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What is your Expectation of Love?
Should a couple in love have their life revolving around one another, sharing happiness and woes with each other?
or should they...
Be in love yet lives their own separate lifestyles?
Feel free to voice your views and if possible, voice out your own experience if there are any or any reasons you might have.
or should they...
Be in love yet lives their own separate lifestyles?
Feel free to voice your views and if possible, voice out your own experience if there are any or any reasons you might have.
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a mix of both. Couples should share things with one another but they should also be free to do things on their own and have their own space. They should be involved in on anothers lives of course, they are in love. But everyone needs their own space sometimes and absense makes the heart grow fonder.
Reply 3
"But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."
- On Marriage
Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931)
always seemed wise to me
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."
- On Marriage
Kahlil Gibran (1883-1931)
always seemed wise to me
Reply 4
lessthanthree
I can't pigeonhole my idea of love and marriage into one of two categories. It's an entirely subjective issue, and means a mixture of different things to different people.
More or less exactly what I was going to say.
Reply 5
I have been married and I can tell you that I no longer have any expectations of love.
I picked revolving around each other - although I wouldn't take it to that extreme. I believe you should share things, be happy in each others company, and do things together, but I also believe that everyone needs their own space. For example going out with your own friends once a week, things like that.
Reply 7
Love should be chill. chill i tell you!!! none of this being together 24/7, omg i cant live without you, calling each other every five seconds crap. sheesh people.
anyways, love is soooo last millenium.
LUFF!!!
now thats the stuff dreams are made of....
anyways, love is soooo last millenium.
LUFF!!!
now thats the stuff dreams are made of....
Reply 8
ladyyamaha
I have been married and I can tell you that I no longer have any expectations of love.
well i now i just cant WAIT to get my ass to the altar...
jessicarabbit
Love should be chill. chill i tell you!!! none of this being together 24/7, omg i cant live without you, calling each other every five seconds crap. sheesh people.
omg! Could you be any more perfect...
. How about I never talk to you and just meet for sex, coz, y'know, what could be more chilled than that?Love should also only be conducted on easy-wipe leather.
Reply 10
kingslaw
omg! Could you be any more perfect.... How about I never talk to you and just meet for sex, coz, y'know, what could be more chilled than that?
Love should also only be conducted on easy-wipe leather.
. How about I never talk to you and just meet for sex, coz, y'know, what could be more chilled than that?Love should also only be conducted on easy-wipe leather.
No
*hits kingslaw on head with rolled up newspaper*
First of all...i dont have the money for leather seats...your just going to have to deal with bright red velour seats(i really do have bright red velour seats
)...Second of all...
you know that ur so pressed on my ass just meeting up for sex once in a while isnt gonna be enough...
That said,I'm pretty much happy as long as I get laid twice a day and get some chinese food afterwards. oh..and i get to "borrow" ur dvds,cds,and clothes(ie..never return them
)...god im so friggin romantic...
jessicarabbit
No
*hits kingslaw on head with rolled up newspaper*
First of all...i dont have the money for leather seats...your just going to have to deal with bright red velour seats(i really do have bright red velour seats )...
Second of all...
you know that ur so pressed on my ass just meeting up for sex once in a while isnt gonna be enough...
That said,I'm pretty much happy as long as I get laid twice a day and get some chinese food afterwards. oh..and i get to "borrow" ur dvds,cds,and clothes(ie..never return them )...
god im so friggin romantic...
*hits kingslaw on head with rolled up newspaper*
First of all...i dont have the money for leather seats...your just going to have to deal with bright red velour seats(i really do have bright red velour seats
)...Second of all...
you know that ur so pressed on my ass just meeting up for sex once in a while isnt gonna be enough...
That said,I'm pretty much happy as long as I get laid twice a day and get some chinese food afterwards. oh..and i get to "borrow" ur dvds,cds,and clothes(ie..never return them
)...god im so friggin romantic...
Hmmm...you're happy as long as you get laid twice a day?? So you've got to have sex 1460 times to make up for the past two years. Well, as you're in London for 7 days, we've got to do it approximately every 7 minutes to make up for the last two years
. Can things, errmmm...wear out if its used that often?! . Or can you go blind?Oh, and chinese food makes me smell. However, as we're gonna have to do it every 7 minutes, I don't see when we're gonna get chance to eat. Unless you somehow combine food and sex into one event...hmmm.
Oh, and you forgot one other major expecation of love - whining. F*cking whining about me not calling you beautiful enough, or not paying enough attention to you, or wearing your underwear, or phoning you enough, or whatever. I mean, isn't that the females favourite part of a relationship - complaining??
Reply 13
kingslaw
Hmmm...you're happy as long as you get laid twice a day?? So you've got to have sex 1460 times to make up for the past two years. Well, as you're in London for 7 days, we've got to do it approximately every 7 minutes to make up for the last two years . Can things, errmmm...wear out if its used that often?! . Or can you go blind?
