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Shy guy issues.

So I've been a little bit in love with one of my friends for a long time, and after finding out through friends he liked me back I worked up the stones to ask him to go somewhere with me one day. He did, but still didn't seem to twig it was a casual date until I kissed him.
But the thing is that was just before we both went home for easter for 3 weeks. Now we're back things seem a little awkward. I'm sure he still likes me but he never lets on that he does. Friends tell me he's done this type of thing before because he's shy and doesn't react well to pressure in relationships.
I don't want to give up because what I feel for him I've never felt for anyone else before, and yet I can't go on making all the effort and not getting much back. What should I do?

Reply 1

Tommy Jet
So I've been a little bit in love with one of my friends for a long time, and after finding out through friends he liked me back I worked up the stones to ask him to go somewhere with me one day. He did, but still didn't seem to twig it was a casual date until I kissed him.
But the thing is that was just before we both went home for easter for 3 weeks. Now we're back things seem a little awkward. I'm sure he still likes me but he never lets on that he does. Friends tell me he's done this type of thing before because he's shy and doesn't react well to pressure in relationships.
I don't want to give up because what I feel for him I've never felt for anyone else before, and yet I can't go on making all the effort and not getting much back. What should I do?


Arrange another date and talk about it. Whilst you're taking the initiative now, hopefully he'll realise after being reassured (as if a kiss wasn't enough :rolleyes: ) where he stands and what you want out of this (a relationship).

Reply 2

Irrelevance
Arrange another date and talk about it.


This, but don't rush it and scare him. People coming on to you can be fairly intimidating even for a guy! :P

Good luck though :biggrin:

Reply 3

take control and show to him that its okey to open up

Reply 4

Yea Nex is right. Take control, cause if he does like you, he'll open up pretty quick.

Reply 5

PoppyPops
Yea Nex is right. Take control, cause if he does like you, he'll open up pretty quick.


Or he'll get really nervous and run a mile?

Reply 6

lolwtfbbq
Or he'll get really nervous and run a mile?


Not if your understanding. You just have to make them feel at ease. Just ask him if your taking things too fast. If he likes you though, he definitely won't want you to go away!

Reply 7

PoppyPops
If he likes you though, he definitely won't want you to go away!


True :smile: