Im so lonely

My dad will be at home, my mum will be elsewhere, my sister down london with her 2 kids, i will be at uni. My family is divided! My family if I extended to uncles and cousins is big but still they arent as close as my mum, dad and sister. As for school friends, everyone is spliting up, doing their own things. I thought Yr11 was bad, but half of them stayed onto 6th form. Now though, after my A levels its the real thing. Everyone finally dispersing. Some I may never see again. I even feel sad when you just know someone but arent friends or close and they are just going to disappear. All down to the end is my individual self to grow up in the big wide world. I wish I had someone to spend the rest of my life with me, but then partners are another topic. Im not english so sometimes I think Im not even at home. Where I come from doesnt feel like home either because its not the same as living here. Where is my home? It makes me even sad to know that the place I have lived in since I was little is going to be sold. Internet friends are not the same either. No home, so lonely. What can I do? :frown:

Reply 1

Yeah_butno

Party

Reply 2

Yeah_butno

On a serious note. Dont worry about it, im sure most people go through this phase.

Though i'll be glad when i get to uni in september and leave my home.

Reply 3

silence

16

see what the future throws at you before you worry too much about it.

by the very posting of this message, it demonstrates that you have some forms of social interation skills. so you'll be fine. if you think about the positive sides to being at uni, such as having thousands of people, pubs, societies... museums (or whatever you enjoy) around you, you'll definitely have fun.

Reply 4

dazednconfused

Take some solace in knowing that what you're going through now is the hardest bit. As soon as you're at uni, you'll start making friends and making your home there. I went through a similar thing (parents split just before I went to uni, sold my childhood home and moved to separate places) and I still feel sad each holiday when I have to say goodbye to my old friends and family - but I have my own home here now and it gets a bit better each time. I promise things will improve.

Reply 5

Ariel4

1

i know how feel. i felt like that when i left school, and then when i left college. i was worried that i wouldnt stay friends with anyone and everyone would loose touch. but im still in touch with people at school, and i moved about a 3 1/2 hours drive away. and because i go home in the holidays im still friends with all my college friends. you and your friends will be back in the holidays, so dont worry you wont loose touch with them. and at uni you make loads of new friends and meet loads of new people. i settled in really easily, it feels like ive been here for ages, not just since september. and as for the family thing, i dont really know what to say because my parents are still together. but a lot of my friends families have split up, and they still see both their parents a lot, even if they live far away. just because you dont live near someone doesnt mean you cant keep in contact.

Reply 6

musicbloke

17

get everyone's msn address. I have very little time during full term to even chat with friends but if I need to I know when they're online and people know how I am because of my screen name.

MB

Reply 7

queenselphie

Sometimes it can be really hard to carve a place for yourself in life that feels like home. Home can be where your family are, where the person you are in love with lives, where your friends are, or where you have private, personal space for your belongings. As a very territorial person I sympathise with this. It must feel very bleak for you. But have hope!
Home might be something you have to search for, for a while, but I am sure you shall find it. I have felt more at home at university than I have anywhere else. To share a house with good, true friends has been wonderful. To fall in love also gives me a sense of belonging, and Im sure you will find this too, if it is what you are looking for. At university make your mark, carve out your territory! Join clubs, take up a hobby, show people that this is you, this is what you like, and that you are friendly and happy to meet new people.
It must be really disheartneing to have no home as such, and I expect you have become more preoccupied with finding a place to belong because you havent found it yet. it might seem like the harder you look, the more impossible it is to find, but I believe there will come a day when you are surrounded by your possessions, friends, and loved ones, and can truly say "this is it, this is home".
I hope you find something constant in your uncertain and shifting life, and hold onto it. :smile:

good luck.

Reply 8

username18215

0

10

it doesnt feel like home here, and i've been here 17 years, so i wouldn't worry. Go travelling and where you feel most comfortable, thats your home :biggrin:

Im so lonely

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