Oh, and chinese food makes me smell. However, as we're gonna have to do it every 7 minutes, I don't see when we're gonna get chance to eat. Unless you somehow combine food and sex into one event...hmmm.
Oh, and you forgot one other major expecation of love - whining. F*cking whining about me not calling you beautiful enough, or not paying enough attention to you, or wearing your underwear, or phoning you enough, or whatever. I mean, isn't that the females favourite part of a relationship - complaining??
. Can things, errmmm...wear out if its used that often?! . Or can you go blind?Oh, and chinese food makes me smell. However, as we're gonna have to do it every 7 minutes, I don't see when we're gonna get chance to eat. Unless you somehow combine food and sex into one event...hmmm.
Oh, and you forgot one other major expecation of love - whining. F*cking whining about me not calling you beautiful enough, or not paying enough attention to you, or wearing your underwear, or phoning you enough, or whatever. I mean, isn't that the females favourite part of a relationship - complaining??
ahem..yes..and you being the female in this relationship- ur the one doing the complaining right now
...actually technically, its actually been 1 year and 7 months that i havent been to nookyland....ahem....I just like to say 2 yrs for the shock value, and to get men like you to sleep with me out of pity
jessicarabbit
ahem..yes..and you being the female in this relationship- ur the one doing the complaining right now ...
actually technically, its actually been 1 year and 7 months that i havent been to nookyland....ahem....I just like to say 2 yrs for the shock value, and to get men like you to sleep with me out of pity
...actually technically, its actually been 1 year and 7 months that i havent been to nookyland....ahem....I just like to say 2 yrs for the shock value, and to get men like you to sleep with me out of pity
Oh, and whilst I'm complaining, there's another expectation of love. Always expect them to be bleeding when you're feeling horny
. And blob sex is not my cup of tea ... 
And don't worry, your sympathy sex is guaranteed. I mean, you're on the internet chattin me up - there is enough sympathy to be pulled out of that scenario to get laid by the whole Arsenal team
. And also, when I see the size of your ass, and realise why you've been dryin up for the best part of two years, I'll only feel more sympathy for you. Plus, if I can use my TB to get sympathy, you can use whatever you want.Anyway, I have the opposite problem. Most women see me and think "Wow. I've no chance with him." so no-one ever expresses an interest in me. Honest. It's nothing to do with my third/fourth nipple...
Reply 15
kingslaw
Oh, and whilst I'm complaining, there's another expectation of love. Always expect them to be bleeding when you're feeling horny . And blob sex is not my cup of tea ...
And don't worry, your sympathy sex is guaranteed. I mean, you're on the internet chattin me up - there is enough sympathy to be pulled out of that scenario to get laid by the whole Arsenal team. And also, when I see the size of your ass, and realise why you've been dryin up for the best part of two years, I'll only feel more sympathy for you. Plus, if I can use my TB to get sympathy, you can use whatever you want.
Anyway, I have the opposite problem. Most women see me and think "Wow. I've no chance with him." so no-one ever expresses an interest in me. Honest. It's nothing to do with my third/fourth nipple...
. And blob sex is not my cup of tea ... And don't worry, your sympathy sex is guaranteed. I mean, you're on the internet chattin me up - there is enough sympathy to be pulled out of that scenario to get laid by the whole Arsenal team
. And also, when I see the size of your ass, and realise why you've been dryin up for the best part of two years, I'll only feel more sympathy for you. Plus, if I can use my TB to get sympathy, you can use whatever you want.Anyway, I have the opposite problem. Most women see me and think "Wow. I've no chance with him." so no-one ever expresses an interest in me. Honest. It's nothing to do with my third/fourth nipple...
ewwwww...that first bit really grossed me out there buddy...but hey, grossing people out is what u do best anyways, now i know that uve had some pretty mean exgirlfriends considering ur complaining about not gettin any during certain times of the month...
god created a certain alternative expression of love for that reason!...
(ok..perhaps the dirtiness of that last comment really should have been written in a pm..but come on, aren't threads about love supposed to always have nasty references to all kinds of sex? )Ok, in my attempt to be a big girl and do something with my life.. I am going to go take a nap before my cycling class. Then i'm going to come home and practice for my auditions. Because, if i dont move to london next year and have a torrid affair with you....it will be the straw that breaks the camels back..and i shall no longer have a reason to live
.Alas, I know you are sad cause I wont be on tonight. But its ok, just hug ur cristina voodoo doll and think lovely thoughts of me(complaing at u cause you dont call me enough and telling you that u dont think im pretty anymore cause u dont praise me and wont touch me when im on the blob
)bye luffer
jessicarabbit ewwwww...that first bit really grossed me out there buddy...but hey, grossing people out is what u do best
anyways, now i know that uve had some pretty mean exgirlfriends considering ur complaining about not gettin any during certain times of the month...
god created a certain alternative expression of love for that reason!... (ok..perhaps the dirtiness of that last comment really should have been written in a pm..but come on, aren't threads about love supposed to always have nasty references to all kinds of sex? )
Ok, in my attempt to be a big girl and do something with my life.. I am going to go take a nap before my cycling class. Then i'm going to come home and practice for my auditions. Because, if i dont move to london next year and have a torrid affair with you....it will be the straw that breaks the camels back..and i shall no longer have a reason to live .
