how it goes. Keep in touch, write, txt and MSN and meet up when you can. Only time will tell.
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