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I've recently been told I'm a push over, and I tend to let guys walk all over me. I don't think this is true, and i was really hurt by the comment. Iv been treated badly by guys, but i dont do anything to provoke this, and as soon as it starts to happen, I finnish things. Bescause of this, i feel like iv kind of put up a wall, and its hard for me to let people in now, so I definatly dont think im a push over!

What consitutes being a push over, as this comment has really gotten to me!

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F. Poste

Always doing what they say, putting up with bad behaviour (like when they stand you up or cancel constantly or break promises, always going along with them with things you don't want to do, things like that :smile:

Reply 2

northern_lass

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see, i dont put up with any of that! iv been told i let people walk all over me and end up compromising on what i want to do rather then say no! im sure i dont do this!

Reply 3

F. Poste

Maybe it's an unfair judgement then.. :smile:

Hmm, how many chances do you give your boyfriends before you chuck them?

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bohogirlie

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I've realised that i've been a pushover with a certain friend for such a long time now and i've had enough. She always ignores me when this other girl (who no one can stand is around)is around, looks down on me and treats me like a piece of ****. I don't get why she treats me this way, but i've had enough. Ive completely ignored her this week, and when she walked past me this afternoon i ignored her and then ignored her again when she gave me a sarcastic hi. You'll get to a point where you'll just think bugger this, and until then you just kind of have to carry on being a pushover, becasue i know that until im pushed to my limit, i'll just carry on talking what this girl throws at me. This isn't really that related to what you're asking but i know how you feel!

Reply 5

bohogirlie

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lessthanthree

I had EXACTLY the same thing with a "friend" of mine, and I got sick to the point of just thinking "bugger this" and I completely ignored her from them on - got myself a new and nicer bunch of friends than a group that I had to fall over myself to please. Maybe your relationship with*her* is what people call you a pushover for?

Is that response for me? Not sure. I'm not called a pushover (at least i hope people don't call me that!!) but luckily i have a group of friends who respect me and don't treat me like a piece of ****. We all used to be friends but gradually one by one we've all got fed up of this girl. Looks like shes the loser now, with only one friend. She'll never lose that one friend though, cos shes such a sheep. No one can stand her anyway. Good luck to them both!

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Mad_Monkey59

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northern_lass

see, i dont put up with any of that! iv been told i let people walk all over me and end up compromising on what i want to do rather then say no! im sure i dont do this!

the fact that you have let this comment get to you says to me you have a confidence issue and therefore may well be a push over. Be strong, you know in yourself whether you are or not, and if you are happy and dont feel like you are being led around then there really isn't a problem is the babe? :smile:

Reply 7

musicbloke

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Mad_Monkey59

the fact that you have let this comment get to you says to me you have a confidence issue and therefore may well be a push over. Be strong, you know in yourself whether you are or not, and if you are happy and dont feel like you are being led around then there really isn't a problem is the babe? :smile:

What a stupid post. I know thatif someone said that to me I'd feel concerned. It is not a matter of being a pushover. it is a matter of having a ceertain level of respect for the opinions of your friends.

MB

Reply 8

Mad_Monkey59

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musicboy

What a stupid post. I know thatif someone said that to me I'd feel concerned. It is not a matter of being a pushover. it is a matter of having a ceertain level of respect for the opinions of your friends.

MB

excuse me, but the point of the post is that ultimately it doesn't matter if someone thinks you are a pushover if you KNOW you aren't, because ultimately it is only YOUR opinion and YOUR happiness that counts.

Her post was about her being concerned she was a pushover, not whether her mates were assholes.

Read the 1st post before you start insulting me.

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musicbloke

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Mad_Monkey59

ultimately it is only YOUR opinion and YOUR happiness that counts.

what an altruistic view of the world

Mad_Monkey59

Read the 1st post before you start insulting me.

You clearly have little grasp of when an argument can ccriticised for being "ad hominem"

MB

Reply 10

Mad_Monkey59

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musicboy

what an altruistic view of the world

You clearly have little grasp of when an argument can ccriticised for being "ad hominem"

MB

Im not getting into an ethical debate over the right and wrongs of alturism or any other ethical code for that matter. In this instance her feelings are president over all else, and therefore a selfish view of the world is the correct one in my opinion.

you clearly didn't realize that I was answering the question she asked, not the one that developed later in the discussion. As I said above her feelings are the issue,not her friends. She was concerned she was a pushover, therefore the reply should consist of comfort, not bitching about her friends, we are in no position to tell her that her friends are 'bad' because ultimately, they might be correct.

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Angel_Cake

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musicboy

what an altruistic view of the world

You clearly have little grasp of when an argument can ccriticised for being "ad hominem"

MB

Don't be so pathetic. He was just trying to be supportive!

You always seem to be criticising for the most ridiculous reasons.

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