Alas, I know you are sad cause I wont be on tonight. But its ok, just hug ur cristina voodoo doll and think lovely thoughts of me(complaing at u cause you dont call me enough and telling you that u dont think im pretty anymore cause u dont praise me and wont touch me when im on the blob )
bye luffer
ewwwww...that first bit really grossed me out there buddy...but hey, grossing people out is what u do best anyways, now i know that uve had some pretty mean exgirlfriends considering ur complaining about not gettin any during certain times of the month...
god created a certain alternative expression of love for that reason!...
(ok..perhaps the dirtiness of that last comment really should have been written in a pm..but come on, aren't threads about love supposed to always have nasty references to all kinds of sex? )Ok, in my attempt to be a big girl and do something with my life.. I am going to go take a nap before my cycling class. Then i'm going to come home and practice for my auditions. Because, if i dont move to london next year and have a torrid affair with you....it will be the straw that breaks the camels back..and i shall no longer have a reason to live
.Alas, I know you are sad cause I wont be on tonight. But its ok, just hug ur cristina voodoo doll and think lovely thoughts of me(complaing at u cause you dont call me enough and telling you that u dont think im pretty anymore cause u dont praise me and wont touch me when im on the blob
)bye luffer
Ack!!
Hurrah!! I finally grossed you out!! Yay!!
. Right, so now I need a new challenge.OK, I understand if you have to go. I am also gonna promise myself not to come on tonight (hey, youre not on, so whats the point?? - much like if you don't come to London next year, what's the point in breathing...well...apart from to live, coz, y'know, breathings pretty important to live n sh*t). However, to make this relationship more authentic (and me more masculine), I'm gonna enter psychotic, paranoid bf mode:
[paranoid, psychotic bf mode]
You're not going cycling. I know you're gonna be riding, but it won't be a bike will it...WILL IT?!?! ARRRGGGHHH!!!! Who is it??? Is it the milkman?? The postman?? Oh no, sorry, they're all heterosexual, so you'll have no interest in them. Is it your overly camp cycling instructor?? Right, I'm gonna follow you, and pick you up at the end. Oh, and lose some weight. You're takin up too much room in bed...
[/paranoid, psychotic bf mode]
*throws whiskey bottle at Cristina*
*shoots gun at TV*
I'm gonna log on once tonight to reply to your lovely big PM (you know that with me, bigger means better) because I'm weak and need to create the illusion in my head I'm making some sort of contact with you, otherwise I might go crazy again and start hanging around outside schools
Bye bye luffer.
Reply 17
I think that is should be a mix of them. I really wish my boyfriend would think about our relationship before he did some of the things he has done....gets you kinda wondering if he really cares about it.. but then each should have there time to spend with there friends and have fun.....
On the blob. Hehehe. Think I'll use that one. Hey. Blobby. Get me a drink! She would as well .
My sister and her bf are like the extreme of "lives revolving around each other". They are almost never apart. When they are they're constantly texting and phoning with all the "love you sooo much, can't wait to see you, missing you so much" crap. She dropped out of school (she's in year 10) so she could be with him more and a while ago my dad was threatened with legal action if she didn't go back to school. She, of course, doesn't care at all. As long as she's with her bf. When she comes home she's miserable. Doesn't talk to anyone. Then when she's with him she lights up and her life becomes complete. My mum thinks he's the worst thing to happen to our family. Makes me sick.
.My sister and her bf are like the extreme of "lives revolving around each other". They are almost never apart. When they are they're constantly texting and phoning with all the "love you sooo much, can't wait to see you, missing you so much" crap. She dropped out of school (she's in year 10) so she could be with him more and a while ago my dad was threatened with legal action if she didn't go back to school. She, of course, doesn't care at all. As long as she's with her bf. When she comes home she's miserable. Doesn't talk to anyone. Then when she's with him she lights up and her life becomes complete. My mum thinks he's the worst thing to happen to our family. Makes me sick.
Reply 19
noway...second option...I need freeeedom! THe reasons I broke up with my exs is that they always wanted to meet me and stuff and i cant be bothered...and all the calling and stuff man i cant stand it!
It should just be a totally liberal relationship..no pressure.
It should just be a totally liberal relationship..no pressure.
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