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Sleep Together?
Hey,
Im usually quite good at this sort of stuff, but I would like some HONEST opinions about it.
Firstly I have met someone new and have been going out for about 7 weeks, but she lives away from my university. I have invited her to stay with me for a week at Uni starting tomorrow. However, we have not slept together yet.
So whats the big problemo you ask? Just do it when you both feel right you say (or think). Well, the thing is, is that I like to see myself as a gentleman and so far we have only held hands (STILL yet to kiss!). Im not inexperienced and not nervous since I have done all of this before (with my ex obv.), but I would like to know what would be the best thing to do.
I do not want to scare my new lover away and I am def not out to use her for sex. I genuinely do care about her. However, sleeping in the same room for a week when we are going out - the inevitable is likely to happen since we both really like eachother. This wont be our first times for either of us since we have had previous relationship(s), but will be our first time together.
OK - this is the advice I need from you folks. Tomorrow night, what do I do? Make a move or sleep on the floor and my gf has my bed? Will making a move on the first night seem like I am using her? Would this scare you girls if you were in this situation? Or would you be likely to expect some more "attention"?
I know you girlys aren't stupid - you know what us guys are like. However, would making a move on night one seem like I have "tricked" her into sleeping with me. Is it just me being paranoid cos I dont want to lose my new love?
Help!!! O - Guys, input as well, but dont just put stupid comments. I do need help like now!
Im usually quite good at this sort of stuff, but I would like some HONEST opinions about it.
Firstly I have met someone new and have been going out for about 7 weeks, but she lives away from my university. I have invited her to stay with me for a week at Uni starting tomorrow. However, we have not slept together yet.
So whats the big problemo you ask? Just do it when you both feel right you say (or think). Well, the thing is, is that I like to see myself as a gentleman and so far we have only held hands (STILL yet to kiss!). Im not inexperienced and not nervous since I have done all of this before (with my ex obv.), but I would like to know what would be the best thing to do.
I do not want to scare my new lover away and I am def not out to use her for sex. I genuinely do care about her. However, sleeping in the same room for a week when we are going out - the inevitable is likely to happen since we both really like eachother. This wont be our first times for either of us since we have had previous relationship(s), but will be our first time together.
OK - this is the advice I need from you folks. Tomorrow night, what do I do? Make a move or sleep on the floor and my gf has my bed? Will making a move on the first night seem like I am using her? Would this scare you girls if you were in this situation? Or would you be likely to expect some more "attention"?
I know you girlys aren't stupid - you know what us guys are like. However, would making a move on night one seem like I have "tricked" her into sleeping with me. Is it just me being paranoid cos I dont want to lose my new love?
Help!!! O - Guys, input as well, but dont just put stupid comments. I do need help like now!
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Reply 1
try asking her.
MB
MB
Reply 6
Daveo
When I come visit I'll sleep on the floor.
HAHAH! So subtle I love it
Reply 11
being honest, although i am still a virgin, i would be hurt and a bit afraid if someone suggested on the first night to sleep together.
however, by agreeing to stay round yours sleeping together is sort of implied by this- as i am not ready to have sex, if my bf asked me to stay over, i'd say no im not ready.
i think, just get snuggly near bed time, and if she moves aay, then she isnt ready. if she comes on to u, then go for it. but i'd take the fact shes agreeing to stay over as likely she'll want to have sex.
however, by agreeing to stay round yours sleeping together is sort of implied by this- as i am not ready to have sex, if my bf asked me to stay over, i'd say no im not ready.
i think, just get snuggly near bed time, and if she moves aay, then she isnt ready. if she comes on to u, then go for it. but i'd take the fact shes agreeing to stay over as likely she'll want to have sex.
Reply 12
ditzy blonde
Mod lovin'?!
Mod lovin'?!
I hate threads like this they are stopping me from doing my week and I only have three weeks left!
I think we can safely say that Blissy can get her coat
Reply 14
Sorry I am just winding the mods up. I'll get back to my work. 
Reply 17
lol
try laying on the bed with her watching t.v or talking, what happens happens.
try laying on the bed with her watching t.v or talking, what happens happens.
Dude, by the looks of it, you are sorted...
but like just chill, go with the flow, if she looks cool with it.. carry on.. just dont go further if she's giving obvious signals that she doesnt want to go further.. take ur time... and golden rule (actually everyone knows it): just Dont f**k it up.. i know it sounds obvious.. just dont get to the point where u look back and regret something stupid u done...
but like just chill, go with the flow, if she looks cool with it.. carry on.. just dont go further if she's giving obvious signals that she doesnt want to go further.. take ur time... and golden rule (actually everyone knows it): just Dont f**k it up.. i know it sounds obvious.. just dont get to the point where u look back and regret something stupid u done...
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